What an emotional interview. On a ‘Dr. Phil’ show exclusive, Gia Allemand’s mother and former ‘Bachelor’ beau and friend Jake Pavelka, 35, talk to Dr. Phil about Gia’s heartbreaking suicide and why her mother thinks that she took her own life.
When beautiful Gia Allemand, 29, committed suicide on Aug. 14, fans were shocked that the seemingly happy actress and model would take her own life. She wasn’t able to be revived after two days on life support after reportedly being found on the stairs with a vacuum cleaner cord around her neck and her mother on the phone with her the whole time. Donna Micheletti, her mother, is finally speaking out about her tragic loss that was spurred by depression fights with boyfriend and NBA player Ryan Anderson, 25.
Gia Allemand’s Mother: ‘I’m Really Mad That She Did This For No Reason’
The mother of the tragic beauty spoke to Dr. Phil in front of an empty audience, still feeling overwhelming grief. Donna started with saying that The Bachelor fame was positive for her. “The Bachelor was the best thing for her — she fell in love with herself because of it and was…confident.” Because of that, she gave her whole heart in relationships and would get hurt very easily.
“She would look for fault in people to push them away, and was fearful of abandonment. She would go to dark spots during ‘that time of the month.’ She believed exactly what she thought and apologized for no reason.”
Dr. Phil likened this to Donna walking a tightrope, with having to be there for her daughter but having to ration with her, as well.
She took abuse from her father as well. He belittled her and said “lose my number.” “This was the beginning of her end. She felt abandoned. It ate her up. She looked for fights with her boyfriend because of insecurities. I tried to take her to therapy, but I couldn’t force her to do it.”
With Ryan, Donna said that “she’d think that he didn’t love her and he did.” Before The Bachelor she had a hard breakup, where she took pills but didn’t threaten with suicide.
On the day of the tragic phone call, Donna knew she was struggling that day. She was talking about moving back to New York, but it was positive. Engagement was on the horizon with Ryan, and she booked her mom tickets to visit her the next day in New Orleans because she wanted to see her, but in hindsight, Donna said Gia knew what she was doing.
“She said she was so tired of being hurt. And then I realized she was saying goodbye. I was saying to her, ‘Sunshine, princess, we can make it together.’ She did it while I was talking to her.” Dr. Phil then asked her why she committed suicide with her mother on the phone.
“I’m the closest person in the world to her and she didn’t want to be alone when she left this world. So she wanted Mommy to be there, I guess. I have no regrets. That sounds bad, but we had our last conversation, and thats all she wanted. I heard her last breath,” she said, with tears in her eyes. “I didn’t know what it was until after the fact. I stayed on for 10 minutes. I didn’t want to hang up. I tried other phones to call Ryan. But [the line with Gia] got disconnected.”
When did she know the conversation took its tragically dark turn?
“She did it when I couldn’t understand her anymore. Then it was dead silence. I said ‘Wake up!’ I texted Ryan. I thought she was mumbling. I couldn’t wrap my head around it until I got there the next day and she was in the hospital. She was hooked up to life support. She looked beautiful. I couldn’t believe she could still look that good. I was hoping [for recovery] but I knew she was gone. I’m the closest person in the world to her and she didn’t want to be alone when she left this world. So she wanted Mommy to be there, I guess.”
Dr. Phil asked if Donna was mad at her.
“I’m really mad that she did this for no reason,” she said. “In 12 hours it would have been fine. I’m really angry. I could have spoken to her and the fear would have been gone. She had a fear of being rejected. She wanted to make sure Ryan couldn’t hurt her first. It destroys me but if it made her feel better, then that’s fine,” she said. “I don’t mind dealing with this.”
She said she will read the suicide note Gia left her when the police give it to her, and has her jewelry. Donna and Ryan talk every day and want to make a foundation, which is in the works, to help other girls. She said she has also felt Gia’s presence in dreams and goosebumps since then the premeditated goodbye call.
Phil asked what Donna would say to mothers who are out there with troubled daughters. “Talk to your mom and your best friend. Let people in. You say you don’t have anyone, but you are just pushing others away,” said Donna.
Jake Pavelka: ‘Gia Really Understood Me’
Jake Pavelka and Gia met on the set of The Bachelor in 2010 and spoke to Dr. Phil about his special relationship with her.
“Gia really understood me. We got really close after the show. We had such a special relationship. I can’t tell you how lucky I feel that I knew her, but I wish it was not for such a short time, because I’ve never met anybody like her,” Jake said tearfully. “I’ve never lost anyone close to me. I miss her so much.”
Jake also has consideration for Gia’s boyfriend. “I exercise respect for Ryan. I wasn’t in love with Gia, but I love Gia.”
He said, “I can’t tell Donna how much I appreciate her taking me in with open arms at the viewing.” Jake also put a box of mints into Gia’s casket that she had brought him from St. Lucia that he carried everywhere with him, and she didn’t know he had even kept them.
How very sad — our thoughts continue to go out to Gia’s family and friends during this difficult time.
What do YOU think, HollywoodLifers? Do you agree with the way that Gia’s mom has handled the situation?
— Ivy Jacobson
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