Bachelor Chris Soules and Whitney Bischoff, we were sad to hear that your engagement is off and that you’ve split. But we have to applaud you for resisting the feeling that you had to stay in a not-right relationship.
Chris Soules and Whitney Bischoff, you met, fell in love and got engaged on The Bachelor. If you were different people who weren’t as strong as you are, you might have felt like you needed to do everything in your power to stay together, no matter how many misgivings you had.
I can imagine that when you’re in such a high profile public relationship that millions of fans have believed in, you could feel very pressured to carry on, and to hope for the best. You could even feel like you needed to follow through all the way to the alter and beyond. It would be easy for the two of you to have convinced yourselves that nothing important was really wrong in your relationship. That you were simply going through normal “pre-wedding” jitters, or just a phase, and that the misgivings that you were feeling would go away soon.
Lots of couples who don’t meet in an artificial way — like on The Bachelor — push away their feelings of misgiving about an upcoming marriage, because they feel like they can’t stop the wedding steam engine that is already on a fast track. Sadly, there are probably thousands of couples who marry every year because they feel pressured to go through with it, once they are engaged. Happily, you two were smart and mature enough not to make that heartbreaking mistake. As difficult as it must have been to end your engagement after “falling in love” in front of millions of Bachelor viewers, you made the absolutely right decision.
Chris and Whitney, you released this joint statement: “Whitney Bischoff and Chris Soules have mutually and amicably decided to end their engagement.They part with nothing but respect and admiration for one another and will continue to be supportive friends. They wish to thank everyone who has supported them through this journey.”
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Hopefully, you two will stay friends — you are both terrific people, who would never have met if you hadn’t signed up for The Bachelor. It’s a very unique experience that very few have been through, so having that in common is very special. But if the bottom line was that you simply weren’t in love, then you couldn’t go through with a marriage. Equally, if you couldn’t figure out how you two could meld your lives together, in a way that would be fulfilling for both of you, then you couldn’t tie the knot. The marriage would have only been disastrous and far more heartrending than any split now.
I’m guessing that Whitney realized that it wasn’t realistic for her to give up the career she loved as a fertility nurse in Chicago, in order to move to Arlington, Iowa, with its population of 413. Could she really sit around on Chris’ farm being a housewife, and waiting to get pregnant? There wasn’t really anything else for her to do in Arlington. She was used to stimulating and demanding work that she loved. Once the cameras turned off and The Bachelor and Dancing With The Stars ended, reality may have sunk in. Or maybe that you two just realized after your time together, that you weren’t compatible enough to make a lifetime commitment. Whatever the reason or reasons were, you did the right thing in calling off the engagement.
There have been some happily ever afters on The Bachelor and The Bachelorette. Bachelorettes Trista Sutter, Ashley Hebert and Desiree Hartsock all met their husbands — Ryan Sutter, J.P. Rosenbaum and Chris Siegfried on the show. Trista and Ashley have even had children. Bachelor Sean Lowe and Catherine Giudici have also happily tied the knot. Then there’s Jason Mesnick, who dumped his TV intended and got together with his runner-up, Molly Malaney, and they are now parents.
Television has worked like magic for these pairs. But, like in non-TV romances, if something isn’t right, it’s not right. You can’t force love. So Chris and Whitney, a high five to you for making the mature decision that was correct for you, and for parting ways with respect and admiration. True love still awaits you and you both WILL find it!
HollywoodLifers — are you surprised that Chris and Whitney split? Let me know.
— Bonnie Fuller