The Real Housewives of Salt Lake City has been full of salty comments in its freshman season! But Jen Shah’s, 47, latest diss towards cast member Mary Cosby took things to a whole new level, as she called Mary a “Grandfather M-Effer” and it has cast member Heather Gay, 48, feeling a bit queasy. “It happened and it was just — It made me sick,” Heather told HollywoodLife EXCLUSIVELY during an episode of TVTalk on Instagram Live on Dec. 3. “It made me sad because — Someone says that and it’s not untrue, but it’s also unkind.”
Jen and Mary have been going at it since the first episode of the series when Mary said that Jen smelled like hospital, a smell that she claims to be sensitive to from her own health experiences. This struck a major chord with Jen as her aunt was in the hospital and had just had both her legs amputated. The two tried hashing it out at a party at Jen’s house for cast member Meredith Marks’, 48, birthday, but ultimately, their make-up was very short lived as Jen let Mary have it at a party thrown by fellow ‘wife Whitney Rose, 34.
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But Jen technically isn’t bluffing when it comes to her latest comments. Mary has been quite open about her arranged marriage to her step-grandfather, Robert Cosby Sr. The two have been married for 21 years after she decided to honor her late grandmother’s dying wish for one of her granddaughter to marry her husband. Mary and Robert have one son together, Robert Jr.
Though Heather wasn’t around to actually hear Jen’s comments, she wanted to help the situation at all costs. “When she yelled it, I didn’t hear it, but I heard from everyone else that she just yelled it and so I didn’t have that kind of bucket of water in the face reaction, but I felt the energy and it just went — It shifted,” Heather revealed. “And that was the first time anyone in our group had really turned. Shots fired, as Lisa [Barlow] would say. It’s also horrific and it’s so mixed and you want to just and you know — You just don’t want it to be out there. You want to pull it back and you want to fix it.”
Heather and Jen clearly have a very tight bond as we see on the show, but when asked to pick a side, it was an easy choice for the Beauty Lab + Laser Med Spa owner. “I am always drawn to the underdog and I want to discover more about Mary and I want her to feel safe to express who she is,” Heather said. “and so I feel like Jen feels very safe in expressing who she is and she knows that I love her and I am loyal to her, but you’ll see. It starts to get harder for me to walk that line because it is difficult in a group of friends to take a stand but pledge loyalty to opposing forces. I’m Austria. I am Austria. I am a supplementary, less well known, foreign country. I’m not picking sides. If I were to pick a side, I would pick Mary’s, not out of shade to Jen, but it’s dead. Let’s bury it. When you’re dead, lie down. Now it’s getting so convoluted with intent and what was going on and it could’ve been just a comment that became a wildfire and we have to allow our friends a little bit of leaning against the latitude.”
The Real Housewives of Salt Lake City airs Wednesday nights at 10pm on Bravo.