The wise Lady Gaga once said, ‘Stop calling, stop calling.’ With the new iPhone SE hitting the market soon and couples being more technology-obsessed than ever, we spoke to relationship experts to find out why spending too much time on your smartphone can ruin your love life!
An iPhone is a girl’s best friend, but no one wants their phone to ruin their IRL relationships. We’ve got expert advice on how to curb your tech enthusiasm, and keep your smartphone from negatively impacting you and your partner!
We spoke to Project Soulmate’s matchmakers Lori Zaslow and Jennifer Zucher, and they tell us that important moments in a couple’s relationship are interrupted all the time by phones. “They are addictive. 40% of the American population suffers from this addiction — there is always something to look at 24/7, whether it is a Facebook feed or Instagram post,” Lori and Jen say. “Some people get FOMO when they are not constantly talking to their friends or up-to-date with their Facebook and Instagram feeds.” Social media isn’t the only distraction — games and the temptation to communicate with other people are also beyond accessible. “If you are playing a game or having a texting conversation while with your partner, it is hard to focus on maintaining a conversation.” So true!
Lori and Jennifer also had this shocking tidbit to share — some couples even choose to play on their phones in the bedroom rather than having sex! “Two people have to want to have sex at the same time. If someone is in the middle of a deep conversation or winning at their favorite game, they might want to postpone sex or not be in the mood at that moment.” OMG. Wonder if Kylie Jenner is sometimes too busy Snapchatting to do the deed with Tyga?! It could be!
Want to snap out of it? If you’re on a date or spending time with your significant other, don’t choose your phone. “You need to make a conscious effort to focus on your partner and being attentive,” our experts advise. “When you go out on a date night, you should leave the phone at home and just focus on your SO. You will see the difference it makes in your relationship!” No one is present if “they are completely engrossed in their phones”, and if it’s a huge issue for you, it may be a good idea to even leave your phone at home!
There you have it — phones can be a dangerous when it comes to dating, but you’re not totally doomed — just take a breather every once in a while and live in the moment, rather than concerning yourself with what’s going on on the Internet or Candy Crush. It can wait!
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