Selena — it’s time. You’ve given the Justin relationship more than enough chances. Now, it’s time to stop looking back and get your rear in gear to go back to work and forget about the guy who trampled on your heart.
Selena Gomez, you’ve got to be done, finished, kaput with Justin Bieber and his broken promises and wandering eye. You are too beautiful and smart to become a doormat. And if you forgive Justin and go back to him one more time, then you’re in danger of being reduced to that status.
Selena Gomez: Time To Go Back To Work And Forget Justin Bieber
Selena, you have truly given the Justin relationship your all. You have been his go-to girl whenever he has needed true love and comfort after all the downs he’s been involved with over the past few years.
You’ve taken him back after the arrests, the alleged drag racing, the other girls — Kendall, Kylie, Chantel, Yovanna — the racist videos and the mop bucket. Yup, you’ve been there for Justin after all his misadventures, with your love, support and understanding.
But Justin just can’t seem to live up to the promises and commitments that he’s made to you.
Each time after you two get back together, he forgets his vows after, oh, about six weeks, and he is back to eyeballing other girls again.
Oops, he just did it again. After you had an argument on your way to Paris, he took Kendall Jenner out to an intimate dinner at Ferdi restaurant and then flirted up a storm with a variety of girls including Kendall and Miranda Kerr at Carine Roitfeld’s CR Fashion Book party in Paris, right in front of your very eyes, since you were there.
Selena, listen to me — you are done!
Now, you need to stop crying inside over Justin and your broken heart, and get busy getting over him.
And the best way to get over a bad romance is to be way too busy to even miss it. That’s why you need to end your work vacation and throw yourself back into your stellar career. You’ve taken a break for long enough!
It’s understandable, why you stopped working several months ago. You were a child star, who was in the work grind for years.
When you weren’t taping a TV show, you were filming a movie and then you were recording albums and performing in worldwide concert tours.
It was non-stop exhausting! And that’s not even taking into account, all your clothing licensees and charitable work. Everything you have done, you’ve done with professionalism and enthusiasm.
It’s no wonder that you were desperate to take a break. And then you also had your reported lupus to content with. At the end of your last tour, in Dec. 2013, you simply had to stop. You were physically exhausted.
But that was then. Now, you’ve had months to recharge and you no doubt feel physically better, but mentally you’ve continued to suffer as Justin has played with your heart.
Now, the best thing to end your anguish and channel your energy, is to tap back into your acting and singing talent. Your fans are waiting.
Selena: You Need To Separate Work From Justin
Work can be a fantastic energizer and motivator.
Selena “needs to throw herself into work. That’s where you derive your self-worth, especially for women,” explains relationship expert Dr. Cooper Lawrence. “The only way to get over Justin is to do the one thing that has nothing to do with her relationship — focus on her career. She has a great job and that’s her self-worth.”
“The best way to get over Justin is to give it time and keep busy with her career. Then she won’t have time to think about him,” agrees Dr. Gilda Carle, relationship expert to the stars. “Some women don’t have a career, but she does and she should put all her efforts into that. She has to understand that this life is mine and mine alone and that’s when you start to heal.”
Selena, Dr. Gilda and Cooper Lawrence are so right. Once you begin throwing yourself back into work, the nature of what you do is so demanding that it will be a complete distraction from your longings for Justin.
But you have to keep at it long enough for your emotions to start to lose their rawness.
You need “three months… of no Justin contact,” advises Cooper Lawrence, so you can get out of the habit of thinking about him.
That means also, no talking about him in interviews and no song writing — not even revenge songs about him!
If you write songs about him, you’ll be rehashing and romanticizing the relationship.
“She needs to really separate her work life from Justin,” adds Lawrence.
Selena, we’re all giving you good advice. The way Justin has treated you, has no doubt made you question your self worth. Work will reboot your self esteem as well as keep you too busy to cry or obsess.
So go back to work and build upon your successes. Let yourself and the world see what star you are!
Do you agree HollywoodLifers? Let me know.
— Bonnie Fuller
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