Following her Big Sean split, Ariana Grande decided to write a powerful essay about double standards, which she shared on social media June 7. Apparently, the ‘Problem’ singer thinks there’s too much attention on her relationships and not enough on her music.
Ariana Grande, 21, wants everyone to know that she doesn’t belong to anyone. That’s the focus of an essay the “Problem” singer wrote and posted on her social media accounts June 7 — a response to talk surrounding this recent quote of hers: “A girl can be friends with someone with a d**k and not hop on it.”
“Being ’empowered’…. is not the same as being a ‘bitch’…” Ariana said in the essay. “HAVING SOMETHING TO SAY…. is not the same as HAVING A BAD ATTITUDE. What I meant when I said what I said about not being Sean’s ex is that I am tired of living in a world where women are mostly referred to as a man’s past, present, or future PROPERTY / POSSESSION. I… do not. belong. to anyone. but myself. and neither do you.”
After eight months of dating, Ariana and Big Sean broke up in April. Since then, she’s been focusing on her career, but recent reports have linked her to the One Direction star.
“I have clearly not been having the boy questions in my interviews lately because I have come to the realization that I have SO. MUCH. MORE. to talk about,” she wrote. “I’m currently making the best music I’ve ever made in my life, having the best time of my life on tour with some of the greatest people I’ve ever known, working my ass off every single day.”
“I come from a long bloodline of female activists,” Ariana continued. “My aunt Judy was the first Italian american female president of the national press club in Washington, D.C. I think she would have been proud of me for speaking up about something that has been bothering me personally for so long… If a woman has a lot of sex (or any sex for that matter)… she’s a ‘slut.’ If a man has sex…. HE’S. A. STUD. A BOSSSSSS. a KING… If a woman even TALKS about sex openly… she is shamed! Misogyny [is] still ever present. I can’t wait to live in a world where people are not valued by who they’re dating / married to / attached to, having sex with (or not) / seen with…. but by their value as an individual. I want the people reading this to know that they are MORE THAN enough on their own.”
Despite the recent reports of a romance between Niall and Ariana, the “Love Me Harder” singer is single, and she’s super happy about it.
“I’m saying this after literally 8 years of feeling like I constantly had to have a boy by my side,” Ariana added. “After being on my own now for a few months I am realizing that that’s just not the case… I have never felt more present, grounded, and satisfied. I’ve never laughed harder or had more fun or enjoyed my life more.”
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— Chris Rogers