Kristin Cavallari & Jay Cutler: What Went Wrong In Their Marriage

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Kristin Cavallari, 33, and Jay Cutler, 36, shocked the world with their sudden split — but sources close to the couple aren’t surprised. “Kristin and Jay are just two totally different people and this really shouldn’t come as a surprise to anyone,” an insider spills to HollywoodLife EXCLUSIVELY. “Kristin has talked about [her relationship struggles] on Very Cavallari a lot — she meant everything she said there and kept it very real. She was not happy for awhile,” they added, noting that the couple “both came to the decision and it wasn’t one sided.”

Kristin and Jay recently got stuck in the Bahamas with their three adorable kids Camden, 7, Jaxon, 5, Saylor, 4, and close friends — but it turns out the tropical weeks-long quarantine spot didn’t influence their decision. “The Bahamas trip was always planned and had nothing to do with this and was not a last ditch effort to save their marriage,” a second source confirmed. “This split a long time coming. The relationship had stalled and they have tried working it out but just realized they’re better off not together,” they also said.

Although the pair have been together for 10 years and married for nearly seven — Jay’s 2017 retirement from the NFL also played a factor, particularly as the couple had plenty  of space during the on-seasons. “Jay has really missed being in the NFL….One of the main reasons that Jay and Kristen worked was because they were out of each other’s hair just as much as they were in it and now that he is retired and has more time on his hands it became more of a situation where they hung out all the time and then he would do the reality show,” a third source noted, adding that he still has “love” for the former Laguna Beach star. “Cameras in his life wasn’t something he enjoyed and it put a strain that he couldn’t come back from. He has lots of love for her still and he is an amazing father so they will always be in each other’s lives, just not romantically. There has been some disconnect ever since he retired,” they dished.

The Very Cavallari stars took to Instagram on Sunday, April 26 to announce the end of their six year marriage. “With great sadness, after 10 years together we have come to a loving conclusion to get a divorce,” the Uncommon James designer star captioned a sweet vacation snap of the pair. “We have nothing but love and respect for one another and are deeply grateful for the years shared, memories made, and the children we are so proud of. This is just the situation of two people growing apart. We ask everyone to respect our privacy as we navigate this difficult time within our family,” she also wrote.

Jay echoed her sentiment in a post of his own. “With great sadness after 10 years together we have come to a loving conclusion to get a divorce,” the retired NFL star wrote, posting a gorgeous black-and-white photo of the couple. “We have nothing but love and respect for one another and are deeply grateful for the years shared, memories made, and the children we are so proud of. This is just the situation of two people growing apart. We ask everyone to respect our privacy as we navigate this difficult time within our family,” Jay also penned.