Stay bold and take time for yourself! ‘Chicago P.D.’ star Sophia Bush has partnered up with Listerine for a new Unlock Your Bold campaign. HollywoodLife.com chatted EXCLUSIVELY with Sophia about the importance of taking small moments to refocus, not ‘getting lost’ in social media, and more.
Do you think taking the time for these small moments has helped you with your work and those grueling days on set? You deal with some dramatic stuff on your show [Chicago P.D.]. Do you think time away helps you sort of helps you find your focus?
Sophia Bush: Yeah. I have to take breathers. Otherwise, it truly does become insurmountable. And it’s interesting, my technical advisor on the show said something to me about it. He’s been a Chicago police officer for 30 years and he said, “I never knew what it was like.” He was like, “I get home at the end of these days and feel like I’m just going to faint, and I used to work undercover. I didn’t know how long and hard and draining this was.” And I was like, “Thank you?” But also, I know it’s really hard sometimes. It’s a lot. It’s a lot of energy that you’re required to keep up and provide, and you have to be a lot of things for a lot of people and you’ve got to recharge. Nobody is an endless source of energy. It doesn’t work like that, and so I think it’s really important, even in small moments, to find some space for yourself.
One of the things I loved that you said during the panel is that self-care isn’t selfish. That registered so much with me. I feel like especially being a woman, working, and being young, it’s really hard not to be focused on image, your job, and what other people perceive you to be. What advice do you have for young girls, young women, or just anyone in general who may be not as bold or as confident as you are, because you’re flawless…
Sophia Bush: I have to be honest, people like to say things like that to me and I’m like, “Oh my god, I want to shake you.” Nobody is flawless. I’m not perfect. Nothing about my life is perfect, I so promise. Anybody looks happy on the internet. Anybody looks like they have all their sh*t figured out on a social media platform. Everybody is having a hard time. Everyone. And I think it’s just about going toward that which makes you expand. Things either make you expand or make you contract. Comparing yourself to other people and getting lost in these social media holes looking pictures of other people’s lives make you feel terrible about yourself, so don’t do that. Try to surround yourself with people who remind you of what you’re worth. Try to remind yourself that you are enough, that what you have done is enough. That there are people out there who would kill to be in your position in life. You are doing great. Even if you’re not where you want to be, it doesn’t matter. Because when you get to where you want to be, you’ll set another goal anyway and you’ll want to be somewhere else. We have to start allowing where we are in the present moment to matter and to be fun, because you’ll let 10 years go by before you had a good time. And for what? And for whom? You owe nothing to anyone but yourself. Your happiness is not for anybody else.
Do you maybe think how everyone is obsessed with social media and putting everything out on the internet and the immediacy of information and immediacy of a response makes it harder for people to take a step back and take those small moments because they’re craving a response?
Sophia Bush: I have a friend who sets an away message every night on email. At 6 p.m. you get an away message. If you send an email at 9 p.m., you get a response that says, “Hello, I’m off email from 6 p.m. to 9 a.m. Thanks so much I’ll speak with you later.” I think it’s genius. Nobody has a right to all of your time and every moment. I know that it’s hard. I work insane hours. I work, like, 90 hours a week. Sometimes I’m shooting all night. Sometimes I need to get a hold of people at odd hours or people need to get a hold of me at odd hours, but I feel like it’s really important for us to not always feel beholden, and it’s really important for us to remember that what’s two-dimensional, what’s on a screen, that is not the whole story. That’s an image somebody selected, that’s a story somebody’s telling. Maybe someone’s letting you in on something going on in their life, and that’s great, but you still don’t know them or anything about their experience. No matter how open someone seems to be on the internet. Unless you know a person deeply and intimately and you experience their life with them, you don’t know them. I just want everybody to calm down about it a little bit. I thought it was so interesting that girl, I don’t even remember when it was, maybe a year ago, but some Instagram girl said: “I’m deleting my account. Everything’s fake. It took me 200 pictures to go get one picture I liked of my body and then I Facetuned it.” She detailed the whole thing, and she was like, “I don’t want to do this anymore.” And I was like, bless you! Good for you. I posted a picture recently and someone said, “Love that you don’t care and you’ll post blurry photos.” I said, “I’m not a photographer.” Like, I’m also not a brand. I’m just a person who saw this cool concert, and I didn’t get a great picture, but who cares? Who cares? Why do you care? Why is that even shocking? I’m like, we’re good.
During the event panel, which also featured Stephen “tWitch” Boss, 34, and Eric Decker, 30, Sophia talked about a “small moment” during her busy days that is super important to her. “Before heading back onto set after my lunch break, I take 30 seconds to reset while I swish Listerine,” she said. “That small act is a matter of professional courtesy, which is especially important for my interrogation scenes, and also a small moment of mindfulness for me.”
For more information on the Unlock Your Bold campaign or the “Be Bold” collection please visit Listerine.com/UnlockYourBold. You can also check out the “Be Bold” guided meditation series, now available on the Inscape app.
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