Juan Pablo: You Were Right Not To Propose On ‘The Bachelor’

Wed, March 12, 2014 7:24pm EDT by 18 Comments

Juan Pablo, we may not agree with your ungentlemanly behavior toward Clare Crawley, BUT you made the right decision when you decided not to  propose to Nikki Ferrell. Marriage should be forever, so you need to be 100 per cent sure!

Bachelor fans, you may be hating on Juan Pablo Galavis for refusing to give in to what producers and viewers wanted — a proposal on the show’s finale or After the Final Rose special. That’s because many Bachelor viewers want their ultimate romantic fantasy to come true on the show — a couple to fall deeply, madly and truly in love!

Juan Pablo Didn’t Propose To Nikki Ferrell On ‘The Bachelor’ — Why He Was Right

That’s what happened last season when Sean Lowe and contestant Catherine Giudici made a cosmic connection, and they are now happily married.

But let’s be honest — Sean Lowe was the exception to the Bachelor rule. Eight Bachelors have NOT proposed. Sean just raised the bar on expectations.

Juan Pablo, on the other hand, may not have been the best Bachelor ever — but he certainly was the most honest. He said he wasn’t ready to say the words, “Will you marry me?” or “I love you,” to Nikki Ferrell, The best he could offer her was to say that he liked her, “a lot..

His reasons made perfect sense: He didn’t have time in the six weeks of filming The Bachelor to get to know Nikki enough; he has a four-year-old daughter, Camila, to think about; and finally, he didn’t want to disrespect Nikki by doing something he wasn’t 100 percent sure about. He had promised her father that. Think about it in non-tv terms – Juan Pablo actually makes huge sense. Marriage is a very serious commitment and should be made for a lifetime.

Proposing to a woman simply for drama or for ratings is cynical and dishonorable and, ultimately, hurtful. We need to respect that.

However, Juan Pablo did make the commitment to get to know Nikki better, and the video montage that he posted on YouTube proved that he followed through with that. The four-minute clip lovingly details the time that the couple has spent together over the past four months since filming the show has ended.

Juan Pablo Has Already Told Nikki Ferrell ‘I Love You’ In Their Private Life

Juan Pablo has actually written a song, “Adventures In Loving You,” for Nikki — talk about a beautiful, romantic gesture! But it also shows that the pair have been learning about each other and they like what they’ve discovered.

Plus, HollywoodLife.com has discovered that Juan Pablo actually has uttered those three all-important words, “I love you,” to Nikki in their private life.

I’m not going to get involved in the politics of why the Bachelor refused to reveal his love on the After the Final Rose special, but that’s really unimportant in “real life.”

In “real life,” Juan Pablo did what was right for himself, for his daughter, and for Nikki by refusing to be railroaded into a proposal and possible marriage that wasn’t based on mutual love, understanding, common interests and values.

That’s what “real” proposals and marriages are based on — not a TV show!

Do you agree, HollywoodLifers? Did Juan Pablo do the right thing? Let me know.

– Bonnie Fuller

More ‘The Bachelor':

  1. Nikki Ferrell Speaks Out: Why I’m Fine With Not Getting A Proposal
  2. Juan Pablo ‘Disappointed’ By Clare’s ‘Childish’ Reaction To Elimination
  3. Juan Pablo’s ‘After The Final Rose’ Surprise: He Backed Out Of His Proposal

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Lisa

Posted at 4:42 AM on March 15, 2014  

Why did Juan Pablo Galavis sign up to the TV-show, if he clearly was not into the agenda?
Was it in the end of the show he noticed that he was in a TV-show???????
He should had searched for a girlfriend without using Bachelor.

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kate

Posted at 2:59 AM on March 15, 2014  

So happy to see that someone with some sense and perspective is weighing in. If he didn’t know whom he was going to choose on that day, how could he, in good conscience and respect to Nikki, ask her to marry him that same day. Let alone the bullying from Chris Harrison on the After the Final Rose show. So what that he didn’t follow their script. Life isn’t TV.

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sue

Posted at 9:16 AM on March 14, 2014  

You could look at it from a very narrow expectation as a man. it doesnt mean all the harshmess was because hes not able to propose. Mainly because he got no substance as an adult in intimate relationship and like so many cases, Nikki rationalized it. Whats tricky is to read the mans ability to step up in a chalenging situation, through instinct, his history and his managing own fear and pressure. Sean was successful because of these. The attitude towards others (Chris H, ABC, his own mother) is what made him the worst ever bachelor.

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liz

Posted at 6:47 PM on March 13, 2014  

You are 100% correct. This was prob the most realistic ending ever! He barely knew her and was willing to give her a chance off camera, what is so awful about that?

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Sandra

Posted at 11:08 AM on March 13, 2014  

In real life noone gets engaged after a few weeks. He did what his heart told him to do. None of those girts were right for him. He’ll keep Nikki for a bit longer and then she’ll be out of the picture also. Everyone should let him be and live his life.

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Suzette

Posted at 10:26 AM on March 13, 2014  

He did her a favor that’s for sure. What we are all thinking is it’s really sad to see how little her self worth is. You can tell that he’s been a big disappointment to her. She’s so young and trying so hard to make it work while he coasts along and enjoys the ride. she is worth more and deserves better we all do.

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John Jacob

Posted at 10:24 AM on March 13, 2014  

Per cent? Wow, Bonnie Fuller. Your grammar is impressive.

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Posted at 10:15 AM on March 13, 2014  

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LABH

Posted at 10:05 AM on March 13, 2014  

If Juan Pablo Galavis was an honest person he would not mislead someone who is in love.
As well as spice up his dishonesty by building up air-castles, about having children with someone he does not even have any intensions of having a serious relationship with. His bad manners and character does not give any sympathy of him refusing to declare any love.

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oneoff

Posted at 9:56 AM on March 13, 2014  

So glad he tried staying real through all the behind-the-scenes brain-washing nonsense. I’m not a fan of ABC. I’m liking this guy more and more (though he could use a filter sometimes). I hope if he ever does propose, he puts a lot of thought into it and makes it super memorable. More important I hope he gets to the point where he loves her more than she loves him.

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Michele

Posted at 9:55 AM on March 13, 2014  

Well said!! Thanks for having the guts to go against ABC and tell it like it is!!!

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Natalia

Posted at 9:48 AM on March 13, 2014  

100%

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Posted at 9:00 AM on March 13, 2014  

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L. Lagevin

Posted at 2:21 AM on March 13, 2014  

A little late, but…..totally right not to propose just to please Chris Harris ect…for show ratings to me it shows maturity as a father and respect to Nikki and her family, above ratings for a show, should he have said I love Nikki, for sure, just because Chris Harrison pushed it! Excuse me………WHO!
got divorced this year?……..Yes thats right Mr.Chirs Harrison himself, did he not say I love you!!!!!!
To his now X wife…..I was appalled at his Entertainment tonight exclusive, the next day………..he is single now! Who’s he eyeing, the oh so innocent Andy? Please….give me a break………and yes Clair did go to his room at 4:00 in the morning or whatever, NOBODY! None of the other girl’s did that! None!!!!! Should we feel sorry for her really!!!!! I think not!…….
Jaun Paublo & Nikki will figure out if it is meant to be, not just for them, but for Camilla also………
Grow up people, get real!

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Mister Baja

Posted at 12:13 AM on March 13, 2014  

television make you do alot of weird things.

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Poppy

Posted at 11:19 PM on March 12, 2014  

Thank you for posting what should be the obvious. The media are so busy making Juan Pablo into some villain for the ratings instead of respecting the importance of marital choices. The Batchelor is simply a dating game for show intended to pick up ratings based on weekly drama and heartache. Those who do find love longevity and marriage are blessed but how well can one get to know another under the oressures and conditions of that show? JP did use the worst word possibe when answering a question he should have ignored completely but it was a mistake. I’ve made a few of those have you?

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Mike

Posted at 8:43 PM on March 12, 2014  

Don’t hitch your wagon to the loser tool JP. He will never be on American TV again. Ever.

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