“I think that men can get overstimulated by having more than one woman in the house,” Dr. Ludwig told HollywoodLife EXCLUSIVELY. “They sexualize that you have a woman that fits a very traditional idea of what a woman is. She’s cleaning the house, she’s taking care of the children. Nannies cater to the family, that is their only job.”[jwplatform TUxrPBx8]
While we can’t know the individual circumstances of Gavin’s reported cheating, Dr. Ludwig illuminated why this is such a frequent occurrence, both in Hollywood and outside of it. “There’s no competing job or goals,” she said. “I think it figures something in a fantasy life. It’s very sexy to see a woman– especially a beautiful woman– taking care of the kids, seemingly having one focus and that is to make their lives easier.”
So, why do the men do it? “It comes down to men thinking they can get away with it,” the doctor told us. “And once they do get away with it, they think they can continue to get away with it. They delude themselves via denial, thinking they’ll never get caught… Or the husband may just like the idea of having a woman for sex and then a separate women he’s married to.”
Dr. Ludwig also explained that, whether or not a husband and nanny relationship can actually work out, depends on how much of it is actually based on that fantasy. “One of the issues is, how real is the relationship, or is it based on a fantasy?” she said. “Is she always going to be ‘the nanny,’ or is her status going to change when she becomes a real woman? Eventually, relationships become more equal. The things that attract you in the beginning are just the facade.”
Do you think men cheat with the nanny as part of a fantasy?
— Casey Mink