Guess what girls — don’t be envious of the most beautiful women in the world
Look at Elin, look at Sandra Bullock, look at Halle, Britney, JLo, Reese, Julia Roberts, Jessica Simpson — they’ve ALL been cheated on!
It’s become irrevocably clear — beauty is no vaccination against having your man cheat. and it’s happened in every public area. Models — gorgeous supermodel Christie Brinkley cheated on by her architect husband Peter Cook. Politics — stunning Silda Spitzer cheated on by her husband Eliot Spitzer. Sports — head turner Cynthia Rodriguez cheated on by her Yankee star A-Rod, and then when it comes to the world of celebrity, the list goes on and on with Jesse James’ transgressions against his beautiful Oscar-winning wife Sandra, who thanked him in her acceptance speech, is just the latest jaw-dropper.
So why doesn’t beauty confer ANY protection against a cheating spouse, fiance or boyfriend?
The problem in this situation is you’re “the same beauty and guys are hard wired to like novelty,” explains Kate White, Editor-in-Chief of Cosmopolitan. “If you look at what men want in nature, it’s to spread their seed around.”
There’s that old saying “show me a beautiful women and I’ll show you a man who’s tired of sleeping with her.”
“Beautiful women are prey to men who want to use their beauty to elevate their own status. Because of their beauty they’re used to being adored, and they are flattered by guys who go completely goo goo for them,” explains relationship expert, Dr. Gilda Carle, who has treated many celebrities.
The problem is that those guys often don’t see beyond their beauty and they don’t like it when they wake up one day and see a real person, who has a real problem one day, whether it’s a cold or emotional needs. This type of man looked for a woman to make up for his own ego deficiencies, and when he can’t get enough of that, he looks elsewhere.”
Beautiful women may doom themselves to becoming cheating victims because they themselves have want a “charismatic and attractive love mate.” They’re often attracted to “narcissistic men.” Think Tiger, Jesse, K-Fed for Britney, Tony Romo for Jessica Simpson. “These men are very charismatic. They know how to get women interested in themselves. but because they are so attractive and charismatic themselves, they have other women throwing themselves at them, especially in high profile worlds,” Rhonda Findling, psychologist and author or The Commitment Cure: What To do If You Fall For An Ambivalent Man.
Beauty certainly doesn’t make a man committed to you. In fact a man who’s excited to be with a stunning woman, because she’s stunning can get even more excited to be with another fresher beauty. Think Jen Aniston and Brad Pitt and you get the picture. In fact, Angelina should beware, according to Findling, because men who are swept away by beauty, aren’t committed to their relationships or families.
If you think beautiful women have it easier attracting men then yes — that may be true except that as these shrinks point out, they attract the wrong men for the wrong reasons.
And consider this — they may, like Elin, think their beauty is enough to change a player like Tiger into a devoted husband. “Beauty is not enough to keep a player in line,” stresses Maryanne Comaroto, a relationship coach and author of Hindsight: What You Need To Know Before You Drop Your Drawers. “If a man you’re dealing with has a track record of dating a series of beautiful women, he’s not likely to stick with your relationship.”
Neither is it likely that a man like Jesse James with a history of being a “sex junkie, is likely to transform into the committed husband that Sandra hoped for. “Jesse James is a promise-I’ll-never-do-it-again-guy,” says Comaroto.
So why did a beautiful woman of substance like Sandra fall head over heels for him?
She possibly was so earnest and good-hearted herself, she couldn’t even imagine that she could be “played.” “Jesse seduced her. He saw an opportunity, a meal ticket and she’d never been exposed to anyone like him before,” believes Comaroto.
Let’s hope she learned her lesson. How many beautiful women don’t — hey Halle, Jen and Kim Kardashian — you keep getting attracted to the same kind of gorgeous player guys that won’t make a true commitment.
So BFF’s out there — don’t hate them for being the most beautiful women in the world. Thank the Lord, you have beauty that the right man will appreciate.