Bachelorette Kaitlyn Bristowe revealed some bombshell bedroom behavior on the June 22 episode, AND it made me wonder if disgruntled bachelor Ian was right — did you really just do this show to get your ‘field plowed’?!
Bachelorette Kaitlyn Bristowe, I’m all for checking out the goods before you make that major marital commitment, but you’re not in a normal dating situation and you have to be extra sensitive about the feelings of your multiple suitors. Being the Bachelorette requires a high degree of diplomacy as well as Olympian endurance and a major sense of humor. You definitely put a high premium on having fun while you husband hunt, and so far your dating energy isn’t flagging. But diplomacy … not so much!
Giving into your intense cravings for Nick Viall was a moment of instant gratification — and a mistake. You’ve already pushed your remaining pack of suitors to the limit by dropping him, into the bachelors brigade halfway through the series. Feelings are hurt, all your other guys’ egos are bruised — “hey, weren’t ANY of us good enough?” appears to be a common sentiment — and a couple actually seem to be falling deeply in love with you.
Kaitlyn, you can’t toy with these bachelors’ emotions. There’s too much at stake. It’s not fair to ask them to become emotionally invested in you and ask them to believe that you’re truly on a search for a soul mate, when you’re diving into the sack with Nick. It was clear on last night’s episode that you didn’t even try to resist your lust for Nick. No, you were the aggressor. You invited him back to your suite and he didn’t even have to urge you to slip into your bedroom, where the moaning (eww, gross) began.
Listen, Kaitlyn, I’m all for women being as liberated sexually as they want. And of course you need to be sexually compatible with the man you’re going to marry. But couldn’t you have waited until the Fantasy Suite, or a little closer to it, so that you’d hurt fewer guys? The whole point of this show is to encourage multiple eligible bachelors to fall in love with you so that you have your pick of the best husband material. By sleeping with Nick so early in the process, and with your focus so clearly physical — “he makes me feel like a desired woman” — you have risked losing other suitors who could be a much better match for you.
I know that you’ve said that you are still OK with your decision to do ‘it’ with Nick because you’re a ‘very in the moment person’ and your relationship with Nick ‘moved a little quicker than others’, but I think you eroded the trust that you had with all the other guys. And most men have a hard time handling sexual competition for the woman they love. Remember, Josh Murray was pretty freaked by the revelation that Bachelorette Andi Dorfman slept with Nick Viall in the Fantasy Suite, just a night or so before getting engaged to him.
Kaitlyn Bristowe: Stop Playing With Your Bachelors’ Hearts!
Also is Nick the one, who’s just really shallow. He thinks you’re so hot and sexy. He kept saying that on your date. But does he actually want to marry you? And does he like you for anything besides your body and lips? Meanwhile, poor Shawn is so smitten with you, he can’t stand the Bachelorette process anymore. “I can’t take it,” he muttered over and over. The guy is actually expressing the normal emotions of a man who’s fallen in love, thought he won your heart — you did tell him he’s “the one” — and now is back at the end of the love line. The poor guy looked beyond dejected when he didn’t get that special rose after your group date. He had tried so hard to get personal with you by showing you photos of his family.
Jared seems like he’s honestly committed to the finding love process, too, and he’s playing by all the rules, unlike Nick, who is aggressively taking every opportunity to “win”. But does he want to win your heart because he’s ready to go to the altar…or just because he wants to win? And then there’s sweet Ben Z., who’s clearly good guy material. These men are earnestly trying to see if you are the right match. When you ignore their honest intentions and instead just go for the hot hookup, like you’re on a Tinder date, you’re really playing emotional Russian roulette with the rest of your guy group.
Ian sounded like a pompous jerk when he told you off for not being “deep” enough for him and for not appreciating his Princeton-honed mind and muscles, but some of his criticism rang true. Are you there just for fun makeout sessions with cute guys, or do you want to find the husband of your dreams to make a life with? If the answer is #2, then diving into the sack with Nick was a trust-breaking mistake with the rest of your bachelors. To hear more about the Bachelorette, head over to iTunes to download the new HollywoodLife podcast for free!
Do you agree, HollywoodLifers? Let me know.
— Bonnie Fuller