Andi — you may have found love and happiness with Josh Murray, but you couldn’t you have found it in your heart to be way more sensitive to Nick, on the ‘After The Final Rose ‘ special. He’s STILL madly in love with you!
Andi Dorfman, 27, you wanted your bachelor contestants to be serious about love when they signed up for The Bachelorette, but when runner-up Nick Viall got too serious, you kicked him when he was down.
‘Bachelorette’: Andi Dorfman, You Were Too Harsh To Nick Viall
It’s fabulous that you found your love match with Josh Murray, 29, who is now your fiancé, But Andi, is the sparkle of your Neil Lane engagement ring blinding you to how much you hurt your second-choice man, 33-year-old Nick Viall? Nick was so devastated by your bombshell dumping during the sBachelorette’s final episode that he couldn’t just drive away quietly in his limo.
Yes, it would have been convenient if Nick could just have packed up his broken heart along with his suitcase, after you told him that, “I can’t go through. It’s not right.”
But as you know, Andi, The Bachelor is a show, but it’s also real life. It sets up a journey to find true love for you, but also for your many suitors. You wanted your handsome group of bachelors to be as focused on finding love as you were, so it’s really not fair that you wanted Nick to move on instantly. After all, you not only delivered your devastating news, but then turned around and got a magical marriage proposal from the real man of your dreams, Josh.
Nick just couldn’t understand how you were such a terrific actress. “I don’t know how you could look at me the way you did,” he told you after you broke up with him.
Well, Andi, I guess in your role as The Bachelorette you do have to act to create drama for the show. You couldn’t exactly have just jumped into Josh Murray’s arms the moment you met him, even though you told him at the proposal, “I loved you from the moment I saw you!” That would have ended the show pretty fast.
Nick Calls Out Andi On ‘After The Final Rose’
Nevertheless, did you really have to get as intimate as you did with Nick? Nick totally called you out on this during After The Final Rose. “The hardest part for me is knowing that I loved you. Why did you make love with me…?” Nick wanted to know.
Yes Andi, you were shocked and you hit back hard. “First of all, that’s below the belt, that’s supposed to be private,” you told him, and then you insisted that you were actually very considerate of Nick’s feelings. You pointed out that you spared him even worse hurt and humiliation by going to his bungalow early on the day of the final rose ceremony, and preventing him from picking out a ring and actually going to the final ceremony.
Yes, Andi, that would have been worse. Imagine poor Nick standing there, next to Josh, thinking that you were going to pick him. The guy might have collapsed on the spot, when you dissed and dismissed him and chose Josh instead. So Andi, there are definitely degrees of hurt and insensitivity and you definitely didn’t go for all out torturous drama.
But you must have known that Nick was seriously smitten and would be devastated and that’s why you derailed the final ceremony. Still, your #2 choice made a good point, when he asked about your making love session. Did you really have to go along with the show THAT MUCH when you were so in love with another man? Josh may well have asked you the same question.
That’s why you shouldn’t have been so harsh with Nick during After The Final Rose. If you didn’t truly want that drama, then you should have met with him privately when he visited twice before the show. But you didn’t — probably because the Nick confrontation would be better for ratings, and you understood your job, was to create a great Bachelorette series.
Nick & Andi: HL Readers Divided Over Andi’s Decision
But now, you can’t be upset by the almost 50% of HollywoodLife.com readers who think Nick was right to slam you for sleeping with him. Here’s some of what you had to say:
Precious: “She definitely played Nick and led him on. And after all the lovey dovey moments they had on the show she couldn’t take time out to talk to him privately. If you knew from the start that you loved one man, why sleep with another. I think it was pretty obvious she was gonna go for the former athlete with a brother in the NFL. I personally don’t think they’ll last.”
Brian: “Now I understand why Nick was so upset. Why would Andi sleep with him knowing that she loved Josh? It doesn’t make any sense to me. She knew that she loved Josh, she wasn’t being honest with Nick until the day of the proposal, that honesty should have come much sooner.”
Wendi: “it’s not wrong since he did try to reach out in private. Also, when emotions are involved it is hard to control what to say and what not. It was live tv”
Amanda: “I was so amazed by andi throughout the show….she was the most interesting bachelorette to watch…until the finale….her treatment of Nick was disgusting…..she said she knew from the moment she saw Josh that she loved him….that means she led Nick on almost the entire show…and why sleep with him?…Nick had every right to call her on it..she wouldnt agree to talking about it in private…hey and why not….she couldnt face Nick……and how does her new fiance feel about this…he couldnt care less…he now has fame and will have fortune as a result of being chosen…after all he didnt even have a job….a very phony guy… Nick a serious, sensitive , thoughtful man…a rare find…she blew it….guys like josh are a dime a dozen….it wont last….”
Well, we wish you well, Andi and Josh. But Andi, you also still owe Nick a more honest answer once you’re all out of the spotlight.
HollywoodLifers, do you agree that Andi was too harsh to Nick? Let me know.
— Bonnie Fuller