Ben did something we rarely see on ‘The Bachelor’ during overnight dates — and no, I’m not talking about sex (we see that all the time).
The world went nuts on Feb. 29 when Ben Higgins said “I love you” before the finale to not one, but two of his final three. During the show, I read hundreds of tweets bashing him for doing so — but I’m not so sure why. During the episode, Ben was not only honest to Lauren B., Caila and JoJo, but he was honest with himself, something we almost never see on The Bachelor.
People say things every day they don’t mean, or do things they probably shouldn’t, so what’s wrong with saying things you do mean? Ben told both girls that he’s in love with, that he was in love with them. So, was it the best idea? Maybe not, but at the end of the day, he said what he felt — and isn’t that the whole point of the show? To fall in love?
Many are saying that even if he did feel it, it’s just going to hurt more when he sends one home, since he told her he loved her. But honestly, the girls know going on the show that there are other girls there. Additionally, each girl had to know that since he said those three words to one, there was a possibility he said them to the other. Again, you know how the show works before going on.
Had Ben said to Caila that he loved her back when she said it, that would be a different story. However, he realized when he heard Lauren B., then JoJo say those three little words, that he felt the same way.
So, why not say it back? I actually give Ben credit for being honest right off the bat with each one of them. As he told Caila, he didn’t know how any of the girls felt until that week, and he didn’t know he would feel that way for each of them and not for Caila. When he realized he didn’t have those feelings toward her, he didn’t lead her to the rose ceremony, like so many Bachelors in the past have done. Instead, he just told her straight.
Do you agree with me? Do you think it was ok that Ben said “I love you” to both Lauren and JoJo? Let me know!