Watch out Justin Bieber! If you still have high hopes of winning back Selena’s heart, then you better listen to the key things she wants in her next man.
Selena Gomez – you may still be hung up on Justin Bieber but that hasn’t stopped you from thinking seriously about your must-have list for your next boyfriend. And you know what, you’re one smart woman who has learned to value herself!
Selena Gomez, You Know What You Want
“My girls are my everything, we aren’t afraid to be confident in who we are. If a gentleman can’t handle that, that’s not my problem,” you told Canada’s E-Talk on CTV.
In other words, you and your close friends all know yourselves well. You like yourselves and appreciate your strengths. And Selena, you have a lot of them — smarts, generosity, kindness, professionalism, beauty and style.
Selena, at 21, you have come to appreciate yourself, just as you should, and you only want to be with a guy who loves your spirit and appreciates your great value and doesn’t want to change you.
Now I’m not saying that Justin didn’t appreciate how special you are — he did. That’s why he’s continued to want to see you and be close to you even though he’s given in to his 19-year-old guy hormones.
Justin Still Loves You, Selena
The lifestyle he has — traveling constantly on his world tour — means he just can’t resist the temptation of all the hordes of young women throwing themselves at him constantly.
Despite his inability to be 100% loyal to you, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you — he does. That’s why he flew cross-country to be there for you at your birthday party.
Nevertheless, you’ve done the right thing, by ending your commitment to him. That’s because you were loyal to the guy you love. And you needed to insulate yourself from being hurt by Justin’s dalliances.
Selena, you’ve learned so much from your relationship with Justin.
You Deserve Someone Who Loves You For You
But I’m sure the best lesson, is that you will never accept any new boyfriend that doesn’t fully value you.
That’s why the other critical attribute that you need in your next boyfriend, you’ve revealed, is his ability to see through your celebrity status and love the real you.
“I’m very picky,” you told The News recently discussing the subject of what key quality you’d like in a potential boyfriend. “The hardest part [is] just trying to find someone that will just love the core person and not anything else around it.”
I hear what you’re saying, Selena. You need a guy who would love you even if you weren’t a star — a guy who can see through all the outward glamour of your life: the concerts, the TV appearances, the gorgeous gowns and glamorous hair and makeup, the throngs of adoring fans and the entre you have into Hollywood’s A-list world.
You Deserve Real Love
You need a guy who could care less about all that — who instead sees how hard you work, the effort that goes into creative conceptualizing for your albums and shows, the rehearsing and rehearsing, the time and love that you give back to your fans, the devotion that you give your family and especially your new baby sister, the time and affection you give your friends, and the deep values that you live your life by.
If your celebrity stardom crashed tomorrow, this boyfriend could care less because he would still love you for you.
Selena, you’re very wise to understand that your next boyfriend must love your core just as you will love his.
The world of celebrity is fragile, but you are not. And the fact that you clearly see how important it is to have a boyfriend who loves the true you, shows your strength.
Justin Needs To Step Up If He Wants You Back
Got that Justin Bieber?
Because Justin,if you want to be Selena’s boyfriend again, appreciate her confidence, love her core, and fully commit — or some other bright, and caring guy will!
Do you agree HollywoodLifers? Is Selena right on in what she needs in a new boyfriend? Do you need those things too? Let me know!