On the season premiere episode of ’19 Kids & Counting,’ we were able to get a glimpse into Jessa’s wedding plans with her fiance, Ben Seewald, while her older sister Jill settles into married life. But, are both girls moving too fast?
The Duggars aren’t ones for rushing into relationships, but once they are engaged, everything else seems to happen at the speed of light. On the Feb. 17 episode of 19 Kids and Counting, we got to see Jessa try to plan a wedding in only two months, and her older sister, Jill, not wasting any time to get pregnant.
’19 Kids & Counting’: Jessa Should Of Had A Longer Engagement
It’s true Duggar fashion to have a short engagement. In the book co-authored by Jana and Jinger Duggar, Growing Up Duggar, the sisters state that engagements are meant to be short. The book says the goal is to have an engagement only long enough to successfully plan a wedding.
I can’t help but wonder if that’s a good or bad thing. When Jill and Derick got married they were just starting out and didn’t have a lot of money between them, leaving them both strapped for cash when it came to planning their dream wedding.
Now, Jill’s younger sister, Jessa, is in the same boat. With only a little of two months to plan a wedding, it’s hard for anyone at that age to be able to foot a bill that big. Even the cheapest of weddings will still leave a gapping hole in your pocket.
But, if the Duggars opted for a longer engagement, that would mean more time to save — and the ability to see that your dream wedding is totally feasible.
Sadly, Jessa and her fiance, Ben, don’t have that luxury and in the premiere episode you could tell that money was a huge issue for the couple.
Jessa even mentions that when it comes to food for her wedding, it might just end up being hotdogs and ice cream. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with having a fun backyard bbq for a wedding, but the impression I got from her was that she wanted much more than that.
Seeing Jessa getting married so shortly after her big sister, it’s clear she plans on following in her footsteps and even using her decor. I can’t help but think everyone’s wedding should be unique in their own way. Maybe Jill doesn’t want her younger sister to copy everything she did for her celebration, but is too nice to say it out loud.
I’m not saying Jessa should have a million dollar wedding, I just think if she had a longer engagement and saved up, she could have had the wedding she really wanted.
Jill & Derick Should Have Taken More Time To Themselves
Jill and Derick were only married for 30 days before the couple found out they were pregnant. That was very quick!
Personally, I think the pair should have settled into married life for a bit longer before trying to get pregnant. They both are living on their own for the first time, and they are finally getting a chance to really have alone time with one another after a very long courtship surrounded by chaperones and prying eyes.
They should have really taken more time to adjust into their new relationship and enjoyed being with one another. They went from constantly being surrounded by people, to only thirty days of privacy, to quickly adding a baby into the mix. Yikes!
For Jill, she is used to a full house, but maybe she should have enjoyed her independence for a year or two before becoming a mom. Both her and Derick are young and haven’t been together for that long, they should have taken this time to learn more about one another.
What do YOU think, HollywoodLifers, do you think short engagements are less stressful or more? Would you have wanted to see Jill and Derick evolve as a couple before deciding to add kids into the mix? Let me know!
— Brittany King