Will and Jada Smith — a source close to you revealed to TMZ that you think it’s fine for Willow to lie in bed with a 20-year-old guy because she’s ‘mature.’ Sounds like you two are trying to be your daughter’s pals when you should be protective parents.
Will and Jada Smith — are you actually Willow Smith‘s parents, and are you involved in her life? In what universe is it OK for a 13-year-old girl in a tiny tank top to be lying in bed next to a shirtless, 20-year-old guy, Moises Arias?
Will Smith & Jada Pinkett-Smith Need To Be Parents To Willow Smith, Not Her Friends
Moises starred in Hannah Montana and is a friend of the Smith family, and the photo posted on his Tumblr and Instagram accounts has set off an appropriate uproar. After all, there’s a world of difference between the maturity and life experience of a guy, 20, and a girl of 13. Both Moises and Willow are at ages when hormones can wreak havoc on decision-making and actions!
Why they’d be hanging out together on a bed with no adult supervision in sight is a mystery to parents everywhere, even if it isn’t to you.
Shall I put this bluntly? Boys at 20 are horny creatures, even if they are family friends, and even in this case, if Moises is the best friend of your son, Jaden, 15.
Sources connected to your family have told TMZ that you believe Willow is “very mature … enough to make her own decisions, as long as they don’t clearly cross the line.”
Let me tell you something — NO 13 year old is mature! They are all immature. Willow is a baby, even if she is the daughter of two huge Hollywood stars, and has already had hit singles.
Being a celebrity does not confer maturity. Will Smith, you told the AP in an interview that you’re “trying to release the sense of ownership” of your kids. “With our kids, Jada and I believe that it’s their lives and we are helping them with their lives. And they’re not our property. They are people that are deserving of our respect and consideration in the same way that any human being should be.”
Will Smith: Willow & Jaden Are ‘Not Our Property’
Will, I think it’s great that you respect your children and don’t see them as “property,” but you still need to see them as kids who need guidance and boundaries, because they are young and immature. It’s your responsibility as parents to parent Willow and Jaden, so they are instilled with values and direction and so they don’t make stupid mistakes that can hurt them for life.
Most parents would say that it’s a stupid mistake to have their young daughter hanging out on a bed with a guy who’s 20 years old. You really don’t know what could happen.
In 2012 alone, 305,388 teen girls made a stupid mistake and ended up getting pregnant and giving birth, according to the United States Department of Human and Health Services.
As parents, you want to make sure that doesn’t happen to Willow.
Will and Jada are “lazy parenting,” believes psychologist Dr. Cooper Lawrence, author of The Cult of Celebrity. “They don’t want to appear ‘uncool’ and want to be their kids’ friends, rather than an authority figure.” Teen psychologist Dr. David Gottesfeld questions Willow’s “maturity.” “She may be very mature, but what does that mean? She’s mature as a 16 or 17 year old? Able to make her own decisions until she crosses the line? Is that their line? How will they know?”
“There’s a big difference in maturity between a 13 year old and a 20 year old … A gap of seven years is extraordinary for kids growing up … How do they handle the inevitable sexual urges and mores (if they have any) when they arise, as they wear little clothing?” points out Dr. Gilda Carle, 30-Second Therapist for the Today show. “And of course, where are their parents to guide them in their decision-making? Parents need to give kids boundaries.”
Yes, they do, Will and Jada. You may want to avoid conflict and the typical arguments that parents have with their teens, who are pushing to be independent. But hands-off parenting, or what you call “releasing the sense of ownership,” is really just abdicating your responsibility to say “no” to teenage activities that are inappropriate, at least, if they are unsupervised.
Shall we also raise the point that Willow appears to have attended the Coachella Music Festival, which is rife with partying and various substances, solely with her brother and their friends?
Will and Jada, it’s time to step up and be Willow and Jaden’s parents, before it’s too late. They’ll thank you!
Do you agree, HollywoodLifers? Let me know.
— Bonnie Fuller
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