Breaking off a relationship is no easy task, so we know how tempting it is to just send a quick text message and be done with it. But, is that a huge relationship faux pas? Time to find out.
These days, we text to communicate way more than we call — but how does that apply to dating? When it’s time to end a relationship, is it OK to send a text message? Or, is that still considered rude? Let’s break it down.
If you’ve ever sent a breakup text or worse, received one, chances are it’s because the person sending the text is either afraid of confrontation, has trouble communicating his or her feelings, or he/she is just plain rude and lazy. (Unfortunately, in some instances, all three might apply.)
Here’s the deal: Even though texting is the most common way to communicate these days, it’s better to be up front and honest with the person you’ve been dating. In most cases, the best thing to do is to break up face-to-face or, at the very least, by phone. Even if you don’t mean for a text to be a “cop out,” 9 times out of 10 that’s exactly how it will be perceived.
But, Is A Breakup Text Forgivable?
For most breakups, just think of how you’d want to be treated and behave the same way. Chances are you’d prefer to have someone be honest and upfront so that you can move on. But is there ever an instance where it is OK to break up by text?
There are a few times where it might be OK to send a breakup text. If you’re unable to get in contact with the person in any way other than by text, then sending a message is better than nothing. Also, if you are for some reason afraid of seeing the person face-to-face because they might be considered unpredictable, then it’s best to avoid seeing him or her in person.
When in doubt, avoid sending a breakup text if you can. It’s more courteous to end things in person. It might seem easier to just send a text, but in the long run you’ll be happy that you did the right thing.
Tells us, HollywoodLifers — Do YOU think breaking up by text message is a huge relationship don’t? Or is it forgivable? Comment below!
— Susan Johnson