‘Bachelorette’ Desiree Hartsock: I Didn’t ‘Settle’ For Chris Over Brooks

Wed, August 7, 2013 9:58am EST by 16 Comments
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Lily

Posted at 12:25 PM on August 28, 2013  

Desiree said it herself that she couldn’t “love them as much”, referring to Drew and Chris in comparison to her love for Brooks. She said it was over for her and she just wanted to go home after Brooks broke up with her. Does she think we are all just as oblivious as Chris? We are not! I think it was disrespectful of her to accept Chris’s proposal right then and there. Why not say let’s date for a while and see where it goes? That would make more sense. Accepting the proposal does show she is too desperate to get married. They’re both under 30. What’s the rush? Sure, she’ll get over Brooks, but does that mean she really truly loves Chris with all of her heart and soul? I’m sure she liked him enough, but getting married is a big deal, and in the short amount of time they have on this show, it is just not enough to get to know somebody really well.

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Danna

Posted at 12:55 PM on August 10, 2013  

I think Desiree was attracted to Brooks because that was what she was used to. He was not open, withheld his feelings and behaved just the way she described her old boyfriend behaving. Something always seemed off with him though Desiree obviously thought he was very good looking. Chris is everything she said she was looking for. That can be scary for someone that is not used to being treated well. Fortunately Brooks bailed and Desiree was able to see the gift that had been waiting for her. I hope both she and Chris are very happy and stick together through the ups and downs that happen in a long term relationship. My biggest advice is always go on dates together and make sure you have quality time once the kids arrive, so your relationship comes first and you bring that strength to your children. The best to you!

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Lilly dog (@Lillyyoga58)

Posted at 3:20 PM on August 10, 2013  

Danna, you are one smart cookie. !!!

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Jonathan

Posted at 9:53 AM on March 4, 2014  

Exactly what I thought Danna. She was trying to understand her ex and that cycle with Brooks. Was attracted to Brooks as she still had unresolved issues with the ex and he reminded her if him. A kinda second chance to try and work it out. I’d stay away from her. Obviously still has issues with ex and herself. She needs to do some soul searching and figure out why she is attracted to guys that lack communication skills. As soon as the guys told her they loved her she wasn’t interested in them anymore and grew deeper in love with Brooks. Maybe she doesn’t feel she is worthy of a happy, drama free relationship or maybe she just loves self pity. Either way she has major issues to work through before she gets married,

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Di

Posted at 8:38 AM on August 9, 2013  

My grandparents knew each other a month and then were married the rest of their lives. Nobody out there is perfect, and marriage is work. That being said, I think they may be one of the luckier bach couples–If they are less interesting than others, perhaps tabloids will leave them alone more, and they may have more of a chance in the real world. I think there should be no secrets and eventually that he should watch the whole show, hurt a little bit, work it out, and then move on.

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LittleMo

Posted at 10:38 PM on August 7, 2013  

The 2 parts of the finale took place over no more than 4 or 5 days . So Des tells Brooks she loves him and he was the she was going to pick, that it doesn’t matter if she tells him that now. Chris Harrison, along with everyone else, has been seeing it was Brooks weeks ago and last month Chris even asks her if it was over and she said yes without saying the words – I’m sure ABC had a stay in how much she gave away.

Out of those Drew was the first day/non-date, Brooks was the 2nd date. That left 2 days. Chris came along on the 3rd day and met her family on the 4th day. The rose ceremony was on day #5. So from the fime on day #2 when Des loved Brooks so much, just wanted to go home, said it was over for her, etc. and the end she decided Brooks was just clarity and it was Chris she loved all along? And she actually thinks the rest of us are stupid enough to believe it? This, my friends, is lesson #1 in how to settle and lesson #1 in how to lie through your teeth when you are called out on it.

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lee

Posted at 5:45 PM on August 13, 2013  

Totally agree with you LittleMo. It is not us who is stupid because we are able to see through Des – she is a flake, DULL and DUMB! She is not the best catch either!

How can Des profess her love for Brooks whom she wanted all along, then when Brooks dumps her (because he has no feelings for her), she then turns around and tells us she “didnt’ settle for Chris over Brooks,” and with 2 men left to chose from, she declares “Chris is everything she said she was looking for.” BS!

How can someone who profess to be so IN LOVE with a guy but then that guy DUMPS her, and then she turns around to tell this other guy waiting in the sidelines that he “is everything she was looking for”? I don’t think Des knows what she is doing! Shows a sign of DESPERATION and IMMATURITY.

I believe Des wants to “save face” after being dumped by Brooks and is DESPERATE to be engaged on the final airing of the show that she has to LIE to Chris (when in truth her heart is with someone else) and accepted his proposal.

I have a lot more respect for Brooks than I have for Des. Brooks is HONEST and is man enough to tell Des he has no feelings for her afterall those times (short time) they shared together. I’m sure Chris and Des will find in the end they are not meant for each other. I predict their relationship will not last and they will not end up getting married.

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Lisa

Posted at 4:42 PM on August 7, 2013  

Des just made a fool of herself by crying a river over Brooks on national TV and accepting a proposal. She’s desperate and scared she’ll end up alone so of course she has to pick Chris, the second best. What a joke! Also, she gave Drew a rose and the next morning dumped him? She was clearly pining for Brooks and took it on poor Drew. I used to like this lady but seeing her “breakdown” and ending, she lost my respect. No self-respecting woman would accept a proposal that fast. And her body language during their interview after the final rose upon seeing Brooks make her look cheap. Her treatment with Brooks and Drew in their interview is soooooo different. Clearly, she’s not over Brooks. What a waste of our time. I’ll never watch again this stupid show.

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Lee

Posted at 4:40 PM on January 30, 2014  

Totally agree with you Lisa.

From the very start, you can tell Des is flaky, trying to be “cutesy” and trying hard to please Sean. In addition, watching her on the Bachelorette show (I can only watch the first 15 minutes of the first 2 episodes, yes only two episodes and I was done with her show), it’s easy to say that Des is “shallow.” She has no depth in her, could not engage in an “intelligent” conversation and all she does is smile, kiss the guy and try to be cute. I think that is one of the reasons San eliminated her.

And what is so humiliating for all the world to see is the fact that on her stint on The Bachelor, she had to BEG Sean not to let her go; told Sean (while she kept crying) when he was escorting her to the limo that he was making a mistake – after being ELIMINATED! Des showed no self-esteem and no dignity at all! The headline the next day was: “Final 4 elimination, one BADLY BEGGED SEAN . . .” So why would any woman (or man) beg for love? Isn’t love freely given and freely accepted? The fact that she went to a fashion school in Los Angeles (Hollywood) and lived there, wouldn’t you think that she would have met a fabulous guy to marry? Or was there something about her that men don’t really find attractive (brain?).

Chris was not Des’ choice on the Bachelorette – she was head over heels on Brooks. And even some bachelors on her show started “bailing” out in the middle of the shoot as they find her shallow, trying too hard and being “cutesy,” not exactly the wife they are looking for (may be as a girlfriend, yes, but not as a wife).

If Des was smart, she would not have accepted Chris’ proposal since her heart is with someone else. But as her own brother said: Des is DESPERATE to get married so she accepted Chris’ proposal.” In addition, I believe Des would not want to be humiliated (again) as what happened on the Bachelor with Sean Lowe.

I’m not sure Chris is mature enough to understand that Des is not really in love with her, i.e., that the only reason Des accepted his proposal was she did not want to be humiliated (again) in front of the whole world by going home at the end of her show without accepting a proposal from a man even if she (he) is not in love with him (her)! Give them a little time together and he will find out.

Even if these two marry, they will divorce [for their relationship doesn't have a solid foundation of love].

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kim

Posted at 2:34 PM on August 7, 2013  

She just wanted to get engaged and any of the three who showed the most interest she was gonna pick. She looks desperate and Chris is a fool. The whole time she was on dates with Chris she was wishing she was with Brooks. Yep she’s a real winner Chris, good luck!

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Jitterplug

Posted at 11:45 AM on August 7, 2013  

BS!
Of course she’s not going to admit it now! And perhaps never.
But there is NO WAY to profess your love for one man and then a couple of days later to get engaged to another. That is NOT reality.

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Jan

Posted at 1:28 PM on August 7, 2013  

ITA. No one cries that hard over a man and then a week later propose to forget him for another man. she settled because she knew Chris loved her and she wanted to get married but deep down, Chris could be asking the same question if he was second best. I don’t see them together for long.

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Danielle

Posted at 8:29 PM on August 7, 2013  

You guys….this is TV…heavily edited for rastings!

Haven’t you ever been torn between two desires before? Be honest! It’s perfectly human to feel more “desire” for the guy/gal who ISN’T showering you with attention, over the one who does.

That’s your ‘id’ in over-drive…and we all are prey. I don’t think she really ever ‘loved’ Brooks. She may have ‘loved’ the idea if him wanting her, though. Again, that’s her/our ‘id’ doing the thinking. When Brooks was man enough to be honest, it DID get that id out of the way, so she COULD focus on the ‘ego’, and get back to reality to analyze how she was REALLY feeling.

How could one NOT choose either Drew or Chris when it comes down to the wire? Drew seems amazing…but Chris is the one for Des, and vice versa.

I see this love-relationship just growing deeper in time. Mark my words…thirty years from now, Des and Chris will still be together! She’s no dummy…and Chris is no rebound. Forty years from now…they’ll be golf partners….probably, both, still gorgeous!

 
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