Rob, you’ve just proved one more time that you are an impressive human being. Even though you really could date any woman you want after Kristen’s transgression, you’ve chosen NOT to hurt your ex.
Robert Pattinson, You Are A Free Man
That’s right — you have the right to break the “girl code.” The “girl code” compromises that group of unwritten rules that 95% of the female population agrees, should be adhered to. And one of those key “girl code” rules is that a woman shouldn’t date one of her good friends’ exes.
Similarly, it’s considered extremely bad form for a guy to date his ex’s friends.
Now Rob, it appeared that you weren’t interested in adhering to the code, when you started dating actress, Riley Keough. Not only had she become friends with Kristen when they both starred in 21010’s The Runaways, but she and Kristen had remained friends. In fact, such good friends that Riley was invited and attending Kristen’s birthday party on June 22, which isn’t exactly that long ago.
So when you broke up with KStew after a final blowout, and then started seeing Riley a few weeks later, it was surprising. After all, when you had the choice of any woman in the world, to start seeing — and believe me, millions of women were at your beck and call — why chose someone who was close to Kristen?
Being a guy, and let’s face it — guys tend to be less sensitive about these things than women — I can see that you probably just thought, ‘well, I kind of like Riley, I’m single, so I’ll ask her out.’
Your Situation With Kristen Is Different Than Others
It probably never occurred to you that you might be crossing some invisible line that exists among women, and that dating Riley might be especially hurtful to her versus you seeing someone who was completely out of your circle of friends.
And let’s face it Rob, a lot of people — even women — would say that Kristen’s deeply regretted cheating episode, nevertheless, dissolved her from receiving any consideration from you on the dating front. After all, you were the injured party and thus all “normal” rules wouldn’t apply.
I have to admit that I’m in that camp. After the public heartbreak you endured, you’re entitled to date any single woman, in my opinion.
But your situation IS complicated because Kristen was also so publicly and privately remorseful, and you two managed to put your relationship back together for a few months, and had some very happy times together again. You obviously forgave her … to a degree. So the that may have put the “girl code rule”, back in force, in some women’s minds.
Kristen however, did accept that you were seeing with Riley, without complaint, even though she was incredibly sad and depressed after the split. We heard from sources close to her that she blamed only herself and her cheating for the breakup.
She was only surprised by the suddenness and completeness of the split — since you did cut off seeing her, calling and texting her, completely.
You Don’t Owe Kristen, But It’s Nice You’re Showing Respect
Nevertheless, she abided by your obvious decision to cut off all contact and didn’t reach out. It also seemed that she consciously or unconsciously agreed that you were entitled to date Riley, even though she had been her friend.
“In this specific case, Robert owes Kristin nothing. She made the misstep that ended their relationship and he is free to find happiness wherever he can,” believes relationship expert from WPLJ radio, Cooper Lawrence.
Despite my and Cooper’s opinion, you’ve now decided to cool your jets with Riley, a source has told HollywoodLife.com exclusively.
“He doesn’t want to be ‘that guy.’ He doesn’t want the image of him being that he is stealing her friend in the wake of the relationship with Kristen,” the insider explains. “He loved Kristen and always will look at her fondly, but he doesn’t want to be defined by her, and by dating Riley it would only continue the link to Kristen.”
Being Honest With Kristen Was The Right Thing To Do
Rob, you finally saw and discussed all this with Kristen when you went over to her place over the weekend of August 2nd, and had your first face-to-face since the split.
Plus, you surprisingly went above and beyond, taking a thoughtful step forward when you very sweetly spoke to Kristen. “He reassured her that he wasn’t going to date her friends and make things more awkward between them, because the breakup is and has been awkward enough,” the source told us.
This just tells me Rob, what a stellar and respectful guy you are. Very few men would have the sensitivity to, #1, have had this discussion with their ex, and #2, make this decision and commitment to your ex, not to hurt her more. And especially after she gave you so much pain.
“This just shows what a nice, sensitive, caring guy he is. Any woman would be lucky to have him in their corner,” agrees celebrity relationship expert, Dr. Gilda Carle, 30-second therapist of Today.com.
“You know when you’re broken up, you’re free to date anyone. However, a classy way to behave is to not date your exes’ friends.”
So Rob, there you have it, and Kristen knows it, too. You were a wonderful boyfriend, but now you’re being an A-plus ex. Do you agree HollywoodLifers? Let me know! Would love to hear your thoughts.