Jelena fans, you need to accept that Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez are officially over, and that’s actually the best thing for both of them. Here’s why.
Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez — you’ve made the right decision to finally take a clean break after an almost three-year relationship. For two years, you were hot, heavy and happy. But you were both very young and you were huge Hollywood stars under huge pressures that eventually tore you apart.
Justin Bieber & Selena Gomez: Your Relationship Beat The Odds
It’s amazing that at the ages of 17 and 19, when you fell in love, that you were able to make your romance work for as long as it did. Almost all young love has an expiration date. When you’re in your teens and early 20s, you’re growing and changing at an incredible rate. It’s a miracle when any couple that meets young, grows in the same direction.
But few young lovebirds grapple with the intense pressures that you both contended with — enormous careers, difficult travel schedules, millions of fans and intense media attention.
Justin & Selena: Young Love Is Hard For Any Couple
And we haven’t even mentioned the usual pressure points that every young person contends with — i.e. parents, friends and academic issues. With all of these forces playing big parts in your lives and affecting your relationship , it’s a wonder that your relationship was blissful for two years.
Justin & Selena: Temptation Is Everywhere In A Relationship
It was inevitable that at some point the exposure that you , Justin, would have to other beautiful and interested young women would prove irresistible . And even if you didn’t actually cheat, it was enough to make Selena insecure and jealous.
And Selena, it’s completely understandable that seeing your boyfriend apparently flirting with Victoria’s Secret models, 3,000 miles away, would make you furious. Unfortunately, the last six to nine months of your on- and off- relationship took an emotional toll on both of you as you fought, broke up, missed each other and got back together.
But now you have both separated emotionally, which has extracted a huge amount of drama, jealousy and negative energy from your lives.
Justin Bieber & Selena Gomez: You Were Hurting Each Other
“It’s best that Justin and Selena stay away from each other now, since trying to be friends, when one or the other wanted more at various times, wasn’t working,” agrees celebrity psychiatrist, Dr. Carole Lieberman, author of
Bad Girls: Why Men Love Them & How Good Girls Can Learn Their Secrets (www.badgirlsbook.com). “When one of them was flirting or dating someone new, it only hurt the other one more.”
“Being friends with someone who you’ve been emotionally involved with and intimate with is very hard, if not impossible, to do,” points out psychologist, Dr. Robi Ludwig.
“It’s VERY good for both of them not to be in each other’s lives, at least for now,”adds relationship expert, Cooper Lawrence, author of The Cult Of Celebrity. “Neither of them gave themselves a chance to get over the relationship properly before, which is why they kept bouncing back and forth, in and out of each other’s lives.”
Now Justin and Selena, you have finally given yourselves the chance to get over each other, and it appears to be working.
“Now you two can access where you fit into each other’s lives, if at all,” says advice columnist, Diana Falzone.
Listen, in time, you two MAYBE able to become real friends again, after the hurt is no longer raw. Or one day, you both may realize that what you had was very special and you may decide you’re ready to truly commit, believes Dr. Lieberman.
Do you agree, HollywoodLifers? Let me know!