Arnold Schwarzenegger cheated multiple times and fathered a love child with a trusted employee. Was wife Maria Shriver right to move out?

Arnold Schwarzenegger, how could you? The former California Governor not only fathered a love child with his housekeeper, but she — and the child — were living side by side in perfect harmony with his family for over ten years. Was wife Maria Shriver right to immediately move out or should she have stayed and fought to keep her crumbling marriage together?

50-year-old housekeeper Mildred Baene worked for the Schwarzeneggers for 20 years in total. She was a trusted employee, and Maria watched her young son grow up. Is it any wonder that she felt oppressed in her own home and had to leave the ‘crime scene’ behind?

“After leaving the governor’s office I told my wife about this event, which occurred over a decade ago,” Arnold said in a statement he  released to the LA Times. “I understand and deserve the feelings of anger and disappointment among my friends and family. There are no excuses and I take full responsibility for the hurt I have caused. I have apologized to Maria, my children and my family. I am truly sorry. I ask that the media respect my wife and children through this extremely difficult time. While I deserve your attention and criticism, my family does not.”

An apology only goes so far though — especially when you’ve been betraying the ones you love every single day for well over ten years! Maria never had another choice; she was 100% in the right to leave.

There are few situations worse than Arnold’s deception (Tiger Woods‘ 10+ women and Jesse James‘ trash-talking trickery of America’s Sweetheart Sandra Bullock come to mind), but if you ever find yourself in this kind of mess, don’t hesitate — leave. Someone who’s hurt you that badly will only continue to do so, even if they swear they’ve changed.

Men don’t change, and you can’t change them. Bottom line. All you can do is hurry like hell to escape the wreckage of your relationship and hope you come out of it virtually unharmed.

Leaving can be the hardest thing to do, so kudos to Maria Shriver for having the guts and gumption to do so.

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Red alert! How would YOU feel if your guy was spending serious alone time with his ex — and he conveniently forgot to tell you?

Warning: Brad Pitt might soon have to cover up some big-time bruises on his perfect butt, because chances are his partner Angelina Jolie is going to kick his derriere incessantly if this new report is true. Star magazine claims that Brad has been secretly meeting up with ex-wife Jennifer Aniston. What should Angie — and more importantly, what should YOU — do in a similar situation?

Take this with a grain of salt, but the tab says that not only did Brad and Jen take a ‘private meeting’ in the office of his entertainment company, Plan B, but they’ve also had a 1 A.M. tete-a-tete in NYC . More worrying than their brief meetings is the claim that they’ve been in constant contact: texting, emailing and talking on the phone. Uh-oh.

If this is true, Angelina has every right to be not only furious, but worried. If your man is devoting so much of his time and attention (and let’s be honest, how much time does Brad really have with six kids, a long-term life partner, his own production company and his thriving career?) to an ex, he’s finding something lacking in his current relationship.

Perhaps Angie is too dominating, or too good. Maybe she doesn’t listen to Brad the way that Jen did. Who knows what goes on behind closed doors? However, we do know this: if he’s hanging out with his ex and his lady doesn’t know about it, Brad and Ange have big-time problems. The fact that he’s hanging with an ex alone is bad, but the lack of communication and consideration is abysmal.

So, you know the situation sounds pretty dire. But what should you actually DO if your man is sniffing around his ex?

For starters, you need proof that it’s actually happening. You don’t want to go crazy and jealously accuse him of something he’s not doing, such as a close pal telling you ‘Oh, I thought I saw your boyfriend hanging out with his ex at Tenjune.’ It has to be FACT. Once you have the proof, then you have something to work with.

You never, ever want to make your man feel cornered or threatened, even if he is a complete jerk. When you confront him, you have to be casual — and initially pretty vague. ‘So-and-so told me she saw you and Jen hanging in the Meatpacking District a few days ago. I told her it couldn’t possibly be you — you hate the Meatpacking District!’ Watch his reaction carefully — if he lies or evades your carefully loaded non-question, you’re either going to have a fight on your hands…or a breakup.

There are two sides to every story, and chances are, if Brad IS hanging out with Jen again, it’s because Angelina has forbidden it. As a courtesy, Brad should be respecting his baby mama’s wishes, and as a courtesy to him, Angie shouldn’t be giving him ultimatums out of jealousy.

When there’s a lack of honesty in a relationship and things are being covered up or kept secret, it isn’t working. Sometimes you just need to cut your losses and walk away.

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Amanda Seyfried and Ryan Phillippe left Kate Hudson’s Halloween party in the same SUV. But Amanda, beware — do you REALLY want to get involved with a known cheater? Didn’t your last BF have a wandering eye?

We are still completely surprised by this random pairing! Amanda Seyfried and Ryan Phillippe were caught leaving Kate Hudson‘s Halloween bash together Oct. 30 (despite Amanda trying the ol’ duck and cover) — and then there was an even more scandalous morning-after situation!

When X17 caught Amanda, 24, sneaking out of 36-year-old Ryan’s house in the morning, she didn’t exactly deny a hookup with the father of two. She was asked if she was dating him and her response was a coy, “You never know!”

Well, snap. That, plus the giant smile on her face is enough for us to start coming up with a list of couple names for these two.

Be wary, Amanda. We know your ex-boyfriend Dominic Cooper had a wandering eye, and Ryan isn’t exactly known for his faithfulness. (We still haven’t forgiven him for cheating on his ex-wife, Reese Witherspoon!) What’s the saying?

Once dating a cheater, always dating a cheater. Do you have a couple name for these two? Or should Amanda run as fast as she can?

–Jenna Mullins

Vienna Girardi’s former boyfriend says the pair had sex while she was with Jake and calls the reality star an ‘amazing liar!’

Vienna Girardi‘s claims of staying loyal to fiance Jake Pavelka seem to have been a complete lie — her ex is saying they were sleeping together while she was engaged and living with Jake! According to Radar Online, Vienna’s ex Lee Smith, “rekindled his physical relationship with Vienna just 10 days before she announced her infamous breakup from Jake. Lee says he hooked up with Vienna when she visited her hometown in Florida because of her sick dog.”

Lee told the website, “We were in my truck hooking up, her shirt was off and Jake just kept calling over and over again.” That must explain the controlling behavior Vienna was talking about it, but now it almost seems warranted! “I can’t just ignore his calls or he’ll freak out and call every minute,” Vienna apparently said to her ex.

“She’s an amazing liar. She picked up the phone and started yawning and pretending she was sleeping,” Lee said.

Even worse, it seems like Vienna also fed Lee lies she never planned on following through on. “She promised me she wanted our life back together,” Lee says, “but now she has a life in L.A.”

Angelina doesn’t mind Shiloh wants to be a boy!

Kourtney starves herself and passes out!

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Is a simple kiss considered cheating? What if you cheat with an ex-boyfriend? Carrie Bradshaw knows first hand how hard it can be to let someone go!

Have you ever cheated on your BF? If you have, some of you felt horrible and others thought it was no big deal — especially if it was just a kiss.

But if you’re a fan of Sex and the City then you know Carrie Bradshaw [Sarah Jessica Parker] can’t decide on whether to be with Aidan [John Corbett] or her husband, Mr. Big [Chris Noth]. In SATC2 Carrie cheats on Mr. Big with her ex-flame … it seems like just a simple kiss BUT we’re having a big debate at HollywoodLife.com as to whether it’s really cheating!

Author and relationship expert Dr. David Eigen defines “cheating” as “anything without integrity to your commitment, agreement, or vows.”

We asked Dr. Eigen if it’s all right to go to dinner with an ex even if you’re in a committed relationship. “It’s not necessarily bad,” he says. “If you are friends on a healthy level.”

BUT one expert tells HollywoodLife.com that cheating is different for men and women.

“Women are more emotional,” says sex expert, Dr. Victoria Zdrok. “While it’s more about sex for men.”

Not only does Dr. Zdrok tell us that women are more emotional but it turns out they’re more forgiving too!

“Many women are able to forgive a man’s cheating if there was only sex involved and they don’t love the other woman,” she says. “While men find it harder to forgive sex over love.”

If you’re like Carrie and cheated with an ex (however you define it) it turns out it’s far worse than picking just a random person!  ”Cheating with a former lover is worse,” says Dr. Zdrok. “Because of the strong emotional component between them.”

Tell us what you think! Is it really cheating?

— Erin Swan

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Can you believe The Boss allegedly picked up 45-year-old real-life NJ housewife Ann Kelly at the gym … then had a full-on affair, according to Kelly’s estranged husband? Remember: Bruce has been married to another red-headed stunner, Patti Scialfa, for 18 years!

There are shocking new allegations emerging in the alleged affair between Bruce Springsteen and Ann Kelly, 45, a New Jersey housewife whom Bruce reportedly met at the gym, and then met for lunch dates and eventually was involved with in a full-blown relationship. Accusations that Kelly and Springsteen hooked up exploded about a year ago, when Kelly’s husband Arthur Kelly filed for divorce.

According to divorce papers obtained by the New York Post, Arthur Kelly lays out the story of the affair between his wife and Bruce, and claims that they met at a fancy Red Bank, NJ gym.

Bruce was a real boor, says Arthur in court papers: He would allegedly stand at the end of the treadmill as Ann ran because, as Bruce supposedly told Ann, he was admiring her butt — the “nicest ass” in the gym.

Ann also claimed, according to court papers, that Bruce would sing to her in rehearsal, and send her tickets to shows.

Bruce has been accused of adultery before: In 2002, he was accused of having a tryst with a 9-11 widow, and, back in 1989, he was accused of cheating on his then-wife Julianne Phillips with current wife Scialfa.

Ann Kelly has denied any affair, and Bruce’s people didn’t comment on the Post’s story.

We can’t get over how much Bruce’s alleged mistress Ann looks exactly like his wife, Patti. Seriously, she’s a dead ringer!

Click here to see the mistress!

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Is EVERY famous guy a cheater?! It’s starting to look that way! First, Tiger Woods. Then, Jesse James. Next, Jake Pavelka … and now Reggie Bush?

A new report in The National Enquirer says that Kim Kardashian‘s long-time boyfriend Reggie, “has been caught red-handed spending the night with a hot-looking blonde waitress.” The girl is 27-year-old January Gessert, and she’s apparently a waitress at the Sagebrush Cantina in Calabasas, CA.

The magazine’s proof boils down to one night, Mar. 16, when Reggie and a pal met up with January at Red Rock bar on the Sunset Strip. At 1:15 am, Reggie went home … and just 45 minutes later, January arrived with a female friend!

At 7 am that morning, January and her friend left Reggie’s.  Sounds pretty suspicious to us! But a rep for Reggie insists his friend is dating January, and that the New Orleans Saint has always been faithful.

We don’t understand how these men could cheat on women like Elin Nordegren, Sandra Bullock and Kim Kardashian! Yes, and even Vienna Giaradi! (Just because she has a wild past and wears low-cut shirts doesn’t mean she deserves to be cheated on.)

Enough of the cheating stories guys! What about you, BFFs? Have you had enough? —Corynne Steindler

Elin Nordegren, your nightmare just won’t end! A Florida porn queen named Devon James is the latest — and 16th — woman to come out of the Woods-work, claiming a two-and-a-half-year affair with the golfer. Yesterday, on the Bubba The Love Sponge radio show, James alleged that Tiger paid her and another woman $2,000 each for a threesome in 2006, and that porn films played in the background while she and her unnamed friend had “dirty” sex.

What’s more, Devon alleged there’s a whole trove of more sext messages with Devon, including ones in which he called her “wh**e,” not unlike the cretinous communication he had with another alleged mistress, Joslyn James.

Do you think he confessed to Elin? Tell us now!

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