On the April 8 episode of ‘Teen Mom 2,’ Leah was finally able to convince her husband Jeremy to join her in couples counseling. Leah had suggested the idea a few episodes earlier, but Jeremy was not interested — until now. This is a major stepping stone for the couple whose marriage has been on the rocks for quite some time now.
Leah Messer, 21, and Jeremy Calvert, 25, have finally decided to work on their broken marriage together. Here’s why I think their decision to go into counseling will not only heal their broken bond, but ultimately save their marriage in the long run.
Leah & Jeremy — Couples Counseling Will Work
Leah, watching you struggle through the fifth season of Teen Mom 2 has been heartbreaking.
After your daughter Ali was diagnosed with muscular dystrophy, you made the decision to sell your home with Jeremy so that you could properly accommodate Ali’s wheelchair needs. While the girls’ father Corey Simms lived in denial of Ali’s diagnosis, you had to remain strong — not just for him, but the whole family.
Then, Jeremy started traveling further and further away for work. I completely understood why this upset you so much. While it was necessary for Jeremy to work and support the family, who wants to be married to someone who is never around? Being married is sharing everything — but there’s nothing to share if you’re alone all the time.
When you suggested that Jeremy join you in couples therapy, his reaction was natural. What man wants to be told what to do, how to do it, and why? As far as Jeremy was concerned, he was providing for his family — that was his main focus. But while Jeremy was focusing on providing for the family, you got left in the rearview mirror. Literally.
I was so happy to see on the April 8 episode that Jeremy was finally agreeing to join you in couples counseling. After he admitted how much it hurt him to be away for long periods of time, come back, and find that he missed his daughter crawling for the first time, it was clear that he finally felt what you felt. Hopefully when your couples counseling started, you were both able to express exactly what those feelings were — loneliness, neglect, and obvious estrangement.
Leah, even after throwing a temper tantrum before Jeremy left, you remained a strong and diligent wife and mother. Because of this, you were able to save your marriage with Jeremy. That’s amazing!
Leah & Jeremy Are In It For The Long Run
Even I have to admit, as I continued to watch weekly I couldn’t help but wonder when you and Jeremy would announce your divorce.
Things got really hairy there for a while, and I was so concerned that one of you would throw in the towel. You had already been through so much as a family, Leah, and it was clear that your strength was starting to falter.
However, when Jeremy agreed to go to couples counseling, I knew that you were both in this for the long run. Jeremy kept throwing around the word divorce so casually, and each time it hurt you more and more. But I don’t think he ever really meant it, I think that was his defense mechanism to get you off of his back about going away for work.
Thankfully, after being so far away for so long, Jeremy realized what he was missing. Not only did he not have your smiling, supportive presence in his life every day, but he was missing milestone moments for his first and only child. By agreeing to go to couples counseling, Jeremy shows that he is ready to open up to you about his own struggles. Sometimes we get so caught up in our own emotional trauma, we don’t realize that other people around us are hurting, too. Jeremy has already admitted that being far away was not easy for him, and that is a huge step on his part.
Even though you are both young, you are still adults. Leah, you showed your maturity by suggesting couples counseling, because most young adults would just throw in the towel and find someone new.
As far as your relationship with Corey goes, Jeremy should not be worried about it. You and Corey will always be bonded, not just because you were once in a relationship, but because you will be co-parenting your daughters for the rest of your lives. Though Corey may occasionally admit to missing his family, you have full custody of the girls, so it makes sense that he wishes they were around more often.
Leah, you have really stood your ground and fought through all the tough parts of your relationship solely for Jeremy’s love. Now, he’s fighting for you, too. Hopefully, you will meet in the middle during counseling, and be able to move forward together.
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— Lauren Cox