Sadly, Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner just couldn’t save their marriage. While they’ve been having marital problems for years, HollywoodLife.com EXCLUSIVELY learned why it was ultimately impossible for the former power couple to save their marriage.
Ben Affleck, 42, and Jennifer Garner, 43, have thrown in the towel after a 10-year marriage that was impossible to save. Sure, they went to counseling and worked extra hard to repair their relationship, “but it wasn’t enough,” an insider tells HollywoodLife.com EXCLUSIVELY. So what exactly went wrong between Ben and Jen, and why couldn’t they put their differences aside to reconcile? Here’s the scoop.
“The trouble in their relationship has been brewing for years. The main issue is that Jen wanted to change Ben. She was immensely attracted to Ben from early on and their chemistry back on Daredevil was insane. He was a bad boy but she thought he wanted to put those days behind him and be a doting father and husband. To Ben’s credit, he’s a great dad and he really tried to be a terrific husband but it never came easy to him. After a while those bad habits came back,” an insider tells HollywoodLife.com EXCLUSIVELY. Sadly, it seems like Ben and Jen had just drifted apart and ultimately were not happy with each other.
“He wanted to gamble and drink and flirt with beautiful actresses. Ben seemed to look forward to those weeks away from home working on set. He could do what he wanted and relax, which made it all the more difficult to come home and to Jen,” our insider continues. The most heartbreaking part about Jen and Ben’s divorce is that they have three kids, Violet, 9, Seraphina, 6, and Samuel, 3, and Jen desperately fought to keep their marriage from falling apart for the sake of their kids.
“They went to marriage counseling and tried to make changes in their lives to heal their marriage but it wasn’t enough,” our insider adds. “It just didn’t seem like Ben could do enough — and truthfully maybe he didn’t want to. Jen felt his heart wasn’t in it.” So sad. Sometimes, relationships just don’t work but for the sake of their family we hope things remain friendly.
While Jen fought to keep their marriage afloat, Ben was bothered by Jen disturbing his social life, HollywoodLife.com EXCLUSIVELY learned. “He always had to get rid of friends for Jen, he always had to give up being him for Jen,” our insider shared. Don’t worry though, there’s still a lot of love between them.
“He loved her, he loves her and he will always be grateful for the children they have together,” our insider adds. “But she ended up being more of a mom than a wife and Ben didn’t want to live that life anymore.” To hear more about Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner, head over to iTunes and download the HollywoodLife podcast for free!
What do YOU think, HollywoodLifers? Do you think Ben and Jen could have saved their marriage? Let us know!
— Julianne Ishler, Reporting by Tim Plant