Having sex for the first time with someone new is always a little uncomfortable, but it doesn’t have to be TOTALLY awkward! Here are some tips (straight from a relationship expert!) to help you ease on into getting intimate with a new partner.
There’s no getting around it: Even when you have insane physical and emotional chemistry with someone, being intimate with them for the first time can have its awkward moments. After all, you don’t know what to expect, and every partner is different than the last! Well, ladies, if you’re feeling really uncomfortable about having sex with someone new, we’re here to help with some advice from dating expert, Brooke Lewis. “The key is knowing yourself, your needs and what brings out the best in you,” Brooke explained to HollywoodLife.com EXCLUSIVELY. “Then, take the time to learn what your partner likes and needs…then, combine the two! I will emphasize that the best preparation is time and communication. Pay attention to your partner’s personal preferences and communicate what you enjoy.”
Of course, Brooke pointed out, there’s nothing wrong with a casual hookup, either, which means “time and communication” may not be possible. However, ladies, that doesn’t mean we have to be treated like dirt, either! “Let your partner “show up” for you,” Brooke urged. “Enjoy the newness and excitement when you meet someone you have awesome chemistry with! You want to make sure you are choosing a relationship or partner who brings out the best in you.” It’s imperative to make sure you’re enjoying the person you’re with, and things are bound to be less awkward!
Brooke’s most important piece of advice, though? “Clean the slate and open your heart,” she said. “I realize it may be challenging, as there are no guarantees your heart will not be broken, but remember: Taking a risk in love can bring a reward beyond anything (or anyone) we’ve experienced before!” Go into your first time with someone new with an open mind and heart, and you never know what could happen, right!? Don’t overthink it, ladies!
And, remember, if you think you’re ready to be intimate with someone new, but eventually realize that’s not the case, do NOT be afraid to let them know. “I think you can respectfully bow out by sharing that you’re ust not ready to be intimate with anyone at this time,” Brooke admitted. “If this person cares about your feelings and wants to grow into a relationship with you, he/she will support you and wait.” Being open about your feelings is key to feeling comfortable with a new person, even if the hookup is super casual!it!) in our pursuit. Remember, taking a RISK in LOVE can bring a REWARD beyond anything (or, anyone) we have experienced before!
HollywoodLifers, what is YOUR advice for moving on with a new partner for the first time?