Tori Spelling, I completely feel for you. As a mom of four, you are desperate to save your family. But putting all of your pain on display on your new reality show, ‘True Tori’, will only slam the door shut on your future with husband Dean McDermott.
Tori Spelling, you are one smart, tough woman, but trying to fix your marriage to Dean McDermott by broadcasting its dysfunction to all the world on True Tori is a disastrous move. Your marriage and your children should be more important to you than TV ratings.
Dean McDermott & Tori Spelling: Stop ‘True Tori’ — How Couple Can Save Marriage
Tori — the word on the street is that you are financially challenged, and yes, money issues are a HUGE problem. Every family in America that has trouble making ends meet knows that.
But there has to be some other way for you to earn a living, besides continuing True Tori.
Don’t get me wrong — True Tori is courageous. You and Dean bare all about his cheating with one-night stand, Emily Goodhand, in Toronto, in December, 2013, when he was supposedly there just on a business trip.
You were at home with your four children — Liam, 6, Stella, 5, Hattie, 2, and Finn, nearly 2 — at a Christmas event while he was partying and later having sex with Emily Goodhand, who then proceeded to sell her entire story to Us Weekly.
Dean, what you did — cheating on your wife and four small children — was a huge betrayal, but it was especially hurtful because you had to know it would become public. After all, you and Tori are well-known celebrities.
Nevertheless, Tori, after all the agony that you’ve gone through — and are still going through — why are you making it worse by broadcasting it to the entire world?
You’ve chosen to reveal the most personal and hurtful secrets in your marriage. Dean has admitted that your sex life “wasn’t fantastic,” at least in his eyes. You’ve cried and said that he’ll never be happy with just one woman.
Dean has claimed that he used sex as an “escape,” “just like alcohol and drugs.” He also confessed on air that he felt shame like he had “never felt shame before,” and admitted that he was, in fact, disgusting to cheat and that he was “out of control.”
Dean has also said that his recollections of his behavior were so painful that it was “like an ice pick” to the head.
Dean McDermott Needs To Have Intense, Personal Therapy — Not To Have His Issues Broadcast On TV
It’s intense to watch, and Tori, I have to hand it to you — it’s pretty compelling TV.
But just because it’s compelling, doesn’t mean that it SHOULD be on TV. Not if you actually want to save your marriage, and even more importantly, your family.
Tori, can you really work out your hurt and forgive Dean once all of his misbehavior and all of your marital problems are revealed to the world?
Can Dean actually dig down and discover why he can’t be faithful … on TV?
Shouldn’t he be having excellent intensive therapy alone to get to the root of his issues? After all, he cheated on and left his first wife and family for you. And shouldn’t the two of you also be involved in private intensive couples counseling to see if you can get your marriage back on track?
Most marriages do survive an episode of cheating, according to several psychologists consulted by HollywoodLife.com. It is very possible for you and Dean to get over this awful incident, but trying to do it in front of a TV audience has to stack the odds against you. Isn’t going public just adding stress to the situation?
The fate of four small children rests on you, Tori and Dean. They are little innocents who need security and parental love. They need both of their parents. And they need their parents to put their needs first.
Tori and Dean — your first responsibility is to create a loving family for your children. That means that a very real and honest effort must be made to save your marriage, and not to get TV ratings.
Plus, you can’t forget that your small children will become teens and they will watch this show. Do you want them to see and hear everything on True Tori? Think about that. You’ve got four kids who will tune in to what should be intimate secrets and who will watch this dysfunctionality, with complete discomfort.
If you value your family, then heal your marriage, but do it in private.
Do you agree, HollywoodLifers? Let me know.
— Bonnie Fuller
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