Elin – I hear that you may be ready to settle for a marriage where you are only “friends” with your husband, and not “lovers!”
Elin, apparently, after your visit with Tiger during the “Family Week” portion of his sex-addiction treatment at the Pine Grove Behavioral Health & Addiction Services center, you have decided to put your divorce plans on hold! Tiger has convinced you that he’s serious about saving his marriage and amazingly, you are willing to forgive him and give your marriage a second shot.
And listen Elin, I understand that you want your two beautiful babies, Sam Alexis, 2 and Charlie, almost one, to grow up with a dad. This is so important to you, that you are even telling friends that you are willing to settle for essentially a loveless, non-romantic marriage. You are willing to sacrifice your own happiness, for the sake of your children.
Elin, that is incredibly admirable and noble, but it is also incredibly sad. You are a beautiful, vital, loving 29 year-old woman. Is it realistic to consign yourself to a life without a loving life partner? Ask yourself – are you really willing to simply be “friends” with your husband,. Especially a husband who under these circumstances ,could make himself VERY busy again with loads of other women. I mean – why wouldn’t he go elsewhere to get his lovin’, if you’re just “friends”?
Do you realize what this is going to do to your self-esteem? “It’s completely self destructive,” relationship expert Rhonda Finding agrees. “You can’t be in a platonic relationship and function in a marriage – it’s torture. She’s going to watch her husband be involved with other women? There’s no chance. People want to commit suicide over things like this!”
Well, Elin – no one wants you to consign yourself to a relentlessly depressing situation. You did NOTHING wrong . You have been a loving and loyal wife. You’re a devoted mother.
You deserve to be married to a man who worships the ground, you walk on. Don’t accept anything less for yourself!