Kristin Cavallari: Saying Men Need Sex More Than Women Is Wrong

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Kristin Cavallari you recently spoke out and said that women need to make time for sex with their men because they ‘need it.’ Well that’s a very antiquated way of thinking because women need it too and it should be a 50/50 effort! This is why I totally don’t agree with you.

Kristin Cavallari, 28, saying that women need to burn candles and have sex with their men to have a happy and healthy relationship is not the message you should be sending to women. I admire your ability to juggle being a wife to NFL star Jay Cutler and mother to your two sons, Camden, 3, and 16-month-old Jaxon and be pregnant with your third. But as a working, newly married 29-year-old woman, who is a mom [to three animals], I find it ridiculous that you’re preaching about sex. Let me start by saying I was a huge fan of Laguna Beach and The Hills so I’m disappointed to hear this from someone I assumed had a more feminist view point. Yes, it is important that couples keep the physical attraction and excitement alive in a relationship, especially a marriage. But as someone who works 12 hour days, races home to cook, cover events, clean the house, and do laundry, it’s a miracle if I even wash my face before my head hits the pillow at 11pm. So to hear you telling women that they need to keep their men happy by having sex is not only annoying, it’s antiquated.

You recently said the following on Cricket’s Circle blog: “It’s so important to make time for each other, even if it’s just waiting to eat dinner after the kids go to bed. And even if it’s takeout, light a candle and make an effort to connect. Also, you gotta have sex — men need it, and it’s important for the relationship. It doesn’t have to be all the time, but you have to get it in there sometimes!”

The only thing you said in there that is true is that it “doesn’t have to be all the time,” because you’re right, it doesn’t. Most couples I know are so exhausted trying to work, take care of their families and maintain a household, that they don’t even have sex on the brain and that’s okay! Putting pressure on women to please their men is so old school. Why should I have to come home and burn candles and seduce my husband? Why shouldn’t it be that he cooks for me and massages my back? It’s not just men who “need it” as you put it. Women want sex and need it to.

I realize you have two boys, one on the way, a line of shoes for Chinese Laundry, a jewelry collection, a book coming out and a lifestyle app and it’s amazing that you and Jay are able to go at it like rabbits. But I can tell you that I am not failing my husband or my marriage if sex isn’t my number one priority. I can also tell you that most women say being able to have sex once a week is quite a feat, especially if kids are involved. I think that this day in age women have enough pressures that they don’t need a celebrity telling them how important sex is and how much their man needs it. Maybe next time tell men how they should be adoring their wives and romancing them because it’s a two-way street. A little cuddling and a good movie can go a long way.

HollywoodLifers, do you think sex is important for a relationship?

— Chloe Melas