Should You Put Your Career Ahead Of Your Relationship By Enduring Long Separations Like Robert Pattinson & Kristen Stewart Do?

Wed, September 7, 2011 12:21pm EDT by 16 Comments

R-Patz and K-Stew sometimes let a whole month go by without seeing one another. Is it smart to focus on their careers over their relationship?

Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart are definitely in love, there’s no denying it. However, the hottest couple of the  moment are repeatedly separated for month-long jaunts to work on different projects now that the last of the Twilight films, Breaking Dawn, has wrapped. Should they be focusing on their mutual careers or more on making their love last?

The two had been apart for nearly a month while K-Stew, 21, filmed Snow White and the Huntsman in the 25-year-old British heartthrob’s native London. They reunited over Labor Day weekend when R-Patz flew to visit his girlfriend.

The last time to two were spotted together was during San Diego’s superfan convention, Comic Con, on July 24; she  landed at London’s Heathrow airport on July 31 holding his guitar for safekeeping. She hasn’t been entirely Rob-free in Londontown, though: since arriving in the U.K., she’s had dinner with Rob’s parents and sister, Lizzie.

Given that they’re often apart, are these two being smart to put their careers ahead of their relationship? Should you be doing the same?

I think Rob and Kristen’s situation is very isolated in the sense that it seems to be working for them, but it is working for a reason. They have been a couple for years now and had feelings for one another even longer; this isn’t some new and uncertain romance. Secondly, it appears that they have a one-month rule: meaning, they can’t go longer than one month without seeing one another, which is actually very sensible. Kristen employed a similar tactic by visiting Rob on the Toronto set of Cosmopolis. Yup, you guessed it — they had been apart for exactly one month.

K-Stew continued to do the right thing by hanging out with his family independently of him. It shows how strong their relationship is, and how confident she is that it will last. It actually seems like she enjoys being around his parents, which is always a tough step in any relationship.

Also, their careers are red hot at the moment. They’re beating older, more established actors for plum parts because of the fame they’ve gained from Twilight and it would be foolish to ignore their time in the sun in the notoriously fickle world of Hollywood.

But how does this apply to you? Well, if you’ve just started seeing someone and are unsure of where it’s going to go, then you need to be just as careful about your career. Don’t let your work fall by the wayside just because you think you’re in love, or you’re excited and enthralled by your new man. It’s all about finding the happy balance of work and love.

Definitely do as K-Stew and R-Patz have: these two know how to conquer any distances.


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