Selena Gomez — you can’t allow your heartache over Justin Bieber to stop you from eating and sleeping. No man, not even Justin, is worth you hurting your physical and emotional health. Put him behind you and don’t look back!
Selena Gomez: Your Justin Bieber Relationship Is Over — Forget Him Forever
Justin has already taken far too big of an emotional toll on you, Selena, and now HollywoodLife.com has learned exclusively that you are so upset about his heart-twisting antics that you’ve been having trouble eating and sleeping.
Justin’s very public flings with Kylie Jenner, Victoria’s Secret model Adriana Lima and model Yovanna Ventura have all felt like slaps in the face to you, a source close to you revealed to HollywoodLife.com EXCLUSIVELY.
“Selena is staying strong, but she’s hurting bad,” our source explains. “She’s got a huge hole in her heart because of Justin. She’s been having trouble sleeping and eating. She’s trying to stay as busy as possible, because when she’s not busy, it’s the worst — all she thinks about is Justin.”
Selena, I know you’ve been trying hard for months to wean yourself off your addiction to Justin, even going to rehab in January to seek help for your obsession.
But you’ve just got to tell yourself, and mean it, that you are truly finished with the toxic romance this time and that there’s no going back — no matter how much he may try to win you over again at some point.
No man who so publicly goes out of his way to hurt you is worthy of your attention! If Justin had any truly healthy, loving feelings for you, he would never be posting Instagram photos of himself with your former friend and his one-time fling, Kylie Jenner.
He wouldn’t be flirting over Instagram with Yovanna Ventura, posting a photo of her in the very same Dolce & Gabbana dress that you own, with the caption: “I see you in that Dolce dress. Glad u had fun :).”
No, even if he was having fun with lots of other girls while you’re apart, he wouldn’t be flaunting it in your face if he really cared. He’s doing this deliberately to hurt you.
Selena Gomez — Throw Yourself Into Work To Distract Yourself From Justin Bieber Heartache
Selena Gomez — do you really want to be with a guy who can be that cruel? Your answer should be no. And on one level, you’ve been doing lots of the right things. You took a trip to Nepal to find “mental peace” and get away from all the press coverage on your relationship with Justin.
You’ve been attending a Bible study group, hoping to find solace in religion. You also just went on a date with One Direction’s Niall Horan, to see Katy Perry’s “Prismatic” concert in London on May 27.
You and Niall already had fun on a date in February, but that relationship never developed because you ended up reuniting with Justin a couple of weeks later.
So Selena, these are all good moves, but you must keep at them and NOT give up. Plus, you need to get back to work. Working hard is an amazing distraction AND it can also be healing!
“Being with friends and getting back to work are really good — she’s very talented,” agrees relationship expert Dr. Cooper Lawrence, of The Big Show with Scott & Todd. “With regards to finding inner peace in Nepal, what matters the most is that she takes part of that ‘inner peace’ back home with her … clearly she’s not in a strong enough place to be in a relationship. So focusing on work is really good.”
Selena, you have a fantastic career that you’ve worked tremendously hard to build and you should be proud of everything you’ve accomplished. You need to get serious about your acting, singing and dancing again. If it helps, you can think of it this way: Being successful is the ultimate revenge on negative people in your life — especially Justin.
“Selena should immerse herself in her work now. I don’t agree that she should jump right into dating now because she’d only be trying to one-up Justin with her boy choices,” believes Dr. Gilda Carle, celebrity relationship expert and 30-Second Therapist for the Today show. “Instead, she should heal from that toxicity by removing herself from the social scene for as long as it takes for her to feel stronger as an independent woman.”
Dr. Gilda also recommends that you write your thoughts and feelings down in a journal so you can return to your earlier writings in a few months and see how much you’ve improved.
And of course, you need to find a good therapist to talk to, who can help you to understand why you’ve had such a difficult time letting go of Justin.
You need to understand that you’re in a cycle of negativity with Justin that is torture for you emotionally. And then you can also work with your therapist on building your self-esteem, because once you feel better about yourself, you’ll see how much you deserve to have a better love in your life than Justin’s!
Selena, you are a lovely, smart and talented young woman who should be treasured by a boyfriend. Your family and best friend, Taylor Swift, have been trying to convince you for a long time that Justin is unhealthy for you.
Now you must decide to accept that, too, and commit to absolutely forgetting about him for good, forever!
Do you agree, HollywoodLifers — should Selena never, ever, ever get back together with Justin? Let me know!
— Bonnie Fuller
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