On Sept. 8, a shocking and horrific video surfaced that showed Ray Rice hitting his wife, Janay Rice. A domestic violence expert is telling HollywoodLife.com EXCLUSIVELY why Janay is sticking up for her husband.
Janay Rice, 26 is sticking by her husband, Ray Rice, 27, after a video surfaced of him brutally attacking her surfaced on Sept. 8. Following his indefinite suspension from the Baltimore Ravens, Janay spoke out on Instagram to defend her husband and tell everyone that, ”this is our life.” Now, a domestic violence expert has revealed to HollywoodLife.com exclusively why she has seemingly forgiven her husband.
Ray Rice Wife — Expert Weighs In On Why Janay Rice Is Defending Him
Rebecca Donley from The Domestic Abuse Hotline told HollywoodLife.com exclusively, why Janay is coming to Ray’s defense.
“Every situation is different. We have just seen this one piece of their relationship and it is very likely that she really does care for this person, she is married to him, and she wants things to work out,” she said. “Abuse is very complicated, there is no simple answer.”
Rebecca continued, “The thing is that when someone is in an abusive relationship with someone, they are using a lot of forms of manipulation, trying to drag them down, saying hurtful things, we don’t know what was going on behind the scenes, we just know what was one the video,” she said. “There might be a lot of other things, financial abuse, emotional and verbal abuse as well as fear of leaving the abusive relationship.”
As HollywoodLife.com previously reported, on Sept. 9, Janay took to Instagram to defend her husband:
“I woke up this morning feeling like I had a horrible nightmare, feeling like I’m mourning the death of my closest friend
“But to have to accept the fact that it’s reality is a nightmare in itself. No one knows the pain that the media & unwanted options from the public has caused my family. To make us relive a moment in our lives that we regret every day is a horrible thing.
“To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his ass of for all his life just to gain ratings is horrific. THIS IS OUR LIFE! What don’t you all get.
“If your intentions were to hurt us, embarrass us, make us feel alone, take all happiness away, you’ve succeeded on so many levels. Just know we will continue to grow & show the world what real love is! Ravensnation we love you!”
Rebecca revealed why Janay is not blaming Ray. “She may see that there is a possibility of change, and he may be taking steps to put this behind them. Maybe she was feeling that this is something that she has moved on from,” she said. “What we see with abuse often though is that it is about power and control. There may be emotional abuse going on, so the abuser is making them feel that they are to blame or minimizing what they are doing.”
While it is hard to speculate why this kind of behavior occurs, Rebecca shed some light as to what can cause people to become violent. “What we say is that abuse is a choice. Regardless of what childhood you had, the people you are surrounded by, you are responsible for your choices as an adult,” she said. “A lot of time there is victim blaming, and that is something that in itself can create an environment where people do not see abuse as a bad thing and can shift the blame off of them so they are not accountable. Shifting the culture is important, however he is still 100 % responsible for the choices.”
The couple have one daughter together, 2-year-old, named Rayven. Jennifer said that even if she is not present at the time of the violence, it can still effect her. “Even thought the abuse may be between the parents, we know that abuse still impacts the children in their relationship. It can be a contributing factor when they grow up because it is something that has been portrayed as normal.”
Update: Ray Rice Speaks Out For First Time Since Video Surfaced
While Janay was quick to jump to Ray’s defense, nothing had been heard from the former running back. According to the Daily Mail, on Sept. 9, Ray spoke on the phone to ESPN’s Josina Anderson.
He reportedly told her, “I have to be strong for my wife. She is so strong. We are in good spirits. We have a lot of people praying for us and we’ll continue to support each other. I have to be there for (Janay) and my family right now and work through this.” He then handed the phone to Janay who said, “I love my husband. I support him… I want people to respect our privacy in this family matter.”
If you or anyone you know is suffering from domestic violence please call The National Domestic Abuse Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
— Caitlin Beck