Kris Jenner: Enabling Kim Kardashian To Have Sex At 14 Is Irresponsible Parenting

Kris Jenner – have you never heard of the word, “no?” Teenagers are looking for boundaries, not your permission to have sex at 14, along with the gift of birth control.

Kris Jenner – were you trying to be your daughter Kim Kardashian‘s friend, instead of a responsible mother when you agreed that it was OK for a then 14-year-old Kim to have sex with her boyfriend?

Kim revealed in her recent interview with Oprah on the OWN network that she had told you, her mom, that “I want to” have sex with my boyfriend” when she was 14, and you replied, “OK, so this is what we’re gonna do, we’re gonna put you on birth control.”

Now Kris, I do applaud you for having an open enough relationship that your daughter would come to you to talk about her desire to have sex.

But that’s where my applauding ends. As a mother myself of a 15-year-old daughter, I am stunned that you wouldn’t have discouraged your teenager, Kim, from losing her virginity. Fourteen is far too young to be dealing with the intense emotions that having sex with a boyfriend, can arouse. And no, I’m not talking about sexual arousal. We all know about that. Teenage boys and girls are horny, but that doesn’t mean that they are ready to act on their sexual desires.

Teens are still very immature, especially teenage boys. And that means that 14-year-old girls can end up feeling used and abused after a sexual relationship. Their self-esteem can be completely shattered especially if the boy ends up abusing their trust and blabs about their sexual relationship, or even worse, takes and shares illicit photos and videos.

There are so many potential dangers – aside from the most obvious – a teen pregnancy – that saying “no” to Kim, would have been a much more responsible move for you as a mother.

“She was trying to be a pal, not a mom,” agrees Beverly Hills psychotherapist, Dr. Jenn Berman, host of “The Love and Sex Show with Dr. Jenn. “I do question if she’s fulfilling her role as a guide, and her responsibility as a parent.”

Instead of setting up Kim immediately with birth control, you should have had a detailed discussion about what it means to have sex – the responsibilities and the dangers in terms of pregnancy and STDS, points out Dr. Berman. Having sex at 14 truly is like playing with fire, even Kris if you took Kim to see a gynecologist and to get birth control. There were other physical consequences she could have suffered, as well as emotional fallout.

And who’s to say that Kim later shooting a sex tape with her boyfriend Ray J, wasn’t the result of her becoming sexually active at such a young age. By 22, she may have needed the extra thrill of videotaping herself having sex, because normal private sex just wasn’t enough for her.

But bottom line is Kris – you’re a parent. And parents aren’t supposed to be enabling their children to engage in risky behavior. Parents are supposed to show their love by setting boundaries and that includes saying no to activities that could hurt them.

You should have showed Kim you loved her by saying no to sex at 14.

“Ultimately teenagers want boundaries from their parents. Because boundaries to a teenager mean I love you . That’s how they interpret it,” points out psychotherapist, Dr. Gilda Carle of drgilda.com.”No matter what kids say and how much a kid fights, they want their parents to put their foot down and say no.”

Furthermore, Dr. Gilda, the 30-second therapist on Today.com, explains that, when you Kris, said “yes, it’s OK to have sex” to Kim, you sent the message that Kim was ruling the house and that you Kris didn’t need to take charge.

That’s a bad message Kris. And you still have two teen daughters – Kendall, 16, and Kylie, 14, who now will think it’s their right to have teenage sex whenever they feel like it, with your approval.

After all, if it was OK by you for Kim, you can’t now say no to Kendall and Kylie. Are you really comfortable with that?

I sure wouldn’t be.

Kris, I hope you’ve learned from your mistakes and aren’t going to enable your younger daughters to have teen sex too. Otherwise, one of them could end up as a teen mom, and I doubt that you want to be doing THAT reality show!

Bonnie Fuller

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Regardless of what kris had said it would have happened. Kris just made it safer.

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Four years ago when i was in high school girls in my school were sucking guys up in the bathrooms and in the auditorium and having sex in parked cars before school. Teenagers are going to do what they want regardless of parent permission. Who knows if Kris did give her a proper talk or not, but at least she helped prevent pregnancy. I wish some girls at my school would have talked to their mom first, maybe there wouldn’t have been so many young mothers at our school.

Well, honestly, let’s look at it a different way. What 14 year old is going to take their parent’s “No.” seriously? A teenager will do what they want, Kris protected her future from being ruined by an unplanned pregnancy. She didn’t auction her daughter off, by any means. She just put her on the pill because she knew her kid would do what she wanted.

Who are any of you to say that a girl is not ready to have sex simply because of her age? Teenagers have sexual feelings because their bodies are ready to have sex. Their emotional preparedness depends on their upbringing. Seeing as Kim was open and comfortable talking to her mother, it seems like she had been brought up to be emotional mature enough to take that physical step, regardless of her dubious sexual behavior later in life.
I had sex for the first time when I was 14, and I think it was the perfect age. My boyfriend and I had been together for two years, and we really liked each other. There was no pressure involved– we talked about it beforehand and decided together that we were ready. I wish I had talked to my mother too, because it was harder to tell her after the deed had been done. But I wouldn’t have asked her for birth control; my boyfriend and I sought it out and bought it ourselves, because we recognized that responsibility was part of the experience.
was ready. I have yet to make a sex tape or have unwanted children. Kim’s mother knew her best– she must have known Kim was ready too. I’m glad she was comfortable enough with her daughter to support her having a fulfilling sex life.

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