OK, guys — you have stayed silent so far about Solange’s disturbing attack on Jay Z on May 5, but whether any of you ever address the issue publicly, you must address it privately. As a family, you can’t experience this type of violent episode again.
Beyonce, Solange & Jay Z’s Violent Episode — You All Need Family Counseling
Physically fighting is NEVER the solution to any problem, no matter how angry or frustrated you are. Hitting and kicking your brother-in-law in front of your sister is an incredibly upsetting and unhealthy thing to do, even if you think you’re somehow defending your sister.
While the world does not truly know that triggered your outburst or if anything like this has ever happened before, it really doesn’t matter. What does matter is that this kind of physical fighting needs to be off the table in any disagreement, including a family blow-up.
Listen, people yell at each other when they’re upset. That is normal. But punching and kicking are an entirely different issue, no matter what.
That’s why, Solange, you need to get counseling to learn how to manage your anger. And you, Beyonce and Jay Z all need to sit down together with a family therapist and talk this out.
“Solange definitely needs to address her rage, because at any time, she could become so out of control that she might do real damage,” agrees psychologist Dr. Gilda Carle, the “30-Second Therapist” for the Today show. “Of course, family counseling would be great.”
“Clearly, getting into a physical family fight is no way to handle emotional disagreements,” agrees psychotherapist Dr. Robi Ludwig. “Solange needs to ask herself why she allowed herself to get triggered in this way and find other ways to communicate her displeasure.”
Solange Knowles, Beyonce & Jay Z Need To Resolve ‘Long-Term Issues’
Got that, Solange? So, even if you feel that you were standing up for Beyonce and defending her — kicking and punching is not the way to do it.
Aside from addressing your own temper, you, Jay Z and Beyonce must work through your issues. Beyonce has been married to Jay Z for six years and hopefully she will stay married to him for a long time. And Solange — you’ll be Beyonce’s sister for the rest of your life.
That means you must get professional help, or at the very least, make time ASAP to talk this out!
“They need to resolve their long-term issues through many ‘long talks,'” says psychologist Dr. Jeff Gardere, assistant professor at the Touro College of Osteopathic Medicine. “Perhaps another family member can mediate their issues. But most importantly, they need to set ground rules for appropriate behavior, especially Solange’s.”
Solange, Beyonce and Jay Z — ignore this advice at your own peril. Vicious physical fighting leaves emotional scars and damages your relationships, even if there are no physical injuries. And being the high-profile public figures that you are, a violent outburst like this one can create massive problems for your “brands.”
As image expert David E. Johnson points out, “Their images will suffer if they don’t address the issue and show that they are seeking help for Solange’s anger.”
The three of you need to understand that this now-public episode will not go away and neither will your private problems, if you don’t work hard on resolving them!
Do you agree, HollywoodLifers? Let me know.
— Bonnie Fuller
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