Scott Disick might want to think about coming home after all — strictly for the well-being of his three children. HollywoodLife.com spoke EXCLUSIVELY with Steven Ornstein, a family psychologist, who says that his behavior could make his kids feel ‘betrayed and abandoned.’
Ever since Kourtney Kardashian, 36, called it quits with Scott Disick, 32, he hasn’t returned home. Instead, he’s been partying and even missed out on celebrating his daughter, Penelope’s, third birthday. If he keeps up this behavior, his lack of communication could end up hurting Penelope, Mason 5, and Reign, 6 months, as “they may wonder what they did to make daddy leave,” family psychologist Steven Ornstein shares to HollywoodLife.com. Here’s the scoop.
“It is important to provide stability, patience and open communication for your kids when going through a divorce,” Steven tells HollywoodLife.com EXCLUSIVELY. “Kourtney Kardashian should seek the help of a professional to fully understand how to explain to her young children why daddy hasn’t been around. Remember, young children will feel betrayed and abandoned by the parent that is absent.”
Scott hasn’t been home since Kourtney kicked him out, but he’s still been refusing to go home. Instead, he’s making club appearances, while Kourtney has been protecting the kids by telling them that he’s been busy working. Kourtney hasn’t yet told the kids about their split, and when she does, Steven says, “it’s important to be extra patient.”
“They may act out more than usual,” he says. “It is imperative that neither one the parents bad-mouth each other in front of their children. You don’t want your child to feel like they have to pick sides.” Kourtney has already done a stellar job at this. In fact, she has a rule in her household where no one is allowed to bad-mouth Scott in front of the kids. This is so important. While Kourt has her issues with him, it’s crucial that Kourtney keeps that between her and Scott.
Scott finally did call his kids — thanks to Kris Jenner — after his long absence. His phone call to them brought tears to his eyes after they begged him to come home. However, if he keeps letting them down by not coming home, he’s damaging their relationship and the bond they share.
“Scott’s lack of communication with his children right now is hurtful, as the kids could very well take it personally,” Steven continues. “They may wonder what they did to make daddy leave. They may blame themselves. They need to be reassured that they are not the reason why daddy is not around, and that daddy still loves them very much. Remember, a young child’s universe revolves around them. Even if they are young, they will pick up on the unspoken stress in the family. Right now stability and consistency are key.”
So what exactly should Kourtney do? “Kourtney and other family members and caretakers should have open communication with the kids,” Steven says. “They need to encourage the kids to express their feelings of sadness and anger and reassure them on a regular basis that they are loved.”
What do YOU think, HollywoodLifers? Do you think Mason, Penelope and Reign feel hurt by Scott’s absence? Let us know.
— Julianne Ishler, Reporting by Sandra Clark