Kaitlyn Bristowe — you are like a wolf in a hen house. You have a hotel full of hot bachelors, but like that wolf, you’re being a glutton, except that it’s for guys. for guys. Adding Andi Dorfman’s castoff, Nick Viall mid-season to your suitors, was uncool.
Bachelorette Kaitlyn Bristowe, 29, you have assured your guy harem of bachelor contenders multiple times that you’re sure that your husband is within their midst. But your words now must feel like an empty lie to your bachelors since you’ve dropped your bomb into their group — Nick Viall. You’ll be lucky if some of your men don’t pack their bags and head for the doors!
They all felt so betrayed when you announced that Nick, 33, had joined their gang. Think about it, Kaitlyn. Your bachelors have already been through weeks of dates, emotional ups and downs, and tense rose ceremonies. They’ve already developed feelings of affection for you. They’ve been defensive of you — helping to push out Clint, who they all could see was not on The Bachelorette for the “right” reasons, ie. to potentially win your heart for a forever marriage.
These guys are attached to you and attached to the idea of falling in love and potentially marrying you. And, just as importantly, they’ve been playing by the Bachelorette rules! They’ve been living with each other, going on the crazy and usually embarrassing dates: sumo wrestling, rapping, teaching sex education to primary school kids and “auditioning” for the Broadway show Aladdin. They’ve let themselves be silly and even be exposed. Hey, all their body parts were on full display in those sumo diapers.
Why shouldn’t they feel lousy when you bring in an interloper — Nick Viall — who hasn’t had to jump through any hoops yet and has nevertheless made it to episode five. And let’s not forget, that unlike any of the other bachelors who you never set eyes on before the premiere of The Bachelorette, you have a history with Nick. You met and became friends through social media based on a “mutual, unusual experience”. Yes, you two were both “almost chosen” contestants. Nick was Bachelorette Andi Dorfman‘s runner-up, and you were Bachelor Chris Soules‘ third last choice on last season’s Bachelor.
Inviting Nick Viall To Join ‘The Bachelorette’ Was A Bad Idea!
Nick became smitten with you and actually asked you not to do The Bachelorette, according to E! Now, why he didn’t ask to join The Bachelorette from the beginning of the season, I don’t know, but apparently by the filming of episode four, in NYC, he crashed your group date, got alone time and then begged to join your cast of men. It clearly sounds like you two have a well-established romantic connection that gives him a big leap ahead of your other suitors.
Now, I get that as you said on The Bachelorette last night, June 8, you are on the show to find the love of your life, so you have to be open to Nick, too. But I also think you could just have ruined what may have been a stronger relationship with existing contenders, because you’ve now destroyed the trust between you. Why should any of the bachelors besides Nick trust you now and entrust their hearts to you, if they perceive that you are too self-centered?
Love is a two-way street. Marriage is a partnership. You have to be honest and giving with the man you marry or it will never work. The Bachelorette’s position is already selfish enough. You get to make out and get close to any and all of the contestants that you want. But making that power position even more extreme could really push away some truly good men and potential husbands. Kaitlyn — making Nick Viall a late addition to your bachelor crew was a bad idea. Watch out – it could really backfire!
Do you agree, HollywoodLifers? Let me know.
— Bonnie Fuller
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