Chris, no one expected you to get anywhere near the Ray Rice issue, with your own history of domestic abuse with Rihanna. That’s why it was courageous of you to talk openly about your experience and give Ray advice.
Chris Brown, 25, you didn’t have to say a word about NFL Ravens running back Ray Rice, 27, who has been cut from his team and suspended from playing indefinitely, after brutally beating up his now-wife, Janay Rice, 26.
Chris Brown Speaking On Ray Rice: He Was Brave To Address Domestic Violence
You are starting the promotion of your much-anticipated X album, and you gave an interview on video with MTV News’ Sway Calloway on Sept. 11. But when Sway asked you your thoughts on the Ray Rice scandal, as someone who has been through a similar experience, you did not shy away from his questions.
Instead, you courageously opened up about your own history, and about how you have worked hard to overcome your own anger management issues in your quest to become a better person.
“I think it’s all about choices you make,” you said. “With me, I deal with a lot of anger issues from my past — not knowing how to express myself verbally and at the same time, not knowing how to cope with my emotions and deal with them and understand what they are.”
Chris, you really didn’t need to open up. In the past, you’ve been highly uncomfortable discussing your serious assault on then-girlfriend Rihanna, 26, on Feb. 8, 2009.
In fact, when you were once asked about Rihanna by Robin Roberts, 53, on Good Morning America, you refused to answer the question and then allegedly broke a window in your dressing room before marching out onto Times Square without a shirt.
But that was several years ago, before you spent a whole lot more time in anger management classes and private counseling, and then did two stints in rehab for substance abuse, followed by four months in jail. That was also before you reconciled with Rihanna, first as a friend and then as lovers again.
All of those experiences over the past few years have clearly led to some healthy self-realizations, as well as a good deal of maturity. It was actually stunning — in a good way — to hear you respond with candor and humility to Sway’s questions.
“So I think help is great,” you told Sway. “I still talk to my therapist twice a week, and it helps me to … if I’m frustrated and I’m dealing with something … to vent and say what I’m going through so I can hear from an actual clinical person, ‘This is how you should react,’ or ‘It’s good to feel this way.’ Because feelings, emotions and energy are supposed to come and go. It’s not supposed to stay there. You’re not supposed to keep it inside, because it’ll bottle up and you’ll become a monster.”
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Chris, it’s wonderful on multiple levels to hear you express these thoughts.
First of all, you’re publicly sharing that you are in continuing therapy for your anger management issues, and that your therapy has been effective in helping you to curb your anger impulse. This isn’t something that you’ve ever been forthcoming about. Your new openness shows your growing maturity.
“For me, dealing with my anger issues and understanding myself and the life I’ve been through, where I’m headed and where I want to be, has helped me focus on what’s really important and not f**k up,” you confided.
Now, here’s what was also terrific. You really directed advice in a thoughtful, non-judgmental way to Ray Rice — something that he definitely needs right now.
“For anybody who’s going through that situation or anybody who’s dealing with it — it’s all about the choices. Every situation is different but it’s all about the choices you make and how you control your anger,” you told Sway.
“To Ray, or anybody else — because I’m not better than the next man — I can just say, I’ve been down that road. I deal with situations and I’ve made my mistakes too, but it’s all about how you push forward and how you control yourself,” you advised.
Chris, good for you for speaking out thoughtfully about your mistakes — without making any excuses — and for being willing to offer a path to someone who is rightfully a pariah right now, but who could turn his life around.
You’ve worked hard for many years to change, and you are still on probation for your Rihanna assault. At Hollywoodlife.com, we’ve been told by many sources over the years how sorry you are for what you did and how you’ve been striving to become a better person.
You understand far better than most people in this world that Ray Rice can turn his life around and never abuse his wife or anyone else again. But Ray must be committed to getting the therapy necessary to change his behavior, just like you have.
In any case, I applaud you, Chris, for not being afraid to join the Ray Rice discussion in a completely positive way, to reach out a helping hand to others, and also to continue your treatment for as long as necessary.
HollywoodLifers, do you think Chris is brave to speak out? Let me know.
— Bonnie Fuller
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