Anna Duggar, neither you nor Josh can pray away his huge sexual problems. Cheating, an addiction to pornography and repeated molesting of his sisters when he was a teen, all point to very serious sexual issues. He needs psychotherapy!
Anna Duggar, if you are determined to stay married to Josh Duggar, then you must convince him to get very serious professional therapy with a psychologist or psychiatrist who specializes in sexual issues. It’s very clear that the treatment that Josh received after he molested his sisters and another young girl did not resolve any of his problems. He and his parents, Michelle and Bob Duggar, may have done hours of praying, but it’s obvious that prayer on its own, hasn’t cured him of his sex addictions.
It’s also not beneficial for you to “potentially” blame yourself, something that you are doing according to an insider who spoke to People magazine. “No way is she leaving him,” an insider told People.com. “Maybe not publicly, ever, but privately, there will be some suggestion of whether or not she should have been more aware of the pressures Josh was under, of the issues he was facing, and how she could have better counseled him or helped him”. Anna, this is so wrong, if you’re being blamed for not helping Josh enough.
Josh has to take responsibility for his own actions. He’s an adult now and he certainly knew about his own secret life of cheating and watching pornography. He’s the one who set up two accounts on the Ashley Madison website, which is dedicated to helping married men and women find cheating partners . If Josh never told you about his urges and addictions, then why should you take the blame for his problems.
Now, if you truly knew, before it became public, that Josh had molested his sisters when he was a teen, and you didn’t urge him to have continued therapy, then you may have been either too naïve or too trusting of Josh and his family. But now, Josh has admitted that he has “been the biggest hypocrite ever. While espousing faith and family values, [he has] been unfaithful to [his] wife.”
He needs to do more than confess his sins and pray, and you need to insist on that.
Anna Duggar: Get Josh Treatment…Or Get A Divorce
You have to refuse to be a scapegoat for Josh’s behavior, but you also need to consider divorce, even though apparently you don’t want to. “Divorce is not even something that will be discussed”…” Anna and Josh are probably praying around the clock right now,” according to People‘s insider.
But prayer didn’t work when Josh was a teen and it won’t work now if it’s not accompanied by expert treatment. “He can’t pray this problem away. He needs to enter some sort of treatment program,” addiction expert and family therapist Steven Ornstein tells Hollywoodlife.com exclusively.
Anna, 27, you have a responsibility to yourself, but particularly to your four young children, to push Josh into treatment. “How can you trust him with young children? We don’t know the depth of his sexual problem. And yes, his sexual problems today stem from unresolved sexual problems from the past. We don’t know if he himself was a victim of molestation,” Ornstein points out. “If these issues are not dealt with, they persist and get worse…He needed major help back then and now!”
Anna, you need to insist he gets that help and if he refuses, you need to divorce him. You can’t subject yourself to a cheating mate who isn’t honest with you about all his serious sexual problems. You need to protect yourself and your children!
Do you agree, Hollywoodlifers? Should Anna give Josh an ultimatum — get help or get a divorce? Let me know.
— Bonnie Fuller