Halle Berry: Separating Your Daughter Nahla From Her Father Is Irresponsible

Mon, August 20, 2012 7:35pm EST by 34 Comments
Halle Berry Custody Battle
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Halle is going to court to try and move Nahla to Paris even though it means ripping her away from her father Garbriel Aubrey. Here’s why that’s wrong!

Halle Berry has been engaging in a fierce custody battle with her ex Gabriel Aubry over their daughter Nahla Aubry, 4. Halle wants to move to France to be with her fiance, Olivier Martinez, but alleges that Paris is a safer place for celebrity children and is further away from the aggressive American paparazzi.

However, moving her daughter to across the world is more of a vindictive parenting move than a safety concern.

Ever since Halle split from Gabriel, she has been pitting her daughter against him, and trying to make moves to one-up him as a parent.

Last summer, she accused her model ex of being a neglectful parent, and slapped him with a dossier that outlined everything he allegedly did to put their daughter at risk!

That’s not all — later that year, she filed papers to hold Gabriel in contempt for violating their custody agreement, although the exact reasoning was never really revealed.

Now Halle wants to a custody agreement so she can move Nahla to Paris, where they would live with Halle’s fiance — even though it would tear the little girl away from her father, who desperately wants regular visitation with his daughter.

Blaming The Paparazzi

Halle alleges that the paparazzi in Los Angeles is too aggressive, and her daughter would be safer in France. But isn’t being near her dad more important than a few nosey photographers?

Besides, it’s not like Halle is Kate Middleton or even a Kardashian sister — claims of paparazzi “stalking” seem a bit over-exaggerated. Sure it’s annoying, but hire a body guard — regular visitations for Nahla and Gabriel should be a priority.

It sounds more like the Monster’s Ball actress is using photographers as another excuse to yet again take a jab at her ex. But intentionally putting her innocent daughter in the middle of such an aggressive feud is not only immature, but also unhealthy.

Expert Opinion

“Nahla is growing up in unique circumstances [by] being the daughter of someone so famous, but to add this unecessary distance between she and her father is dangerous,” Dr. Phil Dembo, child and parenting expert, told HollywoodLife.com EXCLUSIVELY.

Because Nahla is so young, this forced separation can cause severe anguish and emotional strain.

“The deep rooted pain and struggle with self worth a child grows up with is huge when they know a parent chose not to be with them or be apart of their life,” Dr. Phil Dembo continued. “For Nahla, the same dynamic in her growth may be present. But for her, its her mother who is forcing the separation and abandonment.”

“Nahla, like all children, need to have daily and weekly rituals that include both parents if at all possible,” he insisted. “Divorce challenges that need as it is, but moving to France makes it almost impossible.”

If Halle were really looking out for her daughter, she would compromise and stay in Los Angeles, or at least the United States. Then she could travel to France herself while Nahla had visitation with her father Gabriel

What do YOU think HollyMoms? Should Halle be able to move to France with her daughter?

– Christina Stiehl

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  3. Halle Berry To Pay Ex Gabriel Aubry $20K A Month In Child Support

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gem

Posted at 5:07 PM on September 25, 2012  

She should of stuck with what she said on the oprah winfey show. She should of got a sperm donor or just some guy and got him to sign his rights away. She is too big to have a baby daddy.

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Lucille7777

Posted at 3:58 PM on November 14, 2012  

Agreed.

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ThaO.G.UncleE

Posted at 3:26 AM on August 27, 2012  

In short when they were together he was God, loving, nurturing, heaven sent, she was the luckiest woman alive, her child has the best father and she sang his praises from every mountain top. Paps are all over them and she loved it, she alerts them so as to put more shine on their blistfully loving relationship, her beautiful child with the golden mane……life was wonderful.

He tells her he wants out of the relationship because he’s attracted to younger women and doesn’t want to cheat on her and they go their separate ways. Remember even after the initial break up she said publicly they’ll both work on making sure that custody arrangements don’t affect their child, that Gabe’s a loving father, a good man and their daughter loves him to death. Both had the paps clicking away at them when each had their time with their daughter and Halle was fine with it not running from them, cursing them or showing any signs of concern for their safety.

Halle hooks up with co-star on location overseas and decides she can’t live without him so
suddenly………………..

1. Gabe is crazy, racist, has anger issues, a danger to HER child.
2. The paps are scary and she has to move around the world to protect Her child from them..

If I were being put through what he’s being put through by my ex who has unlimited resources, nannies spying, lying while on her payroll,was attempting to remove me from my child’s life ( make no mistake that’s what shes trying to do)…………….I’d be angry too!

I don’t see Tom & Katie having to move out of the country for the safety of their child Suri. Ben and Jennifer, Brad and Angelina, Jay Z and Beyonce and so many others aren’t so fearful of the paps they have to flee to another country…..nope just Halle….and just conveniently right after she meets her next Mr. Right. Halle is spiteful and concerned only with Halle……because had he not told her he wanted to leave there’s no doubt we’d still be hearing about how wonderful he is and what a fantastic father he is yada, yada, yada!

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grownup

Posted at 2:27 AM on October 10, 2012  

Wow, do you know them personally. Let’s be adults here. Things change in a relationship and there are two sides to every story. It doesn’t matter what you or I think, that’s what the court system is for. I think you should probably reserve judgement. I’m sure there are issues in this case that the public is simply not aware of. Truly, it’s nobody’s business what’s going on in this case. This is simply a family matter……

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jlove

Posted at 2:33 PM on August 23, 2012  

He makes over 200,00 a year modelling. Compared to halle’s 210 million a film he’s a scrub. FYI child support is based on BOTH parents income, which is why he gets so much money. Its barely afraction of her income. Regardless of income a child deserves both parents… They made a child together and both have rights. If he wanted to move to Canada with the child people would be outraged. She chose him to father her child, she has to live with it…

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gmfuhlman

Posted at 3:44 PM on August 23, 2012  

I think you are just another one to the hater, because he doesn’t make that kind of money. Plus no judge will ever give him full custody of their daughter. He has so many issue that he is suppose to be working on.

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Betsy

Posted at 5:58 PM on August 23, 2012  

Hi Friend,

I told you before, they skip over things like his psychological problems! They are trying to convince people that just because a man fathers a chiild that everything else should be discarded in the interest of his having visitation rights. How quickly have they forgotten about Susan Powell and her two sons who were visiting with their father when he blew up the house. They forget how many people are denied visitation rights because of these same types of problems. Because quite frankly I am wondering if the report indicates that the child cannot be left in his custody, what level of visitation can he have? Presently, I believe he has a monitored level of visitation, which ought to tell a reasonable person something. If your visits with your own child require supervision, then you have some real problems. That is what bothers me the most about these people They are screaming at the top of their lungs for this man to have visitation rights, and I don’t diisagree that he should have some, but the notion that he is some dedicated, valiant, hardworking father, is just nonsense that is put forth in virtually every post they make. There are people, men and women, who have had to work two and three jobs to take care of their children. And they ask what does his income have to do with it? The average income in this country for a household is well under the $200,000 that the young lady quoted. So why would a person need additional money to care for a child that you don’t even have custody of? In reality, you are only taking care of yourself. I believe it is just what the real newspapers call it, “alimony”! He couldn’t get it any other way. After his divorce from Halle Berry, Benet’s worth was $28 million dollars, and I am willing to bet you that virtually every dime of it came from Halle Berry. The reason is, the Net worth inquiry does not list his worth prior to the divorce. So this one figures since he can’t get that because she had better sense than to marry him, he is getting as much as he can.

 
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gmfuhlman

Posted at 6:42 PM on August 23, 2012  

Betsy, I would have to agree with you totally. What I am so surpise about is when she gets married they expect her to just up and leave their daughter here not.. What people don’t understand is Olivier isn’t a US citizen. So when they aren’t working they will live in his country.

 
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Betsy

Posted at 9:26 PM on August 23, 2012  

As usual, you are right. These people are delusional if they think that a court is going to give this man custody of this child. Particularly since the report speciically recommends against it. It is doubtful that the judge would cherry-pick, but who knows. My feeling is that he is just giving each of them their fair hearing and he is going to go with the report from the psychologist. It would be very unusual for a judge to disregard all the working documents and the like that resulted in these recommendations. Especially the one dealing with custody. That would make the state responsible for anything that happens to the child while in the father’s custody. There are only too many cases where judges gave a troubled parent custody to have them do something horrible to a child. I don’t know that he has the kind of problem that could lead to something that bad, of course when you are dealing with sealed documents to hide things like that you just don’t know, but he obviously has issues. And you are right again about them having the right to live where ever they want when they are not working. I mean these actors travel all over the world during their down time, and these folks should have the same right. Besides, the state is already on the hook for paying Jaycee Dugard because an official failed to follow guidelines. I know you are like me and a lot of other people who want this thing to hurry up and be over.

 
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Betsy

Posted at 8:43 PM on August 24, 2012  

Oops, meant to say a good number of the websites are out of Australia. Our citizens are the ones saying this hateful stuff, and they are either friends of the father or folks infatuated with a blonde haired, handsome, pampered boy. Take for example the person who wrote this article. She must really be in love with him!

 
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d.harris

Posted at 3:58 PM on August 21, 2012  

@ kate,i think you have to go and do your homework properly over this matter.you are just a total hater.if you are a real woman you will understand how this works.how can you say that halle is unstable in what manner?.maybe you are one of those people who totally believe what they read from the press.and i have to also say that this article is one sided and unfair.people should have the right to live where they want to live.since this whole thing started,it was not halle that is being vindictive but, gebriel. i hope they find their way at the end of the day.

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gmfuhlman

Posted at 8:05 PM on August 21, 2012  

You so very right,it was her X who start all of this. After he realize that Halle,had move on,plus she decided to no longer let him stay rent free in one of her homes. That is what made him mad…he is very jealouse of what Halle has, Even when she has work real hard for what she has.

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Betsy

Posted at 2:34 AM on August 23, 2012  

You are right. Good to see common sense being displayed!

 
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Alison Valery

Posted at 9:31 AM on August 21, 2012  

Some people should not have children, pertaining to Halle Berry. What is she teaching her daughter with all this rage against her ex-husband the male figure in her daughter’s life, what a sorry woman it’s no wonder all of her other marraige’s failed. All of her other relationships ended in failure so who’s to say her relationship with the guy who she is moving to France with isn’t going to fail also, what then? If she has successfully cut off her daughter’s relationship with her real dad now what, no male figure, oh yes here comes another strange man in her daughter’s life. The state needs to give custody to Gabriel Audry he is the better parent.

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Renee

Posted at 12:51 PM on August 21, 2012  

Aubry is the better parent according to who? Halle haters? Aubry would not be so intersested in being the daddy if he was not getting paid
nearly a quarter of a million per year.

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Lucille7777

Posted at 4:02 PM on November 14, 2012  

Halle was never married to Gabriel Aubry.

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Renee

Posted at 8:12 AM on August 21, 2012  

People have forgotten that Aubry lives off of the child support that he receives and that it would not be a hardship for him to relocate or visit his daughter given that he takes in (tax free) more money in one month that many people earn in a year. Aubry comes off as controlling, vindictive and a man who has emotional problems most likely due to the fact that his mother was not in his life. Aubry is likely punishing Halle because she left just like his mother did. He is not perfect and people want this man to be the victim which he is not. Actually,Aubry is a money hungry user.

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magdalana

Posted at 12:28 PM on August 21, 2012  

Nobody was talking about how Aubry gets his money. He was/is a big time model and did many things which earned him alot of money (way before he met Halle)!!! You really think Halle would have dated him much less had a baby with him if he had no money!????????? I don’t think so!!!!
The point is Aubrey has alot of money without Halle and THE MOST IMPORTANT PART IS HE IS THE BABY’S FATHER… SHE NEEDS TO STOP HER SHEEE@@@t

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Renee

Posted at 12:49 PM on August 21, 2012  

What does a big time former model need with so much extra money?

 
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Betsy

Posted at 7:55 AM on August 22, 2012  

Magdalana,

Gabriel doesn’t have a thing. How many successful men in any line of work do you know other than Mr. Aubry who go into court and ask a judge to require their former girlfriends to give them child support for a kid they don’t even take care of? This is a part of the legal issue that if she loses I would take as far as the U. S. Supreme Court. Because although I am not a believer in most things that come out of there, in its present state, and I am not a fan, I cannot see Justices Scalia, Roberts nor even the more liberal women voting to give a nonworking man child support. This is a phenomenon only available in the state of California. There would be no other state in this Union where I believe such a thing would have even been possible In the state of New York, they would have run him out of the courthouse. In the south, they would have been shooting at him, and up in the great northwest he would have been laughed out of town. No, this one belongs solely to California, and with some of the things you love-sick females are spouting, no wonder!

 
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Betsy

Posted at 6:53 AM on August 22, 2012  

Renee,

It is so good to hear from someone who is the voice of reason. I am glad to see that there are some of us who are speaking up for this woman as she has been beaten-up by these crazies who take over websites spewing the most horrid lies I have ever heard leveled against an individual. They spend their time ranting about how bad a person this woman is while drooling over the sainthood of this no good, worthless, clotheshorse of a man. They talk about what a big modeling career he has. Yet, he is sitting waiting on those checks to come in from Halle Berry to live. I bet you Olivier Martinez won’t be putting up with paying that much longer, as this man travels the globe workiing and as a husband and new father he is not going to sit still and watch his wife shell out her money to a deadbeat! And before the liars even bother, Mr. Martinez is a millionaire many times over, unlike their fellow. But this doesn’t seem to bother them. That bunch has an explanation for everything. I hazzard to guess exactly which phychosis they suffer from the most, but make no mistake about it, they are all crazy, with a capital “C”. Now I am thinking that the attorney for Mr. Aubry is as delusional as the rest of them. Trying to offer up a scenario about Halle Berry being killed like Princess Diana. Like the rest of the world doesn’t know that France changed their laws about paparazzi stalkers after the accident that caused the Princess’ death. What worries me is that if these people are all parents, what will their children be like? Scares the hell out of me! The next generation of kooks!

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gmfuhlman

Posted at 4:24 PM on August 22, 2012  

I so agree with every point that you made!!!

 
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Sam

Posted at 10:22 PM on August 20, 2012  

I think France would be a great pkace to grow up. But her father is here and just enrolll Nahala in the same school suri is going to. They learn french, spanish, and english. Win, win.

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Betsy

Posted at 12:24 AM on August 21, 2012  

Sam, I think that you may have something here! I have long thought that they, she and Olivier, should relocate to New York. There are plenty of other stars who call that city home and they do not seem to have the same degree of problems with the paparazzi. Not to say that there are probably not issues with them, but not to the degree in LA. The state better do something about this problem, because there are simply too many entertainers who have similar problems. I am surprised that they don’t issue strict guidelines to the photographers like making it mandadory that they stay at least 100 feet away from these people. Thanks for your imput. Again, rather insightful.

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Olivier

Posted at 8:47 PM on August 20, 2012  

Wow and people thought that Katie and Tom had a bad custody.. I can see Gabriel giving full custody to Halle…after all Olivier will get parental rights once they are married!

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Kate

Posted at 12:24 AM on August 21, 2012  

Good custody is both parents putting aside their differences to raise a child in peace…for the the total sake of the child.

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jennifer

Posted at 8:41 AM on August 21, 2012  

this is so true!

 
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Betsy

Posted at 8:16 PM on August 20, 2012  

I a troubled by the fact that you do not address who is the better parent for this child. You seem to be fixated on this man. I don’t think that this woman should take her child to live permnently out of this country, but I am not about to make this guy out to be some type of victim, either; which is what you are doing. These people shoud try to settle this matter, but how do you know that she is the party who is unwilling to do so. You suppose an awful lot, but putting forth an argument that all of this is vindictive behavior, and perhaps it is, but I do not suppose anything in a matter such as this. You and your organization have put forth a premise that seems that a lot of people are willing to buy into. I am just not that gullable. Asking any doctor to give a hypothetical is always prefaced with the statment…”I have never interviewed the…, but your article doesn’t even provide you cover with that disclaimer. You are supposed to stick to the facts when writing a story, not give a biased view of the information. Oh, wait, I forgot that most of you .gossip types never went to journalism school. If you hiad, you would know that you never take the side of the parties in an argument, you just report the news. Sorry, but this is pure nonesense, meant to stir the pot! My hope is that an agreement will be reached where the mother retains total custody of her child with visitation rights for the father here in the U.S, but that he does not get to have any impact on where she and her family live or where and when she can work. She should be allowed to have a home in another country if she so wishes as long as she does not reside there more than a third of the year and does not enroll her child there. Let us all hope that this matter is concluded as expeditiously as possible.

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gmfuhlman

Posted at 9:52 PM on August 20, 2012  

I so agree with you,why does it seen that she can’t have a life unless her x can tell her where to live,and where to work. She had a job in NY,and her X fought her about taking their there for two weeks. Every job that she has had to pay for him to take carre of their own daughter. Come on people,don’t believe everything you read from these sites.

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Kate

Posted at 12:22 AM on August 21, 2012  

Halle is welcome to have a “life” as you state. When you have children that comes with responsibility. Your life must consider what is in the interest of the child and include both the mother and father. gabriel is a committed, involved father. It is not just about “Halle”. It is about a child, a balanced childhood and upbringing involves co-parenting and the parents co-operating to the fullest as to not traumatize or damage the child. Halle has chosen her “glamourous” “out there” personality…and chooses to attrack the paps. There are many, many celebrities who have and are raising children in relatively normal environments. Halle could do that also. But she loves to preen in her micro bikini on the beach with her child.

 
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Betsy

Posted at 12:49 AM on August 21, 2012  

Did you see that comment from the woman by the name of Kate? I wanted to answer her, but there was no reply indicator available. She appears to be one of those cases I refer to that work the net writing derrogative things about Ms. Berry. She finds this woman’s lifestyle to be a problem, but the fact that Mr. Aubry follows women into public bathrooms probably doesn’t cause her a minute’s pause. What does Halle Berry wearing a bikini on a private beach have to do with the paparazzi chasing entertainers from the time they step outside their homes until they close the doors for night? And if I here one more story about what a great father this guy is, I’m going to throw-up. If he’s so great a dad, why is it that the evaluation says that the child cannot be in his custody, and what are those “personal issues” that prevent that from happening? They skip over stuff like that. See, because it is a fix or something by Halle. These are dangerous people. Anybody who can talk themselves into believing that “bad word” needs psychiatric help, and BAD. I am willing to bet you that the only income that this man has is from the $20,0000 he is supposed to get from her each month. My hope is that one of the first things that the judge does is rescind that order. If Kate is so interested in good parenting, then the first thing good parents do is go to work for their children! They don’t depend on other people to take care of children they brought into the world. This fellow just wants to cause problems in this woman’s life. Finally, there are many men in this world who would rather die than go into any public forum and say bad things about the mother of their children, regardless of how their relationship might have ended. But Mr. Aubry doesn’t seem to mind, and what he won’t do himself, it looks like he has any number of infatuated females or kool-aid drinking groupies willing to take up the sword and march head on to do it for him. They call this woman “skank”, which is a lie; say her career is “washed-up,” which is another lie as even the critics seem to love Coud Atlas; and say every demening thing they can. Yet they preach the virtues of good parenting. What about trying to be a decent human being first, then good parenting should follow automatically!

 
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Kate

Posted at 12:25 AM on August 21, 2012  

The better parent is likely the father as Halle is rather unstable

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Betsy

Posted at 12:52 AM on August 21, 2012  

Kate, I hope you read my reply above, because it is especially for you. At the time I could not get to your Reply button. Please feel free to respond, as I love an exchange!

 
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Betsy

Posted at 1:07 AM on August 21, 2012  

Did you see that comment from the woman by the name of Kate? I wanted to answer her, but there was no reply indicator available. She appears to be one of those cases I refer to that work the net writing derrogative things about Ms. Berry. She finds this woman’s lifestyle to be a problem, but the fact that Mr. Aubry follows women into public bathrooms probably doesn’t cause her a minute’s pause. What does Halle Berry wearing a bikini on a private beach have to do with the paparazzi chasing entertainers from the time they step outside their homes until they close the doors for night? And if I here one more story about what a great father this guy is, I’m going to throw-up. If he’s so great a dad, why is it that the evaluation says that the child cannot be in his custody, and what are those “personal issues” that prevent that from happening? They skip over stuff like that. See, because it is a fix or something by Halle. These are dangerous people. Anybody who can talk themselves into believing that “bad word” needs psychiatric help, and BAD. I am willing to bet you that the only income that this man has is from the $20,0000 he is supposed to get from her each month. My hope is that one of the first things that the judge does is rescind that order. If Kate is so interested in good parenting, then the first thing good parents do is go to work for their children! They don’t depend on other people to take care of children they brought into the world. This fellow just wants to cause problems in this woman’s life. Finally, there are many men in this world who would rather die than go into any public forum and say bad things about the mother of their children, regardless of how their relationship might have ended. But Mr. Aubry doesn’t seem to mind, and what he won’t do himself, it looks like he has any number of infatuated females or kool-aid drinking groupies willing to take up the sword and march head on to do it for him. They call this woman “skank”, which is a lie; say her career is “washed-up,” which is another lie as even the critics seem to love Coud Atlas; and say every demening thing they can. Yet they preach the virtues of good parenting. What about trying to be a decent human being first, then good parenting should follow automatically!

 
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