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Posted Tue, June 7, 2011 6:01pm EDT

Anthony Weiner, Tony Parker & Ashton Kutcher: Accused Sexters—BUT Is It Cheating? Our Sexpert Says 'Yes!'

Anthony Weiner isn’t the only high-profile male to be revealed as a chronic sexter: Within the last year alone, Ashton Kutcher and Eva Longoria‘s now ex-husband Tony Parker have weathered similar storms.

But unlike Ashton, who reportedly may have hooked up with twenty-something Brittney Jones (he vehemently denied her claims though, saying “Star magazine Calling me a ‘cheater’ qualifies as defamation of character), Weiner and Parker never physically consummated their relationships with the objects of their desire.

So did Weiner and Parker (who split from Eva shortly after the scandal broke) cheat on their spouses? Hell, yeah! So says Dr. Ian Kerner, a New York City-based sex therapist and the founder of

“Sexting is a form of cheating. It’s absolutely cheating, because it’s a pattern of lying, and of one person hiding something from their spouse,” says Kerner, author of several books, including “She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide To Pleasuring A Woman.”

And like Weiner, just because Parker says he never had sexual relations with the recipient of his racy texts (a fellow basketball player’s ex-wife), Kerner tells it’s just as emotional. “Sexting can really be a pattern of emotional infidelity,” Kerner says. “It’s cheating without sex, but the intensity of it and the feeling can be just as big, and can still lead to divorce.”

Kerner does say “there are degrees” of how inappropriate such texts are, but that line is pretty easy to cross: “As soon as you are hiding something from your spouse, and you say something sexually suggestive, you’re keeping a secret and that’s the beginning of a negative chain of events. I think it begins when you start to keep a sexual secret.”

While men seem to be leading the sexting charge, women, of course, sext too, although with a different focus, says Kerner. “Men will do it more for the sexual titilation, photos of genitals, etc. Women will send sexy photos, but generally it’s more about the emotional, so it’s less lewder.”

As for Weiner, Kerner isn’t convinced the scandal is over. “I think there will be a a long trail of things going back,” says Kerner. “He strikes me as a serial womanizer…My take is Weiner is a thrill seeker…and he wants instant gratification.”