Selena Gomez, 27, is confirming she’s single and ready to mingle! “I’ve been super, super single for two years and I want to know what the love will look like next for me,” the singer spilled on the Zach Sang Show Oct. 25. The two-year timeline pretty much adds up with when she last split with Justin Bieber, 25, in March 2018. “But I never want to lose the sense of love that I imagine it to be. I don’t want to get jaded or bitter from anything. I believe that it exists and I’m happy waiting for that for however long that takes because we’re gonna be like doing this forever. It’s just going to keep happening until we’re out.” The pair had a tumultuous on-again, off-again relationship dating back to 2010, which is seemingly the inspiration behind her fire singles “Lose You To Love Me” and “Look At Her Now.”
The former Wizards of Waverly Place star didn’t shy away from opening up about her experience about love, and wants other young women to relate to her experience. “You’re in a phase of life where you experience love for the first time and I think that can just be just a little toxic,” Selena continued, without naming any names. “You have this codependency that you think is love and then you have this addiction to the passion and the frustration with each other that you think, ‘Oh, that’s love,’ or fighting or doing all this stuff, ‘Oh that’s love,’ and I believed that for a long time.”
Selena has previously written about her relationship with The Bieb, and confirmed that her defiant 2014 single “The Heart Wants What It Wants” was indeed about their romance. Right before getting back together with Justin for a final try at romance in Oct. 2017, Selena dated The Weeknd, 29, for nearly a year and even attended the Met Gala with him.
When it comes to her next relationship, though, Selena is more than certain about what she wants. “I want it to be real and I don’t want it to be codependent or messy or lack of communication,” she continued. “I think you know when you get older, you find people that are actually right for you, that are actually on the same wavelength.” Selena, who revealed she wrote “Lose You To Love Me” over a year ago, unmistakably references her last break-up with Justin. “In two months, you replaced us,” she sings in the moody track — which fits right in with the timeline of Jelena’s March 2018 break-up and Justin re-uniting with his now-wife Hailey Baldwin, 22, in June 2018.
“I just think I would do so many things differently and I think it starts with just being very transparent,” Selena also said. “I don’t have room to kind of buffer things that I need or that I want and I think girls can sometimes be scared of that because what we’re viewed as — crazy or needy or overthinking things and dramatic — and I understand sometimes, but I love being a girl and I love having the emotions I have and falling super deep and then being passionate. It’s just about containing it. It’s just channeling it in the right areas.”
