Kourtney and Scott — if ever a couple was mismatched — it’s you. The premiere episode of ‘Kourtney & Khloe Take The Hamptons,’ just made that even more painfully obvious — you two seem miserable together.And you need to do something about that, now!
Kourtney Kardashian & Scott Disick: Get Counseling For Your Relationship
Even though you’ve been together for seven years and are now expecting your third child , all the problems that you’ve had as a couple from the very start of your romance — are still issues. None of them have been resolved.
Scott still loves to party and drink hard, while Kourtney hates that. Kourtney still likes to stay home and go to bed early with the kids, while Scott feels bored and suffocated by staying in.
You both admit that you barely sleep together and rarely have sex — not a healthy situation.
Kourtney, you refuse to commit to marriage with Scott, while he feels like he’s just being used as your “sperminator.”
The antagonism between you two on the episode was so intense, it was painful to watch.
And at it’s roots is the undeniable fact that you are two very different people with different interests and really different lifestyles.
Kourtney, you’re a homebody who loves just hanging with your kids, nesting, and as Khloe points out — you’d be happy just going to a farm stand every day to pick up fresh vegetables.
For you, your comfy summer Hamptons home with its big backyard — is heaven.
But for Scott — it’s prison. There is nothing to do. As Scott puts it point blank, “The Hamptons are ‘boring’ — it’s a ‘grab a gun and kill yourself life,” there.
Clearly, the decision to spend the summer in the Hamptons was your decision alone Kourtney.
And when Scott gets restless and wants to go out, you tell him to build a table for the kid, instead.
Kourtney, you have to know after all this time that Scott isn’t a handy, “build a table” kind of guy. Nor is he content to just hang out and go to farm stands.
You can keep trying hard to change Scott, but it hasn’t worked so far and it’s not working now.
When Scott persists and escapes to NYC to host a club party, you “punish” him severely.
You post security guards outside the house, who refuse to let him in. All this accomplishes is a nasty screaming match on the front lawn.
Kourtney Kardashian: You Said Hurtful Things To Scott
Now while I agree Kourtney, that it has to be unbearably frustrating to have the father of your children persist in earning money by partying at clubs.
But the barbs that you throw at him from your balcony are cruel and hurtful.
“I want to be alone with the kids forever,” you yell at Scott. “Go find a sloppy drunk girlfriend.”
You’ even tell Khloe on the episode that “every time I’m pregnant, I hate Scott. I don’t want to be with him.”
Kourtney, these are powerful and incredibly negative emotions to be feeling, and really nasty words to be hurling out, at the man who is your partner and the father of your children.
I get that Scott has put you through a lot and you feel like you’re delivering tough love for his own good.
“If you want to die, you can continue to act this way,” you point out, about his partying.
And you are right Kourtney, Scott should stop partying so hard.
On the other hand, you’ve chosen to stay with him for years and to continue to have children with him. No one forced you to conceive baby #2 and #3, even though you are terrified that he won’t stop partying.
By staying with Scott you’ve been an enabler to his behavior.
Further, by cooping him up in a house in the middle of the ‘ boring’ Hamptons, you’re virtually challenging him to run away to find some ‘action’.
Scott is out of any element he enjoys. And he’s also not far from Eastport, Long Island, where his recently deceased parents lived.
More than once he talks about how being ‘out East’ makes him feel depressed because he’s so close to the home that his parents lived in. And his beloved mom, Bonnie Disick, and dad, Jeffrey Disick, both passed away in the last year.
That combo of feeling cooped up and also being close by to the site of so many sad memories, is a lethal mix for him. It’s not surprising that he would “misbehave.”
It appears Kourtney and Scott, that your relationship is toxic. You don’t understand each other’s needs, or don’t want to understand them. You argue about the same issues over and over but don’t resolve any of them.
You two really need to get serious about relationship counseling. You owe it to yourselves and you owe it to your children, who shouldn’t have to grow up in such a negative parental environment. Their mother shouldn’t “hate” their father and want to live without him forever. It’s not good for them.
If after counseling you can’t compromise or resolve any of your issues and if you don’t ‘like’ each other any better, then you need to find a way to separate amicably.
Toxic together is not better than being apart. Do you agree HollywoodLifers? Let me know.
— Bonnie Fuller
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