Posted Wed, November 17, 2010 6:16pm EST

Bonnie Says: The Real Reason Men Cheat on Beauties Like Eva Longoria, Elin & Sandra Bullock!

Posted Wed, November 17, 2010 6:16pm EST

Whether it’s your travel or work schedule, or his — if you don’t see your husband ALL the time, there’s a good chance he’ll cheat!

If you ever believed that a man can stay true when he’s separated from you by thousands of miles, then think again. This year alone, husbands who have to travel for work, have proven to be cheaters time and time again.

Professional athletes like Tiger Woods,  basketball pro Tony Parker, Tiki Barber and Brett Farve have every reason NOT to be at home with their wives. They have to travel for games and tournaments. Plus, the culture of professional athlete is known to tolerate, and even encourage, its players to play around. Plus, like rock stars, pro athletes have their groupies, ready to comply with no-strings  attached sex. “Women throw themselves at these sports players. People in the public eye, the spotlight, have a lot more opportunities than regular peoples,” points out psychotherapist Rhonda Findling author of Don’t Call That Man: A Survival Guide To Letting Go.

Actors on location experience the same access to hordes of willing female fans. “Men are more likely to cheat in any relationship, long distance or otherwise. It goes back to cave men times. The women’s job was always to take care of the home and the men’s job was to go out and spread their seed,” says relationship expert Cooper Lawrence, author of The Celebrity Cult. Plus, they have the added attraction of gorgeous female co-stars, scripted love scenes and isolated locations where they are thrown together  without their mates (i.e. Brad Pitt and Angelina on the Italian set of Mr. & Mrs. Smith.)

But if you’re the one who has to be on the road for work,  for months at a time a la Sandra Bullock, then that’s just as bad! Leaving your man alone for extended periods of time, whether you are a celebrity or not, is just asking for trouble with a capital “T.”

Here’s the bottom line — men are HORNY! It’s a fact of life! And it’s very hard, shall we say, for them to resist a woman who’s available and into it.

For men, even those who like being married, all too often it is out of sight, out of mind. Yeah, they very well may still love you BUT they like having sex, when they want it, even more. “Some guys can’t take being alone and some men need that physical connection, more than others,” explains Rhonda Findling.

Take heed! Don’t marry a man who will be a long distance lover  if you want your lover all to yourself!

What do you think?

–Bonnie Fuller

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John

Posted at 2:29 AM on August 31, 2011  

Wow, I have never been so insulted in my life. Men are just walking penises, huh? I would never cheat on my wife. EVER. It’s called love. If they cheat, they don’t love their wife. Period. My wife had an affair for 3 months and I found out a month ago. I would rather have a broken arm than to go through this emotional pain. I don’t know if I can learn to trust her again but I am trying because I have 3 kids and I love my family. She didn’t just cheat on me, she cheated on US.

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Lizardgrad89

Posted at 12:41 PM on December 5, 2010  

Here’s some truth for all of you:

A healthy and balanced adult life includes sex.

A healthy and balanced marriage includes sex.

Further, to retain the required mental intimacy in a relationship, physical intimacy must be renewed regularly.

If you are in a relationship where you are apart for a week or two at a time, then you can rightfully expect your mate to remain faithful. However, if you are separated for longer periods, well, the body has needs, which will eventually overwhelm the mind. Sooner or later, even the most committed person will crack.

The one thing in common in all these marriages is that they are very wealthy. If Eva wants to keep Tony faithful, she needs to be certain to fly to his location (or him fly to hers) on a regular basis, so they can renew their intimacy. This will keep the marriage strong. Staying apart for long periods only lets it deteriorate.

If the marriage becomes unbalanced this way, the lives of the people in the marriage become unbalanced, and eventually, there is no emotional bond any longer, just a legal one. At this point cheating becomes inevitable. People seek balance in their lives, and if they can’t rebalance the marriage, they will at least rebalance themselves.

The wild card, of course, is alcohol. But in these situations, alcohol is an excuse. “I’m sorry honey, it’s not my fault, I was drunk”.

When I’m away from home on business, it’s never for more than a week, and I never have more than a single drink, and only then if I am at a business function where alcohol is served. I have never had an issue with temptation, I don’t allow it, I just stay out of those situations.

However, if the situation was a half-year or more, things might well be different.

Long story short, it takes two destroy a marriage.

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Gail

Posted at 3:24 PM on November 27, 2010  

I agree. I dont think its an “excuse” for men to cheat, but its the reality in how men think. Of course, all men do not cheat, and not all women are faithful. Long distance reltionships and being away from your spouse for long periods of time is not good for the marriage. Women (or men for that matter) who think that “my man would never cheat” are in for a shock. If they do decide to cheat,and you are unaware, its just that he hasnt been caught; “yet’. I beleive that men are opportunists. If they have a chance to cheat, and there is a good chance that they wont be caught, they will just because they can get away with it. I would not be surprised if Tony and Erin were lying about having sex together. I think that most cheaters will lie unless they are backed in a corner where they cant wiggle out from. Remember, Bill Clinton “did not have sexual relations with that woman.”!!!

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Marc

Posted at 8:39 AM on November 21, 2010  

I think the big fat egos of stars may play in there as well.

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Marty

Posted at 2:22 AM on November 21, 2010  

This is the most bullsh@t thing I have ever read! My husband who is a military. Who serves his country and has been gone from me for long amounts of time have NEVER CHEATED!! To think that all men cheat if they are in a long distance realtionship is crap. For the woman who wrote this she leads a sad life and not a happily married life. I wouldnt want to be her!

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Theresa

Posted at 5:06 AM on November 21, 2010  

Just keep thinking that way. It’s like saying you children would never, ever do anything wrong. Get serious, and live in the real world.

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Gail

Posted at 3:28 PM on November 27, 2010  

For your sake, I hope your right. It doesn’t sound like you are in touch with reality. Military men are notorious for cheating. There is no way for you to say that he “never cheated” because you aren’t there with him 24/7. Do you think he would tell you if he did?

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dah

Posted at 1:42 PM on November 19, 2010  

people that chear are just losers – no charachter or integrity. that’s pretty simple.
for long distant relationships, consider skyping and whacking/rubbing. that could be new and fun!

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dang

Posted at 11:04 AM on November 19, 2010  

I agree with you Ashley. It doesn’t matter how beautiful you are, loving, supportive, or him loving you. If he has the opportuntity to cheat, he will cheat. He’s just prone to cheat. Period.

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Pilar

Posted at 9:22 PM on November 18, 2010  

Here is a better suggestion. All women should start charging money for sex, that way we can make money off it too.

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joan

Posted at 6:44 PM on November 18, 2010  

six months! damn. I’m sorry but that’s a long time to go without sex. Even I would get a little sketchy after about 3. Throw some alcohol into the mix and you’re playing with dynamite.

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FD

Posted at 5:29 PM on November 18, 2010  

Mankind is.not.monogamous! Look at the general apple barrel of mankind and tell me what you see. That’s right: The couples that do stay together are few and far between. It is in the genetic makeup of the male condition to spread seed for survival. It is evident in every other male species on Earth and men are no.different. If they were, they would marry and stay monogamous for life, yes? We call men “pigs” and “dogs” half-heartedly while they revel in the name, because we all know deep down inside they are no different than their 4-legged counterparts. Now, make a man rich and famous and it only compounds his ability to take more women. And what man is going to pass that up? Bonnie, a small tip to you: Older Men. They have had their fun and want companionship and to take things at a more relaxed pace. And you will always be younger, which is what men want as the rule.

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ashley

Posted at 1:04 PM on November 18, 2010  

That is probably one of the stupidest articles I’ve ever read. Whether you are long distance or not if you’re in a loving marraige and know how to treat a man right and you have a good guy than the guy will never treat. Sounds like you’re making excuses cause you could never hold a man. You’re also making women sound pathetic…like if you don’t trap a guy and see him everyday he will cheat. Maybe men have cheated on you because you have this warped view?

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Gail

Posted at 3:34 PM on November 27, 2010  

you miss the point!! Often times, men who cheat love their wives and are happily married. It has more to do with the fact that he can get away with it. Dont think that you are such a “better” woman than someone else just because you havent caught him yet.

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just my opinion

Posted at 10:26 AM on November 18, 2010  

I’m sorry, but are you actually giving cheaters and EXCUSE as to why they cheat? so now every person who has a job that requires them to travel should just give up any hope of marriage cause there’s no way in hell they will ever find someone faithful?

People cheat because they are selfish. Narcissistic, and shallow. Not because of their “needs”. My dad worked away for long periods of time when I was a kid, But I know without a doubt in my mind he would NEVER have even put himself into a position that could have turned compromising. Men who cheat, flirt with fire first, and then they get drawn into it. If they took even a second to consider anyone but themselves, they wouldn’t be near another woman alone in the first place.

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Marlene Dodson

Posted at 10:20 AM on November 18, 2010  

I think when couples marry they expect to have companionship and romance to keep the marriage alive.It depends on the person cheating. If the mate is on TV and going to lavish events, the partner (usally a man),gets lonely and any affection from a female makes him feel good.
Athletes seem to miss their mates as they are gone so much.It is too bad but I can see why this could happen. Not aall persons, intending to be monogomous, find it is difficult to be away from their mate.

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SAH

Posted at 11:13 AM on November 18, 2010  

Athletes (and celebs in general) cheat because no matter where they go there are women who continually throw themselves at them, and they feel entitled to it. A woman, or man for that matter, should feel comfortable being able to attend work events, traveling, or anything else, and not have to worry about being cheated on. This was her job before they got married, he knew what he signed up for. Also, for most sports, athletes travel constantly, so if anyone should have been feeling lonely, it would be her.

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oh lordy

Posted at 9:51 AM on November 18, 2010  

you heard it, women! now go chain your men to your ankles!

lol

dear bonnie, you must have met some really messed up men in your life :(

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SAH

Posted at 8:46 AM on November 18, 2010  

Bonnie,
No disrespect intended, however, you couldn’t be further from correct. My husband is an athletic trainer for a professional hockey team, which of course, leads to longs separations, and he has not cheated. Nor would he cheat. I think this “epidemic” amongst the celeb set is nothing new. It comes more from a sense of entitlement on their part, not so much from the distance. Please do not use a select few to judge all couples who’s jobs lead to long periods of separation…

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Sasha

Posted at 2:52 AM on November 18, 2010  

Don’t be so narrow minded!!!!!

Not ALL men are horny with no self control or respect and loyalty – it’s STUPID to think ALL men are like that!! If a man is immoral and doesn’t mind cheating and is scum — he’ll cheat on you, whether distance is there or even if you’re in the next room!!! Stop being naive!! It’s not distance that makes a man cheat,it’s his CHARACTER!!!!!!!!! And there are good men in the world who are loyal and moral!!

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Kelly

Posted at 11:57 AM on November 19, 2010  

people are not scum if they have sex or want to have sex with someone other than their husband or wife, especially boyfriends or girlfriends. If they are scum and deserve to die what about people who murder or rape or have sex with babies, lots of worse things to do than have sex, give me a break, you women who think that is the worst thing in the world to do need to get a grip.

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Alicia

Posted at 1:23 AM on November 22, 2010  

Sasha, you are so right. Despite flying all over theworld to cheat on Elin, Tiger cheated on her with the neighbour’s daughter, right next door. It is his habit, he wants to do it. Its not ;ike he was away from home for long. He WAS home. He just loves to cheat.

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tawny

Posted at 9:20 PM on November 17, 2010  

eva and tony had an open marriage, there have been whisperings about this for years about these two. Eva is simply playing the victim now, when in reality she was participating in extracurricular activities herself too. As a couple they have starred in various blind items that have detailed their kinky ways, so don’t feel too bad for Eva. She’s a participant, not a victim, in this mess.

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cara

Posted at 9:18 PM on November 17, 2010  

no, don’t marry athletes or nasty biker dudes. A CNN study concluded 90 percent of all athletes cheat-they are too entitled as well as too seperated from their wives. And Jesse? Oh please, he’s got “I’m a mess” stamped all over him–he was married to a porn star before sandra! This isn’t about distance, it’s only one factor. There are other factors here that raise red flags, and sandra and Eva were smart enough women to realize the risks by picking athletes and bad boys.

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jay

Posted at 8:57 PM on November 17, 2010  

I believe a good guy would NOT cheat. Come on, if you’re talking long distance it can be every star who just got married, from katy perry to hilary duff. All celebs usually have long dist romances. Not ALL cheat! what about the high divorce rate in non celebs’ lives? who are not living long distance… people cheat when they get bored, take the other granted, don’t communicate, make time for each other. The success of long distance relationships depends on the committment and the effort to spend time together etc, make it work.

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Advocate 1234

Posted at 10:39 PM on November 18, 2010  

I’m sorry Bonnie , but I have to disagree with your opinion
about the only way to keep a man is to stay at home with him and watch him like a hawk so he does not cheat? If this is the case in any relationship, the man is no good, plain and simple, any women with a good head on her shoulders should just run and never look back once she finds out he’s a cheater.
A good man with morals, a good heart and strong character would not cheat on his wife for anyone. Giving these men a license to cheat on women, is insulting to the female sex and only further promotes the loose attitude that these spineless poor excuse for men have to perpetuate their behavior.

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