Angelina and Brad, you’re in the midst of an increasingly ugly divorce and custody battle. You need to take a moment now and remember that what absolutely matters most is the well-being of your kids.
Angelina Jolie, you filed for divorce on Sept. 19 and made, what seemed to be, an unusual demand for someone who had painted a happy Jolie-Pitt family portrait for so many years. You requested sole physical custody of your six children, ages 8 to 15.
This is a BIG deal. If your request is granted, estranged husband Brad Pitt would be prevented from having his children live with him for half the time. He’d only be allowed to see them, on some weekends and/or holidays and maybe not even then.
Your request dropped like a bombshell, shattering the a fairytale image of the big and deliriously happy Brangelina family. That myth has been busted. And in a huge way.
Not only does it now seem like you and Brad have had more than your normal share of disagreements and opportunities to grow apart, there are allegations of far bigger issues. Brad is being investigated by the FBI after shocking claims that he was verbally and physically abusive to his son Maddox, 15, on a private plane on Sept. 14. Because the incident actually occurred in the air – and not in any one city or country – it falls under the FBI’s jurisdiction.
The allegations have included that Brad was drinking heavily before the incident occurred. Now, both Brad and Angelina have apparently been questioned by LA’s Department of Child & Family Services and also the FBI. This is serious stuff.
Angelina has issued a statement saying she filed for divorce to protect “the health of the family.” Brad hasn’t responded to Angie’s divorce papers yet and has publicly stated, “I am very saddened by this, but what matters most now is the well-being of our kids.”
Nevertheless, HollywoodLife‘s sources say that Brad is prepared to fight tooth and nail to win joint custody of his precious children. Right now, the only people who know exactly what happened on that private plane are Angelina, Brad, their children and presumably, some of their team members. However, there is now a new report that video footage of the argument may exist.
But, no matter what, both Brad and Angelina, need to focus intensely on doing everything that is best for their children and they need to do it together and not combatively. If Brad has substance abuse issues and/or anger issues, then he needs to get himself help on both fronts. And fast. On the other hand, it sure would be great if his life partner of 12 years would urge him and help him to do so. Even if Angelina has fallen out of love with Brad and is determined to divorce him, she should be concerned enough about the father of her children to help him take steps to improve himself.
After all – joint physical custody, or not – Brad will be their father for the rest of their lives. She can divorce her husband, but the children aren’t divorcing their dad. And they’ll want and need him. And he’s made it clear that he wants to be deeply involved with them, too. And, Angelina, that’s a good thing. Even if Brad has serious issues right now, that he must address, any mother should want a loving father to be involved with his kids.
In both the near and short term, it’s by far in the interests of your children, for both of you, to pull your differences out of the public realm and to talk and negotiate in private. Get top professionals to help you – you certainly can afford them – and work on dialing back your anger and frustrations with each other.
You don’t need to come to final decisions within days. You can take time. But as you do, just keep those six, very special beings in both of your minds and always do what’s truly in the best interests to keep them feeling as safe, secure and loved, as possible.
Do you agree, Hollywoodlifers? Let me know.