Why should a mom of three with great abs be dissed as a “fat shaming bully” by other women just because she believes that women should get fit? Stop the jealousy ladies and start the sit-ups!
When exercise-loving mother Maria Kang, 32, posted an abs-baring photo of herself and her three young sons on her Facebook page with the headline, “What’s your excuse?,” she didn’t expect a barrage of nasty comments.
Maria Kang Should Not Be Hated
Kang, a former Miss Bikini California, found herself the target of vitriolic critics, calling her “attention-starved,” “vain,” “egotistical” and “a bully” with a “super inflated sense of your own self.”
She was even accused of being a lousy mom for loving to get fit. “Those precious little things need their mommy more than they need you to have glamour muscles,” one woman wrote on Kang’s Facebook page.
The photos she posted of herself in tiny bikinis showing off her muscled abs, legs and arms, and doing leg lifts next to her three small sons, 3, 2 and 8 months, set off a furious controversy. Kang insisted that she was just trying to be inspirational to other moms, when she captioned her photo with the “What’s Your Excuse? ” line.
“I thought the caption was fitting since I often saw posts of grandmothers running in marathons, paraplegics competing in the Olympics and even a father performing a pull up with three kids in tow — all with this same caption,” she said in response to her dissers.
She even insisted that she “does have stretch marks and excess skin from three pregnancies” but these “scars” encourage her to “keep striving” and “never stop!”
Maria Kang is the Victim of Bullying
I’m glad that Maria Kang doesn’t sound too discouraged for freaked out after being the subject of so much nasty reaction. Rather than being a bully, she is in fact the victim of bullying. Her critics seem to be just plain jealous that they don’t have abs like Maria.
Well, I can tell you that most of us don’t look like Maria after three, one or no kids. And that’s true even if we are exercising most days for 30-60 minutes like Kang does.
So she has some good genes. We need to just get over that. But Kang still wouldn’t look this fantastic if she hadn’t made the commitment to workout regularly 5 or 6 days a week, doing 6:30am cardio and strength training workouts. The bottom line is that she did commit to a regular and intense fitness routine and to what she calls “clean eating” — which I assume is a healthy, low fat diet.
I bet most of her infuriated critics haven’t made that commitment themselves. It does take discipline, but it could be worth it, if you want to get in Maria Kang’s body ballpark.
Kang also points out that “besides working out, I am chasing after my kids, taking them to the park, carrying them up and down stairs and loading them in and out of cars.” She also admits to making use of her kids’ park playtime, to jump rope and perform lunges while she watches them play.
Spending Time on Yourself Does Not Make You a Bad Mom
I get the sense — and I think Maria did as well — that a lot of women think that spending time on yourself to exercise so you look great, somehow takes away attention that you should, as a mom, be giving to your children. My bet is that a lot of women feel guilty about taking one minute away from their kids. It’s the same sort of guilt, working moms struggle with all the time, when they’re trying to balance their day between work and home.
Many women see workout time as a luxury that they don’t feel they deserve and they get angry at other moms, like Maria, for actually prioritizing exercise.
But instead of hating on Maria Kang, her critics should tell themselves that they deserve to have an hour a few times a week to focus on their own health — they’ll feel and look better, they’ll have more energy for their own kids and they won’t feel the need to bully Kang!
What do you think Hollywoodlifers, should women stop hating on fit mom, Maria Kang, and start exercising instead? Let me know.
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— Bonnie Fuller