LAURA’S LOVE LIFE ADVICE: Should You Still Speak To The Man Who Broke Your Heart, Like Jen Does Brad?

Thu, February 10, 2011 11:49am EDT by 5 Comments
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Jennifer Aniston has never really gotten over Brad Pitt, but has confessed that they’re still in touch. Should she X him out of her life?

He smashed your heart into tiny little pieces and then had the gall to date someone way hotter than you. Oh, the indignity! Jennifer Aniston clearly lives to forgive and forget, because she recently confessed that she’s still in touch with all of her exes — including the one guy who may have destroyed her: Brad Pitt. Is this a smart move, or is Jen keeping the wound fresh by keeping in contact?

“I keep in touch with them. I have no animosity towards any of them,” the 41-year-old Just Go With It star told People magazine, adding, “I think if you let proper time go by, you should. You spent quality time together and meant something to one another. It’s not like somebody died — you’re all still on the planet!”

While Jen’s attitude seems healthy, I’m calling her out on this one. How can she really have forgiven a man who reportedly left her for Angelina Jolie? Remaining close to ex-BF’s John Mayer and Vince Vaughn is one thing, but Brad’s duplicitous behavior is quite another.

Jen shouldn’t be having lengthy phone chats with her former hubby or going out for occasional coffee dates — that’s like saying everything he did was OK, that she’s over it. And while that’s a cool attitude to have, and it’s commendable that she’s trying to be the bigger person, she is totally doing the wrong thing by allowing him into her life. The only time Jen and Brad should be talking is when they’re at a ‘business’ function, like the Oscars or the Golden Globe Awards.

Naturally, if the two had had children together, the situation would be 100% different. If you have kids, you need to make sure you’re civil for their sake. But as two (formerly — Brad has a brood of six!) childless people, it’s completely acceptable for Brad and Jen to cut their ties.

But should YOU stay in contact with your ex, especially if you were more in love (come on, we all know relationships are never completely equal) and he did the ending? Heck, no! You both say you’ll be friends, but your ex-BF was never really your friend. The second you started using the titles ‘boyfriend’ and ‘girlfriend’, your relationship morphed into something entirely different.

If you were really in love and are having a hard time getting over him, sever all ties. Erase his number. Delete him as a Facebook friend. Get rid of him on Twitter. You don’t want to forget that the relationship existed, as everything in life is a lesson learned, but you do want to stop him from causing you pain — which won’t happen if you’re constantly checking his Facebook page for proof that he’s moved on.

Remember, there is absolutely no reason to hold on to something that causes you pain. You deserve better!

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