Posted Mon, November 29, 2010 4:36pm EDT

Bonnie Says: Chris Brown Deserves A Chance To Move On & So Does Rihanna

Posted Mon, November 29, 2010 4:36pm EDT

As both stars step out to promote their new music, isn’t it time to let them live their lives.

I will never EVER condone domestic violence. What Chris Brown did to Rihanna was inexcusable. BUT I also believe that most people — not murderers — deserve a second chance to redeem themselves. And victims also deserve a chance to stop seeing themselves as victims. Rihanna tweeted on Nov. 28, “People won’t stop askin abt it! Its f*ckin annoying! Nobody wants to relive that, but some ppl can’t respect that!”

She also spoke out in the January issue of British GQ about how much she is ready to move on. “It’s a moment in my life I wish would disappear,” she told the magazine.

And you know what – if that’s how she feels –she is entitled to throw off her victimhood. She doesn’t HAVE to be the poster girl for domestic violence, if she doesn’t choose to be.

As for Chris Brown,21,  – he DOES owe Rihanna,22, and society A LOT. #1, to change his behavior so he never hits a woman again and #2, to fulfill the terms of his sentence.

However, by all accounts, he has committed whole-heartedly to both of these obligations. He publicly apologized without excuses to Rihanna in a two-minute video in July, 2009,   and then on this  Nov. 18, LA Superior Court Judge Patricia M. Schnegg commended Chris for his diligence in completing the terms of his probation.

“Out of thousands of probationers, no one has done a better or more consistent job then you have, and I really want to commend you for taking responsibility and for actually working diligently to complete all the things the court has required of you,” she told him.

Chris by then, had completed 73 out of 180 days of his community service and had almost finished with his required domestic violence counseling.

He will still be on probation for some time – he was sentenced to five years probation in Aug/ 2009.

Now since Judge Schnegg saw fit to commend him AND Chris has respected women and appears to have learned a HUGE lesson, I believe it’s fair to let him continue to redeem himself. He has earned the right to a second chance. If we weren’t willing to give people ,especially young people ,who make big mistakes a second chance ever, then we might as well just lock them away in prison and throw away the key. But isn’t forgiveness, a key tenant in our society?

My sense is that Rihanna, who is promoting her new album , Loud, is ready to let him become a better person – that’s one of the reasons she doesn’t want to discuss the awful incident any longer.

Chris has a hot new singleYeah 3x – that’s climbing the charts for him again. I believe his fans are giving him a second chance too. Now what do you think Hollywoodlifers?

–Bonnie Fuller

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Brian

Posted at 4:32 PM on February 26, 2011  

Chris Brown is not sorry…just sorry he got caught…

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Carl Mathias

Posted at 11:43 PM on December 2, 2010  

Wow my man should be forgiven since he has apology publicly & he deserve the second chance & keep eye on him. I love Rihanna so much with passion that I will not want anything to hot her & her emotionally feelings

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blaize

Posted at 2:03 PM on December 1, 2010  

Wow. You know society’s piorities are SERIOUSLY screwed when a grown man physically and emotionally abusing a woman whom he professes to love is forgivable but a teenage girl caught expressing and exploring her sexuality is unacceptable. (Miley and the slut label).

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love

Posted at 1:17 PM on December 1, 2010  

i wonder if youd argue the same way if this had happened to one of your daughters.

just a thought but just because she continues to work etc. doesnt mean shes over it. how do you know she doesnt have trust issues now that shes been violated? that shes extra careful who she spends some alone-time with? how do you know that what he broke that night is whole again? are you her therapist? didnt think so.

similarly, do you think just because rape victims continue with their “lives” theyre suddenly over it and just the way they were before? all innocent and intact? well let me tell you thats not how it works. and it seems unfair that he gets to live his life without any serious consequences whereas is changed for life after such an event.

so no, i dont feel any sympathy for this boy. he shall struggle for another 2 or 5 years and then maybe he shall be forgiven :P

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Lacus

Posted at 7:52 AM on December 1, 2010  

for the first time, and maybe the last, i agree with BONNIE. rihanna has been able to put it behind her, so should we all.

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Keesha

Posted at 9:53 PM on November 30, 2010  

I love this article and I absolutely agree with you. Chris seems to be taking his punishment seriously and he is staying out of trouble. I feel that he should be able to continue with his music career. Those that feel that he shouldn’t have a career shouldn’t buy his music, simple as that.

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Ditto

Posted at 7:39 PM on November 30, 2010  

Man I would love a chance to abuse rehabber.. I mean Rihanna

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Mei

Posted at 11:55 AM on November 30, 2010  

It’s a sad, weak woman who gets back together with an abuser. And I would LOVE “Hollywood Life” if Bonnie were fired. I can’t stand her posts. She always reminds me of the saying, “Better to remain silent and be thought of a fool, rather than speak out and remove all doubt.”

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Keesha

Posted at 9:57 PM on November 30, 2010  

It’s funny that you should say that “Better to remain silent and be though of a fool, rather than speak out and remove all doubt” because that quote mostly definitely applies to YOU, not Bonnie. And I would LOVE if you would learn the true meaning of FORGIVENESS and stop trying to bring down those who do know what that means.

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Cynthia

Posted at 9:25 AM on November 30, 2010  

Yes, he does deserve a second chance…..Chris is truly sorry for his actions, and all the rumors that’s going on with him as of late, he’s sincere about the mistake he made. He’s going to be all right, he will have a long career ahead of him, comeback’s around the corner!

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Keesha

Posted at 9:58 PM on November 30, 2010  

I absolutely agree with you!

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sunflower27828

Posted at 7:41 PM on November 29, 2010  

@true….DITTO ….DITTO…….DITTO……lol

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true

Posted at 6:47 PM on November 29, 2010  

i like this article it express exactly how i feel about the situation….in my heart i still feel like if the retraining order was not in place they would still be humping behind the scences…

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nia

Posted at 6:32 PM on November 29, 2010  

i agree, ive forgiven him along time ago, he isnt a repeated offender which i really respect….he seems to learned his lesson, and also i dont see why people keep calling him a women beater when clearly hes only done thisne time, and we are all human so we all have limits and i guess he was pushed over his……all in all i am really proud of him, and hopes he takes this as life lesson and never does this again.

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LEB

Posted at 8:44 PM on November 29, 2010  

I agree! Thank u Bonnie for the nice article!

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