Dating in the digital age can be complicated, to say the least. HollywoodLife.com talked EXCLUSIVELY to Milo Ventimiglia and Shawn Ashmore about their new show ‘Relationship Status,’ premiering on go90!
Relationship Status follows a group of young people in New York and Los Angeles as they face dating in the modern world. HollywoodLife.com spoke exclusively to Milo Ventimiglia and Shawn Ashmore at the Tribeca Film Festival about the show, their thoughts about finding a connection online and more!
So tell me about Relationship Status.
Milo Ventimiglia: I’ve been in the digital world for a long time. It doesn’t matter where you get your stories told. It’s a place to tell great stories — on a phone, in the movie theater, on your TV, on your tablet, on your smart TV. It doesn’t really matter, a story is a good story. For me, I came on board this project over 2 years ago. It was presented to me by Full Fathom Five, and I read this great script and I was like this is amazing — it’s relevant, it’s current, it’s topical, and I want to be a part of this. I want to help put this together, and I want to be on camera with it, and hopefully collect a lot of great friends to be on camera with me.
Shawn Ashmore: It was light and fresh compared to some of the work I’d been doing… I just really like the story that was being told. I liked that it was a newer platform. For me, it was new experience and I liked how these are episodes you can access and consume in 10 minutes on your mobile phone. This is where we’re moving. You’re stuck in a cab in traffic? Watch an episode. On the train? Watch an episode. So I just think that’s interesting. The medium is interesting, I think the script is interesting. I could totally relate to this character Ben. I’m married, and he’s like the one guy in the story who’s found his partner and moved on. I sort of missed the digital dating age. I’ve been with my wife for about 8 years so I never really experienced it.
MV: I completely relate to Jack the gay bartender. When I first read the script, I was impressed by all of these great characters. For me, it’s something I don’t get to play that often — a fun-spirited, very loose, on-his-heels kind of guy. He’s an open guy. I know a lot of guys out there that are like Jack, just enjoying their lives day-to-day just looking for as much excitement as they can.
What’s the biggest social media no-no?
MV: These apps, these connective pieces, they put things together in such great quantities, but they also keep us so separated. I’m a bit of an analog guy, old school. I like to meet someone and have that instant connection. Dating no-nos? I would say to just be yourself. Actually project who you are and be truthful to it as opposed to projecting this great, fun, cool life.
SA: Your dating profile is sort of an exaggeration of yourself. Then again, when you first start dating someone, you’ve got the armor up. Like, okay, these are the things that bother me, I’m not going to let them know yet. I don’t want to scare them off. When in reality, you’re going to get to that place anymore. I’m not saying be an asshole upfront, but what I’m saying is be real. Just be honest about what you like or don’t like because you’re going to weed through all those people who aren’t right for you anyway. At the end of the day, Relationship Status is about finding a connection, finding a partner, finding someone who makes you happy. And whether that’s on a digital platform, or meeting someone on the street, thats eventually what you have to do when using these apps.
MV: Unless you’re catfishing.
Do you think it’s harder to find a connection in the digital age?
MV: I think people are really quick to pass judgment. Like, they’ll meet someone and in the first two seconds they’ll say, “Oh, they’re not for me.” Yeah, but you don’t know them. You could go through 20 suitors in 10 seconds just by swiping right or left so I think there is a very quick to discard attitude and also a quick to get into something.
What are your thoughts about celebs on Tinder?
MV: I think people are people.
SA: If you want it. I guess the way that I look at it, if you’re an adult and in a position to do that, why not?
MV: You and I are old school. You want to meet someone and talk to them.
SA: Because I know immediately. I think what I was going to say about if it’s harder to find a connection online, absolutely. Because again, what I was saying about creating these profiles and these masks to do that, but you’re not giving the time and choice to do that. You’re just jumping in and out of situations. I just don’t think there’s any time. And it’s also like you’re mass buying this thing. In reality, you only need one person. You don’t need 500. So if you’re looking for one person — or maybe you need 8 I don’t know. I need one person. But I’m not going to exclude people who want to have different kinds of relationships. I do think there’s sort of thing where you don’t need all of this. I think there’s this paradox of choice where the more choice you have, the more uncertain you are of that choice.
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