Selena Gomez, we hear that your heart is still aching over Justin Bieber, and we understand that. But we think you should absolutely commit to the philosophy that you just got tattooed on your back — ‘Love yourself first.’
Selena Gomez, you took an important step when you went to get a tattoo inked by celebrity tattoo artist Bang Bang. You had yourself tattooed on the upper right side of your back about a month ago, according to E! News, and you chose an Arabic phrase that means “Love yourself first.”
Selena Gomez: ‘Love Yourself First’ — Embrace Tattoo & Forget Justin Bieber
Tattoo artist Bang Bang has revealed that you love your new ink. “She flipped out,” he reports. And we’re not surprised that you like it, Selena, because it expresses a sentiment that’s empowering for you. We know that you’ve had a terrible time getting over Justin Bieber, your on-and-off boyfriend of the past two and half years. Every time that you were almost ready to move on and focus on yourself and your future, Justin has been able to break your resolve and win you back.
We hear that he’s melted your heart by telling you that you were truly The One. He confessed that you were the love of his life and promised that he would stay true. Now, to be fair, we’ve also heard from sources that Justin genuinely believes that, at the end of the day, you are the one he wants to end up with. But Selena, who knows when Justin will be ready to “end up” with you?
Really, what do his promises amount to if, whenever you two have a fight, he starts flirting with and dating the likes of Yovanna Ventura, Chantel Jeffries and Ella-Paige Roberts Clarke. It doesn’t help to be The One, when Justin is also subscribing to the philosophy that if he’s not with the one he loves, he might as well “love the ones he’s with.“
Selena Gomez — You Can Have An ‘Emotional Connection’ With Another Guy
Selena, our HollywoodLife.com sources say that this time, you are determined to put Justin in your rearview mirror. It was great that you went out with your girlfriends last week in NYC on July 9, and had fun flirting with cute model/actor Tanz Watson. That’s exactly what you should be doing — dating and being appreciated by as many other guys as you want.
You are beautiful, young, talented, intelligent and giving. If you would just give other guys a chance, there’s no doubt that you’d have a lineup outside your door. Even though you feel like you’ll always have an “emotional connection” with Justin, a source told E! News, you can have an emotional connection with another guy in the future. You just have to give someone else a chance.
Sometimes when you need to make a big change, it’s good to make a move that’s symbolic — one that makes you feel like you’re doing something concrete in order to move forward in a new direction. Getting a tattoo that says “Love yourself first” is one of those symbolic moves that on the outside, may seem superficial, but that can actually be a daily reminder to commit to your own important emotional needs — something that you really haven’t done in your relationship with Justin.
Instead, you’ve allowed him to manipulate you over and over, in order to satisfy his own needs. But we’re so glad, Selena, that you feel that the time to be manipulated is over, and that instead you’re committed to doing what is truly right for you and you only.
So stay strong, Selena. Sticking to the philosophy of putting yourself first will bolster your self-esteem. You need to be totally convinced that you deserve a committed love — only then will you finally be able to stay away from Justin for good.
Do you agree, HollywoodLifers? Will Selena’s tattoo help her to truly put herself first? Let me know.
— Bonnie Fuller
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