Every year when ‘The Bachelor’ begins, I get really excited — it’s a guy I loved on ‘The Bachelorette.’ However, they usually become someone I can’t stand mid-way through. But not this time.
For the first time in twenty seasons, The Bachelor was not belittling to women; it wasn’t sexist; it wasn’t raunchy; and it wasn’t (that) cheesy. And all of that is because of Ben Higgins. When he was welcomed on stage at Women Tell All on March 7, that was proved more than ever. Usually, we see the eliminated girls come at the bachelor, asking a bunch of rude questions about the way they were dumped. This time, it was basically a compliment-fest.
One of the roughest eliminations this season to watch was when Ben sent Amanda home, after meeting her kids. So when she came face-to-face with him at Men Tell All, she had every reason to ask him some questions. But instead, she praised him.
“Seeing how emotional you were when I left, meant so much for me. I definitely felt how much you care. It was really sweet watching it back,” Amanda told him. “I think you are going to be an amazing husband and a really good dad some day. I just wish you a lot of happiness and I think you really deserve it.”
So why didn’t she ask a bunch? Start crying? Throw a fit? Because Ben’s an actual real human — he fell in love for real, it seems, and while yes, he sent her home after meeting her family, it seems he really didn’t know who he had true feelings for before that. It’s not like he strung them along or just “really liked” one (cough, Juan Pablo, cough).
Even Caila, who was so heartbroken when she was eliminated last week, didn’t seem angry — she actually understood. Sure, she had one question to get closure, but it wasn’t harsh. When Jubilee and Leah asked Ben their questions, the way Ben approached the entire group, letting them know it wasn’t their “fault” or even his fault for it not working out, letting them know that it was all based on actual feelings — not something any of them did — that’s mature. And that’s being a gentleman. Something we haven’t seen in quite some time on The Bachelor (or on any other show, for that matter).
Do you agree? Do you think Ben is the bachelor yet? Let us know!