Posted Fri, April 30, 2010 12:29pm EST

Halle, Stop Choosing Toxic Men Who Are Bad For You! You Deserve So Much Better!!

Halle Berry has horrible luck with men: Two failed marriages and now, a reported break-up with baby daddy Gabriel Aubry. At age 43, why hasn’t Halle learned how to pick a man who will stick by her side?

Halle Berry‘s first marriage to baseball player David Justice ended in divorce in 1996. It was rumored that he initiated the split and she has been very open in saying that after their break-up she considered suicide but couldn’t bear the thought of her mother finding her body.

She married actor and singer Eric Benet in 2003, but they too divorced after Benet admitted that he cheated on the actress.

Halle has also admitted that before she was married to David she was the victim of domestic violence at the hands of a boyfriend that left her deaf in one ear.

We thought she had really found her soul mate in Gabriel. Despite the age difference the pair seemed to be so happy.

“I’m really happy in my personal life, which is a novelty to me. You know, I’m not the girl that has the best relationships,” Halle laughed in an interview in 2006.”

But now he has gone and dumped her too.

Why does Halle keep making such poor choices about men? It may have to do with a low sense of self worth explains relationship expert Dr. Gilda Carle.

“Anyone who continues to choose people who are bad for them does it because they have a low self-esteem and self-worth. Halle doesn’t feel like she deserves any better and that feeling is only reinforced when she is treated badly,” Dr. Gilda explains. “Then she can go back and say, ‘I knew I was unworthy.’ When you continue to choose people who fit the same mold that’s when you need to start taking notes. Patterns tell us everything about ourselves.”

Halle has known domestic abuse all her life. In 2005 she admitted that her mother was also a victim.

“Domestic violence is something I’ve known about since I was a child. My mother was a victim of it. Early on in my life I made choices, and I chose men that were abusive because that was what I knew growing up…First time it happened, I knew enough to keep moving,” Halle said.

Childhood scars run deep and no matter how rich and famous you are, a person may never overcome the psychological trauma of abuse.

“Halle never saw a good relationship. She never saw what a good relationship looked like. A child who has watched a parent be domestically abused interprets that as love,” explains psychology expert and author Cooper Lawrence. “She may no longer reach out to men who are physical abusers, but she doesn’t look for the kind of man who will treat her the way she deserves to be treated. Healing is a lifelong process and Halle should seek therapy before she enters another serious relationship.”

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Posted at 7:08 AM on September 20, 2010  

I love Halle and im sad to hear that she is suffering. Reading this made me want to cry because I know her pain. I hope that she prays for strength and help from God to move past this. Some men can make you feel like your in heaven one min. And in hell the next. Be strong Halle. This too will pass.

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Posted at 2:26 PM on April 30, 2010  

Monogamy isn’t a natural human state….its a social construct.

And Halle wanting to kill herself? that just shows she doesn’t believe in herself to be a strong independant woman. You don’t need a man to have a happy life

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